March 20th is the seventh International Happiness Day. We should think carefully and study how to realize a person's sustainable lifelong happiness through education.
Positive education should be an important breakthrough. Positive education is positive human nature education. This is not complicated or novel. It's just that we neglected the education of human nature in the past and emphasized more on the education of "skills, methods and means". Some people learn a lot of knowledge and skills, but forget the most important skill-being a charming good person.
The proposal of active education has an important historical background, that is, what kind of ability should we master in the coming era of artificial intelligence? We think it is necessary to cultivate the irreplaceable ability of computers. So far, we have found that there are at least eight abilities that computers cannot do.
1. Empathy We have empathy, and we can know other people's feelings, feelings, feelings. Positive education especially advocates cultivating children's empathy, understanding others, caring for others and achieving others.
2. moral heart. The moral heart of human beings is to do to others what you don't want them to do to you. Human babies can distinguish good from evil in six months, and at the age of one, they have the impulse to punish evil and promote good, which shows that morality is innate.
3. Aesthetic ability. We look at the ebb and flow of the tide, the flowers bloom and fall, the clouds roll and the clouds are smooth, which makes us feel beautiful, but the computer can't. Therefore, cultivating children's aesthetic ability is a very important part of positive psychological education.
4. Communication skills. Humans also have the ability to tell stories. We communicate, communicate, express and transmit information, resources and feelings. We like communication and people who can communicate.
5. Sense of meaning. We know why we do these things. Many times, doing something has other meanings besides superficial meaning. Eating is not simply to satisfy our appetite, we need happiness and interpersonal relationships, so for us, the happiness of eating is not what to eat, but who to eat with and where to eat. This is the sense of meaning.
6. The ability to be happy. Knowing what you are doing can produce some particularly pleasant feelings, feelings and feelings. Sunshine on your face, drizzle on your palm, and walking barefoot on the beach will make you feel happy. This is happiness.
7. summon strength. Humans can call many people to do one thing and make others respect, admire, love and follow. The charm of this personality is calling and infecting.
8. Imagination People can imagine things that are not on the earth and things that have never been done before.
This is an irreplaceable ability of artificial intelligence. The study of positive psychology found that young people, healthy people and happy people actually prefer to imagine the future; The old, the weak, the sick and the disabled dwell on the past.
How should positive education be implemented?
The first is emotional intelligence education. In fact, EQ education should be carried out from primary and secondary schools to universities. What does EQ education teach? On the one hand, it teaches students how to discover, cultivate and manage positive emotions. All positive psychology studies have proved that most creative work can only be completed when individuals are in a happy and positive state.
How to start EQ education? Starting from empathy, we can understand other people's moods, identify various expressions, and let our children know other people's moods, and know that positive emotions include not only happiness, but also satisfaction, calmness, calmness, pride and pride. American students have been receiving EQ education since the third grade of primary school. They need to learn how to express, control, understand and deal with emotions, and even smile.
The second is happiness education. American psychologist MihalyCsikszentmihalyi believes that happiness is a whole-hearted happy experience, which is called "blessing flow". It has five characteristics, the first is to sink into it; The second is that I forgot things, and I don't know when and where I am at this time; The third is familiarity, and the sense of control is particularly good; The fourth is to touch people's hearts and feel the accurate feedback of activities; The fifth is hearty and enjoyable. This experience can be learned, and this experience can be created.
Third, altruistic education, that is, teaching students how to love, help and serve others. Liang Shuming, a famous scholar, put forward in the book "People's Heart and Life":
"It seems that the more you sacrifice for others, the happier you feel, the brighter and the more persistent you are."
We now believe that seeking happiness is actually a selfless performance. Neurophysiological investigation shows that pure altruism can be achieved, and positive psychology and education can spread positive knowledge to the public.
The fourth is optimistic character education. We have no reason to doubt that the future is not good. The future is likely to be better than we thought. Considering that our generation is so bright, rich and confident in the 2 1 century, the future of China is bright, and positive personality cultivation is very important.
The fifth is virtue education and values education. Values are definitely not utopian values, but values based on human heart, human feelings, human nature and human desires. Seligman and Peterson, American positive psychologists, conducted a survey in more than 50 countries around the world, and found that both China people and Americans like people who are kind, caring and have high emotional intelligence.
We like to appreciate others. We also like people who are studious and creative, tolerant, modest and self-controlled, responsible and capable of leadership. Therefore, we must link core values with psychology and life, otherwise psychology will only become an intellectual speculative game.
The sixth is the education of social relations construction. Social relations education emphasizes the importance of contact with society. In 2005, Time magazine published a comprehensive report and found that positive and healthy social relations of human beings are the most important guarantee for our health and longevity, and also the guarantee for our career success.
Seventh, pedagogy students cultivate healthy living habits, such as breathing fresh air, participating in healthy sports, listening to music, singing, appreciating beauty and art, loving nature, and so on.
The purpose of happy education is to make children develop psychologically in an all-round way. What is needed in the future is not people who can take exams, but new talents with spirituality, understanding, sensibility and anxiety.
Source: Xinhuanet