Maria montessori, the author of The Secret of Childhood, is a world-famous baby expert, the first woman to study medicine, and the first female doctor of medicine in Italian history. Her original Montessori Early Childhood Education Law swept the whole western world and deeply influenced all countries in the world. She also reflected on the education of children by adults, pointing out that many problems of children stem from the wrong way adults treat children and their repression, and warned adults.

This book has 30 chapters and many good ideas. I will elaborate on several points that I deeply feel.

Should adults charge? Make radical changes among adults.

Adults will gradually become selfish and self-centered in the process of getting along with children. Even if they can convince themselves that it is out of love and self-sacrifice for their children, in fact, they are unconsciously suppressing their personality development.

2. The secret of child development

Children have a special inner vitality in the sensitive period, which can naturally absorb and learn in an amazing way. When children's sensitivity is disturbed and hindered by the outside world, they will feel depressed or angry. We should help children, not neglect their intellectual development. This kind of help lies not in shaping children, but in observing the external performance of children's psychological development and bringing support to children's spiritual growth.

3. Sleep disorder is an obstacle to children's growth.

Adults should strive to understand children's needs, bring suitable growth environment for children, and meet their internal needs. It's not good to treat children as lifeless individuals, control them at will when they are young and ask them to do whatever they want when they grow up. Adults must realize that adults can only play a secondary role in children's growth; Adults must know as much as possible about children, so as to give them proper help. Because children are much weaker than adults, adults must control themselves, learn to listen to children's voices, and regard children and listening to children's voices as sacred duties. Please treat children as human beings, not as accessories of adults. Children should be a complete individual, and their benefits to society and life should be equal to those of adults.

4. Children's education? Children's Home Three Principles.

Only by letting children live in an unconstrained environment, that is, an environment suitable for their age, can their psychological life develop naturally and reveal their inner secrets. Children's demand for activities is almost stronger than their demand for food. Education requires only one thing: self-learning through children's inner strength. Children deserve the love of adults, not the love left by their busy lives. Many things printed in children's minds are inadvertently branded by adults.

5. Children who deviate from the right track (fugue, resistance, attachment, possessiveness, dominance, inferiority, fear, lying)

When wandering souls can't find anything to dock with, they are easily attracted by images and symbols. Once children have this kind of psychological disorder, they will fidget and move around. These children look energetic and uncontrollable, but their activities have no purpose. They may just start doing one thing, but they will soon forget it and start doing something new. Because their thoughts are scattered on many different things, they can't concentrate on one object. Adults may punish or patiently tolerate children's sloppy and unruly behavior because of psychological barriers, but in fact, we approve and encourage children's fantasies and regard them as a manifestation of children's creativity.

6. Parents' mission

Parents are not the creators of children, but the guardians of children. Parents should really care for their children and take the protection of children as a lofty mission. For this mission, parents should wash away the dust that falls on the instinct of loving children endowed by nature and try to understand the essence of this love. Parents' love for their children should be the expression of deep feelings from the heart, and there can be no selfishness or slack. This is a serious social problem, which should be paid attention to by parents, who should also fight for their children's rights.

By reading the book "The Secret of Childhood", I was deeply impressed and seriously reflected on my many mistakes in educating children. In daily life, the power of adults is used to restrain children's spontaneous activities. Children are independent and special beings. They have the right to know about formal and informal education and the right to promote physical, psychological, spiritual, moral and intellectual development. To cope with children's growth, like Montessori, we should learn to observe, guide and wait, guide children's inner vitality with a "prepared" and suitable environment, and wait patiently for children to complete their inner psychological changes, instead of disturbing the process of breaking through the cocoon with our self-righteous "being good to children", which will cause serious consequences as we all know. Personality is in the educational environment of our country on this day. In order to "prevent children from losing at the starting line", children have to participate in various interest classes, cram schools, tutors and so on. Except for exams and homework. Can you bear it with care? We are a new generation of parents, and many of us have understood higher education. Let's reflect on how much our parents ordered us when we were growing up. How many are autonomous rights? Therefore, as parents, we should establish an environment suitable for children's age, let children's psychological life develop naturally, listen to their voices, take it as our responsibility to understand and listen to their children, and let them grow up healthily and happily!

Reflections on the secrets of childhood

There is a passage in "The Secret of Childhood" that says: "People know little about children's psychological trauma, but most of them are unconsciously branded by adults." Almost all these wounds are caused by our ignorance of children's psychology. We think we are good to our children. Of course, our starting point is good, but we used the wrong method. This has caused the opposite consequences, and there are too many examples of doing bad things with good intentions. In The Secrets of Childhood, Montessori either pointed out the fallacy of common sense or put forward some places that we never thought of, so this book is well worth reading by our educators and preschool educators.

There are too many good ideas in this book, so I'll just say a few fragments that make me feel deeply at the moment.

Sensitive period, which is an important point in Montessori's theoretical system, we know that the larvae of bees will go through a stage in which all female larvae may become queen bees. But this group only chooses one female larva as the queen bee. The worker bees prepared a special food called bee bread for her. After being fed this beautiful food, the selected female larva becomes the queen bee of this colony. If the worker bees choose her, she will be too old to be the queen bee. Because she no longer has a greedy appetite and her body can no longer develop into a queen bee. These examples can make us realize a key factor in children's development. There is a kind of energetic impulse in the child, which makes him make amazing moves. Not following these impulses means that they are weak and lifeless.

But when sensitive children's needs are not met, there will be an external performance, which adults call "losing their temper." However, is this really the unreasonable behavior of children? Of course not. It is precisely because we adults don't know the reasons behind our children's reaction that we give them the names of "daydreaming", "willfulness" and "losing temper". We regard any behavior without obvious motive, any stubborn or irrational behavior as willfulness. We have also noticed that some ways of losing your temper will get worse. Many wayward behaviors are just the abnormal results of people treating children wrongly and making them worse in the past. All kinds of delusions related to internal conflicts in the sensitive period are as fleeting as the sensitive period itself.

Therefore, we must look for the reasons behind children's waywardness, and these reasons are exactly what we don't know yet. Once these reasons are found, we can go deep into the mystery of children's hearts and bring a foundation for us to understand children and live in harmony with them.

In the eyes of adults, it is almost the law of adults to protect their property from infringement. So we often stop children from doing many things, and we always let them live at our pace for fear of breaking things. At the same time, for adults, there is a natural law, that is, the "maximum interest law", which induces them to achieve their goals in the shortest possible time by the most direct means. Therefore, when children want to pour a glass of water by themselves, they often can't do it themselves. Adults are afraid that children will knock over hot water and cups, so adults will do it quickly instead of children. They may scold children for dropping cups, but if a guest comes to his house and breaks the cups, adults will immediately say to the guests, "Nothing, nothing, a cup is not worth much." There, the status of children is obviously looked down upon and ignored, and it is also because I am young that people can have such a big difference.

Please treat children as human beings, not as accessories of adults. Children should be a complete individual, and their benefits to society and life should be equal to those of adults.

Montessori's book The Secret of Childhood made me realize my wrong attitude towards children. I think every sentence in the book is very philosophical and meaningful. However, on this day, in this society at the moment, children will not be neglected like Montessori at that time, but will be spoiled a little, but the way of love still does not apply to children. What kind of way can we really understand children and let them develop better is still a subject for us to think about.

The secret reading of childhood

"Love" is an eternal topic of human beings. We can always feel its existence, but it is difficult to define it. Because each of us has a different understanding of love, Montessori's understanding of love is that love is not the cause, but the result, and its driving force is instinct and the creativity of life. In the process of creation, he produced love, which is full of children's consciousness and affects children's self-realization.

When I read the chapter "Wisdom of Love", I was very moved. The examples of children and parents listed in the book are so familiar because it often happens between my daughter and me. For example, on Sunday, I wanted to have a good sleep, but I was awakened by the children early in the morning. Are you also disgusted? Let's listen to what Montessori said: in the morning, children enter their parents' rooms to wake them up, which is a very disgusting thing for parents. But if it weren't for love, what could make a little guy wake up and look for his parents? At dawn, the child went to his parents, as if to say, "It's already dawn! It's morning! " However, children go to their parents not to teach them, but to meet their loved ones. Seeing these words, is there a warm current surging in your heart? Montessori's subtle observation and psychological exploration of children are really admirable. It also makes people have to rethink some of their own inherent concepts. We really know children. Do you know what they are thinking? We really should change the protagonist to think in time, so as to better understand the children's world and the secrets of childhood.

In the Secret of Childhood, there is a passage that says: People still know little about the psychological trauma of children, but most of his scars are unconsciously branded by adults. ? Almost all these injuries are caused by our ignorance of children's psychology. We thought it was good for our children, but it actually backfired. There are too many examples of doing bad things with good intentions. The Secret of Childhood either points out the fallacy of common sense or puts forward some places that we have never thought of. For me, this book is a very subversive book.

In fact, we all know that there is a sensitive period, that is, children's language talent. At a certain stage of children, learning a language is amazing. All the people are their teachers, and they just listen silently until one day they say the first sentence. Adults know this best, and learning a foreign language is also a major event for me at the moment. Both listening and vocabulary require continuous efforts. But in addition, children still have many sensitive periods. One of the most important sensitive periods is the sensitivity to order. A very important and mysterious period is a period when children are extremely sensitive to order. This sensitivity appears in the first year after the child is born and lasts until the second year.

Montessori said that the existence of this sensitive period may be more clearly reflected in the obstacles that children encounter at this moment. In most cases, children lose their temper because this sensitive sense of order lies in recognizing the position of everything in their environment and remembering where everything should be placed. This means that a person can adapt to his own environment and dominate it in all details. The environment suitable for the soul is this: a person can walk around with his eyes closed, and he can get anything he wants as long as he reaches out. Such an environment is indispensable for peace and happiness. Obviously, children's love for order is different from that of adults. Order gives adults some external happiness. But it's completely different for children. It is like the earth where animals walk, or the water where fish swim.

Reflections on the secrets of childhood

The Secret of Childhood was published by the famous Italian Montessori on the occasion of the 5th Montessori Conference held in Oxford, England in July. 1936. This book is Montessori's exploration and answer to the "children's mystery", which embodies Montessori's view on children's education. After studying recently, I systematically read The Secret of Childhood. After reading this book, I benefited a lot, further improved my knowledge in children's education, systematically sorted out my messy thoughts on children's education, and further revised and improved my original knowledge structure and wrong knowledge construction. Next, I will sort out what I learned from reading The Secret of Childhood.

After reading the book "The Secret of Childhood", my induction mainly comes from four latitudes, namely, children's physical and psychological development; Children's educational principles and environment; Children's psychological differences. First: children's physical and mental development. From the viewpoint that things always change and develop, Montessori pointed out that childhood is the most important period in a person's life development. In the process of continuous growth, development and change, children's development includes both physical development and psychological development, which is the "materialization" process of children's individual physiology and psychology. Through the reading of this chapter and my daily practice in early childhood education, I firmly believe that the two most prominent characteristics of children's physical and psychological changes and development are the critical period of active development and multiple intelligence development. In traditional education, under the leading position of teachers, children are often in a passive development position. Even though some scholars emphasize that teachers are only in the dominant position, children are the main body, and they develop themselves by giving full play to their initiative and intention, in practice, the "dominant" role of teachers is actually transformed into teachers' control over all the processes of education, including textbooks, teaching methods and teaching means, and even when reading The Secret of Childhood, their knowledge system is directly copied to an "unchangeable" place. I agree with Montessori. I think children have an impulse and instinct to explore the outside world. This initiative gives children the vitality to develop with heart. Through the Lord, children.

Explore the earth's adaptation to an environment composed of various complex factors. So I think teachers at this stage should not artificially change or arrange the environment, but put children in any natural environment where they live. It is precisely because every environment is composed of different factors, and the environment composed of different factors will put forward necessary adaptation requirements for individuals in this environment, that is, each individual will develop corresponding adaptation potential for the corresponding environment. Of course, at this time, the teacher should be an external observer and mentor, mainly to continue and strengthen the children's adaptive motivation, help children with various difficulties, and ensure that children can form their own potential in this environment by virtue of their subjective initiative. This can maximize the development of children's various intelligences during the "critical period". Second: the principles and environment of early childhood education. Montessori believes that in order to promote children's psychological development, children's education should start from the birth of children, and children's education should follow the following two principles: First, repeated practice. Sensitive to external things is a critical period for children's development. In this way, if children can get activities that satisfy their inner needs (Montessori called it "work"), they can concentrate on practicing this behavior repeatedly until it reaches the age range, and even for some gifted children, this development will exceed several stages of development. The reason why we emphasize this point is to tell our preschool educators that children's curiosity will drive them to save things around them.

Interest in understanding things, so educators should not limit the scope of children's perception, but bring them into the environment as much as possible, so that children will get more interesting things. Children will bring more possible space for their future development through repeated practice of interesting things. Even if the individual potential composed of sensitivity is not particularly prominent in the future development, it is helpful to improve the comprehensive potential of children. In short, teachers should bring children an environment of repeated practice as much as possible. The second is free choice. Children will choose what they want to perceive according to their own interests and psychological needs. Therefore, as a preschool educator, we must remember that it is not good to restrict children's free choice. What needs to be done is to bring as many development environments as possible to children and satisfy their free choice. Third, the analysis of children's psychological disambiguation. In the process of children's development, if we encounter a hostile and incompatible environment, coupled with the blind guidance and suppression of adults, it will cause the children's psychological development to change. Montessori concluded that there are eight main manifestations of children's psychological divergence: mental wandering, psychological obstacles, attachment, possessiveness, power desire, inferiority complex, fear and lying. In children, these psychological differences do not exist in isolation, but are interrelated. Therefore, a child may have several psychological differences at the same time. As a functional obstacle, psychological disambiguation will make children's psychology in a state of disorder. Therefore, as a preschool educator, we must find these problems as soon as possible.

At the same time, we should use all kinds of targeted means and measures in time to solve the existing psychological problems in time and quickly. Of course, for these psychological differences, educators are required to apply different solutions because of the different complex forms. Therefore, educators are required to fully accumulate experience and means to solve various problems in practice, so as to enrich their theoretical knowledge and practical potential. Fourth: Overcome the conflict between adults and children. In the process of children's development, although adults have done everything they can for their children, and even adopted various means and methods for their growth, this does not mean that children will certainly develop well, just because adults only consider how children should develop and how to develop better from his perspective. In this way, adults let children develop with "their own bodies and other people's brains", instead of children using their own bodies and brains with the help of adults. Of course, parents don't expect their efforts to have side effects on their children's development, just because their unconscious behavior will affect their children's normal development under the control of their own development laws.

This is what I learned from reading The Secret of Childhood.

Reflections on the secrets of childhood

Read Maria, a famous Italian educator and reformer? Montessori's Secret of Childhood really taught me a lot. Personality is that we adults don't understand children. In the process of getting along with children, adults will gradually become selfish or self-centered, and will only look at everything related to children from their own perspective, which will only lead to more and more misunderstandings between them. The child knows nothing. Sometimes adults should look at problems from the perspective of children, appreciate children more and reflect on their own behavior more.

The book also mentions that no matter how much we love our children, we instinctively start to be wary of them from the moment they are born. Out of the instinctive desire to save money, we will quickly protect everything we have, even worthless garbage. From the birth of a child, the psychology of adults is dominated by such ideas. Keep the child under control and don't let him get into trouble. Keep an eye on him. In the eyes of adults, children are keen on trivial and useless things, which makes them feel unreasonable They think that children's free exploration behavior is naive and the process is slow, and they try to do everything for them. But for children, these explorations are gratifying and funny, and they get satisfaction from them. For example, children will ask themselves to unscrew the bottle cap, eat and wear shoes. They will be completely addicted to these simple but simple jobs that adults think, and they will explore, discover, be excited and happy in repeated attempts, but adults can't stand it anymore, and finally all the affairs will be done by their parents.

The pace of children's growth needs adults to wait. For example, take the children out for a walk, and when the children stop, the adults should stop and wait. However, in real life, we adults often urge our children to move forward because we don't want to wait. Sometimes, we humans or animals do a good job of respecting children. Just like an elephant, when it is tired, it will stop and wait. When I saw it, I thought of a story about walking with snails. This story is to let us know that we should respect the pace of children's growth.