Comments on the eighth open class of family education in Shu Ren 1
There are four kinds of life education: family education, school education, social education and religious education.
Family education is the foundation of the four kinds of education. If there is something wrong with the family education of a nation or a society, it will be like a tree without roots and flourishing outside, and it will not last long. Therefore, family education, from primary school to home, is the most important.
However, the current family education is very chaotic. Nowadays, parents and elders only know coquetry, do not teach ethics, and do not pay attention to morality. They know almost nothing about the theory, methods, experiences and examples of family education. In addition, with the development of TV, computer, mobile phone and network information, children have lost their innocent temperament in their early childhood. At this time, if parents do not give correct guidance, children will easily get into bad habits and their pure hearts will be defiled, such as white paper and ink. If you want to restore purity, your heart is not pure, and your studies are difficult. What you know and learn is mostly superficial, which makes sense and is difficult to enter. You can't experience the happiness of reading, understanding and wisdom. Over time, you will easily get tired of learning and dealing with things, leading to a waste of good time, treating people with things and academic virtue. What's the use of getting a diploma?
The problem of family education can't be explained clearly in one or two sentences. Limited to space, here are some important words of godson:
Five contents of educating children: guiding the mind, expanding the ambition, cultivating talents, inspiring righteousness and restraining mistakes.
Nine principles of educating children: courtesy, honesty, study hard, choose friends, refrain from talking too much, practice daily coping, know how to advance and retreat, cherish time, keep promises, and have correct opinions when things go wrong.
To educate children, the first thing is to change temperament.
If you are stingy, teach generosity;
If you are irritable, you should teach gentleness;
Vanity, simple teaching;
Good performance, to teach implicit;
To be frivolous, we must teach stability.
In real life, we should first get rid of children's arrogance and cultivate the virtue of modesty, so that they are gentle, courteous and frugal, and have no circuitous behavior. Children around the age of ten have not yet finalized their ideology and have a strong memory. When they hear a good word, they will never forget it. When they hear a bad word, they will always have evil thoughts. Therefore, in front of children, don't say inferior words, especially quit obscene language. Always tell stories and legends of ancient sages, such as stories and legends of people who studied hard in ancient times, biographies of women, records of loyalty and righteousness, and filial piety.
Finally, in view of the current confusion in family education, I would like to make three most important comments:
1. Never spoil. Countless families have proved with blood and tears how incompetent and fragile it is to spoil their grown-up children. When one day parents can't satisfy their children's desires, it is the beginning of this family's disaster and pain.
You must study hard, don't think that you just need to study. Old people have been studying for a long time, but children who study hard are often alert and discerning. If you form the habit of laziness from an early age, the disadvantages are endless. The so-called annoying word is nothing more than an arrogant word, and the failure of the family cannot be separated from a lazy word.
3. Be sure to read the books of sages and read the classics of sages. Three of the four ancient civilizations have perished, leaving only Chinese civilization, wisdom handed down for thousands of years, theories, methods, experiences and achievements of self-cultivation, family harmony and world peace.
Comments on the 8th Open Class of Lide Shu Ren Family Education (Ⅱ)
Many parents and teachers hope to find the most suitable learning materials and educational methods for them, cultivate their children's study and living habits, let them learn actively, grow up healthily and happily, and thus improve their comprehensive quality. However, children are children after all. A child is like a sapling. Without guidance and training, it is easy to stagger and become a useful person. Every child will always have some shortcomings in personality and behavior, and occasionally make some small mistakes, which will really have a certain negative impact on his study and life. In fact, there are many ways to educate children. You need to think carefully, choose appropriate methods, teaching materials and suggestions, or choose to watch home-school video programs that suit you, so as to be effective and effective. After reading the following analysis and recommended video materials, I believe you can get the answers you want from them.
Under the influence of many factors, such as the current social environment, examination-oriented education mode, and acceptance of western open education, our children are like living in a big dye vat, and they are easily infected with some bad habits, such as willfulness, rebellion, dishonesty, addiction to the Internet, fighting, weariness of learning, active class, inattention, inattention, etc., especially among middle school students in infancy and adolescence. The purpose of education is to correct children's wrong outlook on life, values and world outlook, as well as all kinds of wrong behaviors caused by these concepts. Although there are many ways to educate children, some people adopt the education method of tiger mother and wolf father, and even say "win at the starting line" A person's life is actually a marathon long-distance running process. Even if you win the starting line, how far you can run, how long you can persist, and who laughs last are still unknown, which is often counterproductive. Therefore, an example of what others call tiger mother education, whether successful or not, is not worthy of worship, imitation or even widespread promotion. If corporal punishment educates children to beat them, the consequences may be quite serious, and they will retaliate against their elderly parents and grandchildren in the future, so violent education is harmful! On the contrary, it is more important to cultivate children's healthy personality and optimistic spirit.
Here, I sincerely recommend all parents and children to watch the documentary "Sage Education Changing Destiny" (also known as Disciples' Admonishment), a large-scale public welfare forum on Chinese excellent traditional culture education, which was planned and supervised by Chen Dahui. This is a very favorable free network resource about moral education and family education, which can help children feel the true meaning of life in a happy and grateful atmosphere, improve their healthy growth, learn and progress, and understand why disasters and accidents happen, true or false! It can prescribe the right medicine for children's various problems and is a good treatment! "Sage education changes fate" (which can be played on Baidu video or Youku Tudou search). I hope everyone who has seen it can get tangible benefits from it and continue to benefit others. Let's work together to create a harmonious social environment.
Comments on the Home School of Lide Shu Ren's Eighth Open Class of Family Education 3
How to educate and train their children is a problem that every parent is eager to solve. Here I will briefly talk about my experience in educating your heart.
First, lead by example.
Mr. Tao Xingzhi, an educator, said, "Thousands of teachers teach people to seek truth, and thousands of students learn to be human." Parents, as children's first teachers, are the objects of children's worship and imitation, and the most important source of information that affects children's behavior habits. The biggest feature of family education is subtle influence. Parents' words and deeds in daily life often unconsciously affect their children. Parents' behavior habits, standards of right and wrong, attitudes towards others, moral concepts and many other aspects affect children all the time. Parents are children's mirrors. If you want your child to be what kind of person, parents should be like that first. Honest parents can cultivate honest children; Parents who swear can't cultivate civilized children; Selfish parents cannot raise selfless children. In order to cultivate children's good personality, parents themselves must match words with deeds and set an example for their children. Only in this way can they play a unique educational role for their healthy growth. At this point, I have a concrete experience. I used to say "get out", but I don't know when I learned it from your heart. If something is not good, I say get out, and some children in kindergarten will learn. When I saw something bad, I kept saying to your heart: Mom is wrong, let's change it together. It took a long time to get better. Some bad habits are easy for children to learn, difficult to change, and even affect their lives. We parents should pay special attention.
Second, cultivate children's good habits.
Nowadays, many parents measure whether their children are smart and studious by how many things they have learned, such as how many Tang poems they can recite and how many words they can recognize. I think this is wrong. In fact, for children of this age in our family, it is most important to develop good habits. We should get rid of some bad habits of children according to their characteristics. Our family is very active and it is not easy to concentrate. I will train him to be more attentive on weekdays. For example, I often take turns counting with you. I count 1, he counts 2, I count 3, he counts 4, you like to play. On toys, his father and I consciously bought him more building blocks. Your heart likes to play with building blocks, sometimes for more than an hour. These are very helpful to improve your concentration. I feel that your concentration has been greatly improved since you entered the middle class. In addition, a lot of content is incomprehensible to children around the age of four. Sometimes we can only force him to study mechanically. If children are not interested, it will have a bad influence on their future study. We should arrange some content according to our children's preferences. We like listening to stories and legends recently, so I choose some easy-to-understand stories and legends and read them to him antiseptic. After a while, I can teach him some simple words Let him retell stories and legends himself, or make some mistakes on purpose when he speaks, and your heart will take the initiative to point out the mistakes to me. At this time, we must first admit our mistakes in time and praise our children's carefulness. In this process, we actually exercised our children's various abilities. As a father or mother, what we must consider is how to give our children a happy childhood, which is not an easy task, because the power of lasting happiness is always stronger than instant happiness. Only by accumulating little by little happiness can children have a real positive impact in the process of growing up and laugh at life in the future.
Third, strengthen communication and be a good teacher and friend for children.
In the previous stage, when I found that your heart was eating snacks at home, he always stole them away when I was not looking. In the past, he always asked my permission before taking them away. I was angry at first, but it didn't work. I suddenly realized that your heart is growing day by day. He knew that if he asked his mother, maybe his mother would not let him eat, so he might as well not ask. After thinking about this, I said to your heart: you can eat if you want, but there are limits. You can't eat too much at a time, okay? You are very happy in your heart. When you want to eat in the future, ask me if I can measure it myself. From this incident, I feel that when children grow up, they lie or don't want to communicate with our parents. Therefore, it is necessary to satisfy the children in some harmless little things. If children feel that some of his reasonable demands can be met by us, they will believe that we are people they can trust and will be willing to communicate with us on many things over time.
Fourth, creative praise.
Now our parents realize the importance of appreciating success, but when you want to praise your children, you should not just say, "Great!" " ""well done! "Because everything our children do may be the first time for him, or it is very exciting for him. Your boring praise is definitely not enough for children. Let's have something fresh! For example, your child drew a big mangrove tree and showed it to you with great interest. At this time, you simply say, "How beautiful!" "This may not be enough. You can say to your child, "I like the way you draw big trees." Never has a tree looked so beautiful! " "In this way, children will be greatly encouraged. Such praise is obviously of practical significance to children, and children will think that you really like his works.
In addition, when your child makes progress in a certain aspect, you certainly need to praise him. When praising, it is best to clearly point out what you admire most about him!
Fifth, teach children to solve problems by themselves.
There is an old saying: "Only by tying your shoelaces can you walk steadily step by step." Mastering any skill can make children face the future and life better. Therefore, teaching children to solve their own problems can be said to be a skill to get happiness, because no one who can't solve their own problems will live happily. When children find that they can actually solve their own problems, they will feel very happy and satisfied! When your heart is blocked by something, for example, he is putting together a small puzzle, but he can't put it together. At this time, I usually follow the following steps to help him:
-Determine what the problem is, such as missing a small piece of puzzle.
-Ask him to describe what he wants to achieve, such as trying to put pictures together.
-Point out the solution to the problem, such as giving up looking for this piece and starting from another direction (obvious features such as sky and white clouds).
Judge whether he really needs my help. If so, help him, but I won't help him!
In a word, the above are just my personal views on educating children. If there is anything wrong, please criticize and correct me.
The following excerpt is shared with parents:
If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.
If a child lives in hostility, he learns to be aggressive.
If a child lives in fear, he learns to worry.
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident.
If a child lives in a popular environment, he learns to love others.
If a child lives in safety, he learns to trust the people around him.
If a child lives in friendship, he will feel what a wonderful world he lives in.
Comments on the Home School of Lide Shu Ren's Eighth Open Class of Family Education 4
Children are as small as a family and as big as the hope of a country and a nation. The direction and speed of their development determine the direction and speed of a social development. Children's growth and development are first guided by their parents, so "parents are children's first teachers", and parents become children's lifelong teachers, which plays a very important role in their growth.
When children reach school age and begin to contact school education, a new problem arises, that is, whether family education and school education can be organically combined. If the educational concepts of the two are unified, then the development of children is benign, otherwise there will be conflicts, which is not conducive to the healthy development of children. Then, how can we better combine family education with school education and make the development of students develop in a better direction? I think we should do the following three things:
Attach importance to improving parents' correct understanding of family education. Children's eyes are like cameras, taking pictures of their parents every day. Parents' moral cultivation, words and deeds will have a subtle influence on their children. For example, there is a girl in my class, and her family conditions are superior. Her parents often show off themselves in front of her and often show contempt for others. Therefore, in the interaction with her classmates, she often shows arrogance and self-esteem. In the process of communicating with her classmates, she always thinks that her point of view is right. When encountering different opinions, she always likes to say, "well, I won't tell you, let my mother call the teacher to solve it!" " After a long time, her classmates around her are disgusted with her. This is precisely because in family education, the way her parents treat people has had an impact on her, and her parents have become taller in front of her. Therefore, when she encounters a problem with others, she thinks of asking her parents for help instead of facing it herself. This kind of family education is not conducive to the development of her interpersonal relationship. Therefore, parents should correctly handle interpersonal relationships and give their children positive guidance.
Pay attention to improving parents' attention to family education. Educator makarenko once wrote in Family and Children's Education: "Love is a great emotion. It is always creating miracles, creating new people and creating the greatest and most precious things of mankind. " We often meet such parents, who often think that when they send their children to school, they leave everything to the teacher and just need to feed, dress and live their children well. As for education, that's the teacher's business. There is another boy in my class, whose parents have been doing business outside for a long time and have little care for him. He has a very bad temper because of the lack of care from his parents. He often quarrels with his classmates over trivial matters, such as where he sits in class. When other students need to wake him up by his side, he will be furious and even fight. The students are very dissatisfied with his behavior and don't want to associate with him. Therefore, parents must be aware of the importance of family education, and school education cannot replace family education. Then, in order to make the relationship between family education and school education complement each other, we must make the goals and concepts of family education and school education consistent, which will be conducive to the healthy development of students.
Correctly teach parents the methods of tutoring. There is also a girl in the class, who was adopted by her adoptive parents since she was a child, and her family's economic situation is not very good. When she was a freshman in high school, she learned that she was not born to adoptive parents, and felt that everyone was cheating on her and never trusted anyone again. When her cognition suddenly changed and her family didn't give her good guidance and education, she hated her biological parents, was ungrateful to her adoptive parents, had a strong sense of distrust and insecurity towards the people around her, and showed a tendency of indifference in her character. This is precisely because family education did not give her correct and timely education and guidance, which led to her suspicion and incomprehension of all the school people and brought great trouble to school education.
Suhomlinski said: "If there is no high quality of education in the whole society, first of all, the family, then no matter how hard teachers try, they will not get perfect results. All the problems in the school will be reflected in the family, and all the difficulties in the complicated teaching process of the school can be traced back to the family. " Therefore, teachers should give full play to their bridge role, integrate school strength and family strength, integrate the love between teachers and students and the love between parents and children, and make concerted efforts to make school education and family education harmonious and unified. In the end, our education will become an education with soul and achieve the purpose of teaching and learning.
In a word, family is the first classroom for students to receive education, and family education is the foundation of school education. Strengthening the contact with parents and doing a good job of parents is not only an important aspect of school education, but also an inevitable way to cultivate healthy students. Only when the family and the school form a joint force can the educational effects add up. Let's build a heart-to-heart bridge between school and family, so that family education and school education can integrate and cooperate with each other, and truly achieve the goal of promoting the healthy growth of students!
Comments on the Home School of Lide Shu Ren's Eighth Open Class of Family Education 5
I am Dai Qiqing's parents. My child, Dai Qiqing, is in the fourth grade this year. Since entering school, with the help of teachers and parents, she quickly adapted to school life, gradually developed good study habits and became a qualified primary school student. Here, I would like to express my heartfelt thanks to all teachers for their hard education and meticulous care for their children.
My biggest feeling in educating children is that a good family learning environment creates good study habits for children. And a person who has a good habit will benefit people for life. Family is the second class for children, and parents are teachers' assistants. Here, I will talk about my own experience on children's growth education.
First, family education should start with self-education.
Parents who like reading books and forget their work will leave a deep impression on their children. At the same time, it plays a subtle role in them. You can't just talk about children's learning. Parents must do what their children are asked to do first. Nowadays, there are many ways for children to contact information, and the amount of information is also very large. Sometimes the questions they ask will inevitably confuse adults. Adults can't do without studying. So we often buy books and read books. When you read a book, the children will naturally look beside you. Sometimes taking children to exercise will also raise some common sense questions. This not only exercises the body but also satisfies the children's thirst for knowledge, killing two birds with one stone. We ask our children to do things seriously. After the child finishes her homework, we will check it for her. If you find her handwriting scrawled, you will ask her to erase it and rewrite it. Sometimes, she can't bear to part with it, but she can't be soft-hearted. She must remember that if she doesn't do it well the first time, she should make more efforts. So be sure to do things seriously and do your best.
Second, you can't like everything too much, but you can't let it go.
Nowadays, parents know that they can't spoil their children too much, and they can't give them whatever they want to meet their requirements. This makes it easy for children to restrain themselves in behavior, which eventually leads to poor self-control, lack of self-motivation, and lack of courage and perseverance to overcome difficulties. As the child grows up, we will let her do some small things in life. Sometimes help adults do what they can. We want her to understand that she should not only study well, but also learn to live and care for everyone.
Third, don't expect too much, but be strict.
Parents want their children to succeed, and we share this mentality, but we won't force her to learn what she doesn't like. Try to let children do what they like. I have a wide range of interests and hobbies, work hard, and be a useful person to society in the future.
Fourth, create a good family learning environment for children.
A piece of advice for parents: We shouldn't watch TV and play computer beside children when they are doing their homework. We can read some professional books or read some novels and magazines. The novels and magazines that our children read are all read by our parents, which will facilitate communication with our children.
5. Treat children as friends, understand more, praise more, encourage more, criticize less and blame less.
The distance between people is terrible, even between parents and children. I think: if we can find the right time to communicate with our children, get to know each other, put ourselves in their shoes and give them more care, then this kind of effort will definitely pay off. As a child, everyone wants to be the best, but it is impossible to be the first every time. I don't ask children to do great things, but I ask them to do every little thing in a down-to-earth way. You don't care about the result, but you must pay attention to the process. When the child failed in the exam, I helped her analyze the reasons and find the gap, so as to avoid making similar mistakes in the exam homework in the future. My goal was achieved.
Being a man is the foundation of a child's life. To make children successful, we must first teach them to be human. This is the most important task of family education. Of course, good behavior habits and study habits cannot be cultivated overnight. As long as we have patience, perseverance and perseverance, I believe every child can shine his brightest light. Children's growth is inseparable from the fertile soil of the school and the hard work of the gardener. I also hope that teachers will take care of all children and make their tomorrow better!
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