Beating and cursing is an unsuccessful example of cultural education of love. There are many examples of educating children, and the meaning of education is quite different. Different education has different interpretations. What is shared below is an example of unsuccessful cultural education of love.
Beating or cursing is an unsuccessful example of the culture and education of love. 1 I have long wanted to write something about my personal experience, but I don't know where to start because of my procrastination and poor literary talent. I didn't go all out to write until I saw the theme activities of the parents' gang.
I wonder if it is possible to write about my father's culture and education. Everyone's cultural and educational manuscripts are negative and active, and my father's education is the latter theme. I hope everyone can learn from it after seeing it! When I type my notebook, the word "dad" means that he can be angry with me, my nephew and my mother at will, and he can hit me, my nephew and my mother at will!
When I was a child, I met a difficult question to ask my father when I was doing my homework. He will say the same teacher, the same study time, xxx (student name) will do it right away. Why not? Xxx's father didn't guide me either. How did others learn it? Say that finish and leave! After a long time, I really feel stupid!
I did well in the exam, because I have never heard praise and encouragement! You can only be scolded if you fail the exam! All the students in the second grade just started listening to pop songs, and my deskmate lent me a recording tape (hehehe, I accidentally exposed my age), and I took it back as soon as I heard it. My dad pointed it at my nose and took it away. He also scolded me for not studying hard and using professional knowledge to do such crooked ways all day long!
I replied that long-term study and training must also rest to release pressure, obviously got a beating! Once, my deskmate and I saw many story books at the art painting teacher's side and were deeply attracted!
The deskmate told her father that her father bought her a lot of comics and sent her to the comic class every Sunday! After deskmate, I went to an art school in Beijing, and now Beijing has opened its own art studio! I really envy you!
I'm not as lucky as my deskmate. Not only did I not get my father's application, but the book was also taken away! My grandmother gave me pocket money to buy story books, but when I went to read books, my father found out. Not only did he take the book, but I was also scolded for doing nothing and playing with things!
I refuted a few words, learning and training and painting are not contradictory, and it is not easy to influence each other. Nature is also good to beat!
At that time, I was really wronged, and almost everything I liked didn't get along! In this natural environment which was severely attacked, denied and resisted, I gradually became less and less confident! Dad always won't let me sign up for college outing theme activities! You will also be scolded if you accidentally drop the dishes. Dad often sends his bad temper home, not only scolding my brother and me, but also hurting my mother! I'm getting lonely and rebellious!
I envy my family and live in harmony with my children. Every time I see these happy hair clips holding my father's arm, I am extremely sad and envious! I have never seen my father's smile and I don't like his love. I think my father dislikes him more and more. Sometimes I hate him a little. I like to oppose him. When he is angry, I will be a little happy! That little love and encouragement and praise are luxuries for me!
In-laws say this is pure squeezing, which means wasting money and energy! Husband actually agrees with them! Children can eat by themselves, and parents-in-law still have to feed their children. Children chase children with bowls when they don't eat.
So I am often angry! In winter, my husband is determined not to let the children go out. I told someone that they had to come out to exercise. The more they don't go out, the more they will look like flowers in a greenhouse. They will say it will be better when they grow up. Talk to you later! Children water flowers at home, but they don't let them, pick vegetables, clean up, play in the community yard, run, play with sand, or ...!
Once I took my child to play trampoline, and the child said that my parents wouldn't let me look at their expected eyes, and it was not a taste in my heart. This kind of training only cultivates children who dare not try and have no guts! Communication with them also ended in failure!
Widowed education in our country is reflected in our family's account books. Now that the child is over 2 years old, the frequency of her husband holding the child is very small. He will go out for half a year, and when he is at home, he doesn't watch TV dramas or computers, just plays mobile phones. I talked to him several times, but he turned a blind eye. The public helped her say that he was not good at taking children to play and had no work experience. Wow, this is the first time to raise a child. Me too! Is it difficult to learn without work experience?
Husband, do it yourself! Children in children's residential areas have learned to beat their relatives and swear, and their families even encourage them! The child found that my father-in-law and I had systematic loopholes in culture and education, and he responded quickly to safeguard her dominance! Not only does he want to benefit from it, but cultural and educational inconsistencies will also make them at a loss.
He will feel insecure and don't know if he will do it! I must keep myself in front of my child and convince him that I understand what is good for him! At the family meeting, I stipulated the unification of cultural and educational suggestions, and the children learned to observe the face and observe the color, have it both ways, playing both sides and looking for evil forces.
Changing the rules for children because of different natural environment and different moods will lead to children being at a loss and grumpy! Give in to children, children will cry immediately every time they are asked, and the public will make unprincipled concessions as soon as they hear it! People blindly "yield" will make children mistakenly think that the best way to achieve their goals is to stress standards and be unreasonable. On the contrary, it will strengthen his resistance to personal behavior and be manipulated by him.
Therefore, children of this age should pay attention to countermeasures even if people give in! Well, there are a lot of things that I haven't written in a hurry. I still have a chance to revise them before writing! Children grow up with thorns and need diligence! Give oil! Thank you for the theme activities of the parents' gang, otherwise it will be postponed indefinitely! Little one will start school next week. I look forward to getting a small desk lamp as his new semester gift this time! Thank you very much
Beating is kissing and scolding is an example of unsuccessful cultural education of love. 2 (1) Beating and scolding education is a remnant of the traditional autocratic family system in China, which will cause serious physical and mental harm to teenagers. Beating and scolding education is also a deformed way of family education, which will not only make children grow up, but also lead to family tragedy.
(2) Beating and scolding children regardless of their needs and characteristics, blindly starting from themselves, not allowing children to have any mistakes or objections, so that children can't feel the love of their parents and children, making them feel uneasy and anxious, and their physical and mental development is adversely affected.
(3) Without due love and support, children often have psychological problems such as indifference, loneliness, hatred, aggression and poor self-confidence, and these psychological trauma will often become the root of bad behavior and even crime in the future.
(4) Beating and scolding children happens from time to time, resulting in lifelong regret. Some children can't bear to hang themselves, some run away from home, and some parents kill their children by mistake.
(5) On the surface, beating and cursing can temporarily help children overcome incorrect desires and control incorrect behaviors. But it can't solve the problem fundamentally, and it may also make children form the habit of lying and become disobedient, not doing it in front of their parents, but doing it behind their parents' backs. Children are naive and ignorant, can't tell good from evil, and their character is not strong. Parents should patiently and meticulously teach him to learn to distinguish and actively inspire and guide him.
(6) Beating and cursing will insult the child's personality, stifle the child's personality, make the child feel disgusted and rebellious, and easily make the child lose self-esteem and dependence on life, resigned and timid. When you grow up, you can't be independent, you have to rely on others for everything, and it is easy to form a character of "falling with the wind".
(7) Children are parents' incompetence and lack of self-cultivation, which may also cause children to despise their parents and reduce their prestige. Some children will treat other children and the next generation in the same way after deeply forming the concept of "I will hit you if you are wrong", and will become authoritative and violent parents in the future.
(8) The method of dealing with the consequences of children's behavior is not good. The purpose of parents is to help children overcome shortcomings, correct mistakes, help children distinguish right from wrong, and clarify the direction of their efforts. However, beating and cursing itself does not explain what kind of behavior is correct and should be, and it is often accompanied by children's negative emotions. Therefore, parents should educate their children reasonably, forcefully, effectively, moderately and timely.
(9) Beating and scolding education is a deformed way of family education, which should be avoided by modern families.