Parents' ability to be children's "first teachers" is weak, and the family learning atmosphere is not strong. Some parents think that learning should be a teacher's business, ignoring the leading position of family education in the whole education, being not good at accumulating and learning, and "having a little knowledge" or "avoiding the importance" of children's problems, so that children can't feel the attraction and appeal of family education.

The concept of parenting education has not been fundamentally formed, and there is not enough "interaction" between parents and children. At present, family education generally attaches importance to children's intellectual development, ignoring the cultivation of personality, emotion and good habits; Too many restrictions and excessive protection on children lead to poor self-care ability and autonomy of many children; Because they are all only children, the children lack partners to communicate and play together; Some families raise or ask nannies to take care of their children every other generation, resulting in unfamiliar parent-child relationship.

School education and family education have not reached a fundamental agreement and are out of touch with each other. Nowadays, school education and family education are like two "parallel lines", which do not intersect with each other and do their own things, so that the theory, knowledge and truth that children learn in school can not be applied consistently and correctly in the family. The formation of this phenomenon mainly depends on parents' neglect of children's education.