There is a general anxiety about children's education, and this problem is universal. Most of them are caused by high expectations or comparison psychology, which are two common aspects and do not explain too much. The rest is the specific problem of the child, which requires one person and one plan. I can only give an example. I'm not ideal, but I can't concentrate in class. Can't write, can't write well, and is in love.

The children you are talking about have a great age span. Can only make some guesses about the problem. Then there is the solution to the problem, how to start? This is the top priority for educators. Not to mention parents, we are also facing challenges as teachers. This is education. Especially as a class teacher, there are both successful experiences and lessons of failure-why? You can't start all over again.

First of all, all parents' hopes are pinned on their children. From the beginning of mother's pregnancy, she will be blessed and congratulated by her family and friends, and then she will be busy with joy.

However, educating children is a painful thing. In this competitive and stressful era, having an excellent child is the most important thing in the whole family life. Many parents have made great efforts, but their children can't realize their ideals and have too much anxiety. Reality has a lot to do with current social phenomena:

1, comparison psychology: This is also a common problem in China. People always pay attention to other people's children, how well they study, how many students there are in the class, and what cram schools other children have enrolled. Other children learn this and that, and then take it back to their own children, repeatedly hurting their self-esteem. Many children will also feel distressed. Why is there more and more homework, and why can't you satisfy adults no matter how hard you try?

2. Parents expect too much from their children: in fact, they don't want what their children want, but pin their unfulfilled goals on their children, hoping that their children can help them achieve it, but they don't consider their feelings. When their children don't meet the predetermined expectations, parents will lose confidence in their children, from hope to disappointment, to frustration and helplessness. In fact, as a parent, you can also think about some of your childhood ideas and understand your children.

3. Social pressure: At present, the competition is fierce and the life pressure is great. In addition to the fees paid by the school, there are many large and small cram schools, which is nothing for a rich family, but it will be a great pressure for an ordinary family. At the same time, parents also hope that their children will have a bright future and earn a lot of money, so that they will not work as hard as themselves.

4. The generation gap between children and parents: Parents are always used to educating their children with the experience of acquiring knowledge in the past, expecting them to succeed in the future world. Today, with the rapid development of society, this contradiction is more acute. This requires the care of parents on weekdays. At the same time, they also need to master scientific education methods, give scientific and effective guidance for children's different habits, and dispel the psychology of comparing. What other children like may not be suitable for their own children. Change your mind and get rid of the previous "centralized". Do more actions to appreciate children.

5, there is no clear goal: this is also no long-term planning, just telling children to study hard, which key high school and key university to test, and so on. But it is not clear whether this is what the children want to do. If you don't seriously discover your child's advantages, as long as you calm down and observe and try to discover, you can improve your child's enthusiasm for learning.

Generally, people with anxiety disorder are families with slightly better economic conditions or directly middle-class families.

In middle-class families, parents have gained some wealth through their own efforts. They very much hope that their children can receive the best quality education and pay a huge sum of money for it, hoping that their children will surpass themselves and have better development in the future.

Nowadays, social competition is extremely fierce, especially in big cities. Children have been competing since kindergarten. Going to school, junior high school and senior high school can be said that every step affects parents' hearts and nerves. They are afraid of falling behind step by step.

All kinds of online articles about education are deliberately creating anxiety. Can parents not be anxious when they read too much?

Anxiety is common in people and everything. In the process of educating children, the better the economy, the higher the anxiety of parents.

On the one hand, parents don't understand their children's psychological development, on the other hand, the current fierce social competition leads to great pressure on life.

Let's look at the first question. Children learn and grow in the process of continuous development. Parents can't understand some situations in the process of raising their children, such as throwing things at people or even not eating. These situations have different problems at different stages of children's growth. If parents usually learn to understand their children's psychological development, they will not be too entangled and afraid of what happens during their children's growth.

Second, the more developed the economy, the greater the social differences, and the higher the cost for parents to educate their children. If parents are neglected in their studies since childhood and their academic performance is poor, then when they start to educate their children, they should strictly control them and let them grow up according to their own ideas. Because they are afraid that their children are not as good as themselves and hope that their children will live well, they will be full of anxiety about the future when educating their children.

Therefore, the solution to parents' anxiety is to keep learning, grow up with children and learn to learn from them.

Thank you for inviting me.

The core of anxiety is the difference between goal and reality, which causes many external reactions in performance, behavior and psychology. Its external reaction is mainly manifested as irritability, irritability, fear and broken cans. Personally, parents' anxiety about their children's education can be avoided and alleviated by the following methods.

First, we should have a correct understanding of children's learning and growth.

Parents must realize that every child has differences and specialties, which are different in the process of learning and growing up. Some children learn fast, some children have strong hands-on ability, some children have strong thinking logic, and each child has his own advantages and disadvantages. In the process of educating their children, parents must recognize the advantages and disadvantages of their children, and their expectations of their children cannot be the same. Parents are advised not to always compare other people's children.

Second, we should have a correct understanding of children's expectations.

Parents' expectations of their children must be correctly understood. When we enroll our children in interest classes, we must have a correct understanding of the orientation of interest classes. Do we expect our children to engage in professional education or just cultivate them as interests? Children should have a wide range of hobbies, and at the same time have a special focus in one or two fields. It can not only cultivate the universality of children's hobbies, but also shape their specialties. In one or two areas, children must be changed from quantitative change to qualitative change. We should not only pay attention to their talents, but also tell them that we must work hard the day after tomorrow.

Third, rationally adjust the gap between the goal and reality.

In the process of children's learning, parents should reasonably adjust the gap between their expectations and their children's actual achievements. Different children have different degrees of acceptance of knowledge at different stages. Of course, we should not only accept the differences, but also find out the reasons for the differences and see if there is any opportunity to strengthen them and make children's grades better.

It is true that parents are generally anxious about their children's education because they are deeply aware of the importance of education.

Many parents know that knowledge changes their destiny and have experienced some hardships since childhood, so I hope that their children can study hard and get good development when they grow up.

There are too many factors affecting children's education now. In itself, online games are various and attract children's attention. Many children are addicted to games and relax their studies. This also caused panic among parents. Parents' reasonable guidance on this point is very important. Inadvertently, it has become a fuse between parents and children.

There is a big gap between urban and rural education. Nowadays, education aims at liberating children's nature. Textbooks are being streamlined, everything starts with children, and there is little homework, so. Children in rural areas can only learn a little and then spend a lot of time playing. Children in the city attend all kinds of cram schools. I will not only learn more than school, but also learn more. This is the difference in education. It is also the educational difference between rural and urban areas. Of course, many rural people go out to work, causing left-behind children to stay at home, and the quality of what they consciously learn will also be reduced.

In the same city, the competition pressure is great. Children must be raised from an early age, because the children around them are also attending various special classes. If you don't study, you will make others fall behind. This idea of keeping up with the joneses in education also makes more parents anxious and uneasy.

Parents will consider their children's education more comprehensively. At the same time, we should reasonably guide children to learn and let them fall in love with learning. ...

Thank you for your invitation. Now let's briefly analyze this problem.

With the development of society, more and more parents pay more and more attention to education, and they hope to give their children a good future through education. When there is a contrast between the child's present situation and parents' expectations, parents are prone to anxiety. The greater the contrast, the greater the anxiety.

What makes parents have such a big contrast? Let's talk about society, parents and children.

Let's talk about the social level first. Nowadays, with the rapid development of society and the rapid upgrading of information, the rapid flow of this information can not be separated from schools and education, which also shows that knowledge is the primary productive force. On the other hand, it is the requirement of the whole society for academic qualifications. The better the school, the higher the educational background and the wider the road to employment. Many parents know this very well. A large number of parents have been hit by academic qualifications, and they may be one of them. They have been working hard and struggling all their lives, and they may have gone 10 years to achieve their goals. A high degree may arrive in a year or two, so the idea of learning to change your destiny is deeply rooted in your parents' hearts. Parents may feel very sorry that they didn't study hard or didn't have such good conditions to study when they were young, so they want to give them all to their children. They hope that their children will not be as tired as themselves, and that they can take some shortcuts, have a better life and live more easily.

Let's talk about the parent level. As mentioned above, parents are more likely to let their children. From this perspective, as long as they can think of everything, it doesn't matter whether the facts at the moment are what parents think. It is important that parents think it is right to do so. No mistake, what parents want is "I don't want you (children) to think, I want me (parents) to think!" . You must be proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, play and sing sketches, and develop into a versatile person. No matter whether the child is willing or not, it's not appropriate. You just say so much.

Other parents adopt the shotgun method, just like holding a shotgun and firing two shots in each direction, always hitting one shot. With this mentality, let children learn everything, and there is always one thing that can blossom and bear fruit, so let children participate in various classes every day, learn everything, and have a lot of certificates. Finally, the child was exhausted and saw "other people's children?" Our children should be like other children, and we should do well what other children can do, even better than other children.

Finally, talk about the level of children. Children are children after all, and children have no parents' experience. Parents can't let their children have the same experience as themselves. Both physical growth and psychological growth need a process, which comes from time and the environment in which he lives. His life is mainly at school now, and his parents insist on talking about society with him. Can he understand? Can he understand deeply? Just like others say that something is particularly delicious, how can you feel the delicious taste without tasting it once? Maybe most people think it's delicious, but you don't know if it's delicious if you eat it yourself. Parents think about whether this is the case, and it is the same for children. Even if some people say this food is delicious, it is hard to swallow. How many parents can eat it and stick to it for a long time? He is still a child, why not? How can there be such a big contrast?

Needless to say, children who study every day, even parents who pick them up every day can't stand it. In this way, "I only spend money to make contributions, but I can't see my children's achievements." After a long time, my parents are also very confused and don't know what to do. Finally, my parents can only say, "I've trained you better and better every day, and I haven't studied hard." This money is wasted for you! " Blame the child, and then the child begins to be anxious, feeling that the burden in his heart is too great, he can't go on learning, and his grades plummet. Then parents were even more anxious, and increased their efforts to make up for it, and their grades did not improve. They started a new round of accusations. Look at your stupidity, look at how well your children learn, and look at you, not at all! Then the children got tired of learning, and the parents were even more anxious. Repeatedly, the children with poor psychological defense finally got depressed, and their parents were very worried. They began to say that it is ok to study or not, and health is the most important thing.

Look at these processes. I just put forward the main part of real life, plus all kinds of details and mixed information. It is strange that parents are not in a hurry. This stir has made the whole family anxious. So this is the main reason why parents are always anxious.

This phenomenon does exist.

First, class differentiation is taking shape, and the rising channel is getting narrower and narrower, so parents who want their children to change their destiny by hard work naturally have to seize this opportunity;

The second is the psychology of keeping up with the joneses, which is easy to understand. Imagine if you are a parent, watching the children of your colleagues or friends of the same age and playing chess, painting, calligraphy, Olympics, mathematics, composition and culture all day, I believe you can't sit still, because they may be competitors in the future.

Third, the large class size has not disappeared and the educational resources are not balanced. Teachers will give their parents some tasks to complete-such as checking and correcting homework. Parents can better understand the problems existing in their children through these, so they are more anxious.

Fourth, the effort may not be proportional to the gain. Nowadays, education is market-oriented, with tens of thousands of extra-long courses a year and thousands of courses for famous teachers a semester. It may be nothing to the rich, but even for the middle class, parents should feel hard at the cost of four or five remedial classes. Therefore, if children's learning effect is not good, parents will be more anxious and angry.

There are indeed many parents who are very anxious. Most parents have such expectations that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes. They all hope that their children will surpass themselves in the future and that their children will become their pride. Still hope that children can realize their parents' unfulfilled ideals. Rather than saying that children are the ideal sustenance of parents, children are living individuals.

Such parents often attach great importance to their children's academic performance, worry about anxiety when they are unhappy, and always hope that their children's academic performance is the best. There is only one word, that is, there is only one first. With so many parents and so many children, no one can be the first, and the first is not forever. Children's grades fluctuate, and parents' psychology will also fluctuate. So you will be anxious. Anxiety is because parents pay too much attention to their children's grades.

With the growth of children and the emergence of their self-awareness, some children began to rebel and refused to listen to their parents. Most parents want their children to be obedient. With rebellion, they began to be anxious. I will continue to sigh, how can the child be like this? How can children be disobedient? Primary school is so good, how can it be like this now? Many questions appear in parents' minds, and parents will be anxious at this time.

When children fail to meet their parents' expectations, such as not being admitted to a university, not being admitted to an ideal university, and not looking for a job according to their parents' wishes, parents will be anxious as long as children do not follow their parents' ideas every step of the way.

This is why most parents in China regard their children as their own expectations and place their hopes on their children's ideal future. On the road of children's growth, we do not consider the law of children's growth, pay attention to children's inner needs, and cultivate children's self-awareness. If there is something wrong with the child, the parents will shift the responsibility to the child. Can this be without anxiety?

Anxiety is a frequently used word. Students will feel anxious when they are not sure about the exam, and when they are faced with work anxiety, older people will feel anxious when they encounter marriage problems. Parents are worried about their children's education. China, what's the matter with you? I really hope that everyone can stop in a hurry and calm down and think about it.

Parents are generally anxious about their children's education. The reason is that society is developing so fast that we all feel that we can't keep up. Of course, children want shine on you to be better than Blue, and everyone wants to be better than themselves. In fact, everyone can cope with all challenges calmly, instead of being anxious and unable to start. For children's education, if there is no way to start, then let nature take its course and slowly discover the child's specialties before guiding.