1. Encourage good behavior and ignore bad behavior.

If the child loves to lose his temper, when he doesn't lose his temper, he can describe his behavior, praise him, or give him a hug, so that he has the motivation to complete the "good" behavior; On the contrary, when he loses his temper, ignore him and let him know that he has misbehaved.

2. Tell what to do in advance

Children like to try it by themselves. You can give them more time to study and try, but tell them in advance how much time you will give them to try. If you don't like sleeping, you can teach him to know the position of the clock, set the sleeping time every day, and remind him half an hour before going to bed to prepare him mentally. If the child still can't finish writing, take him to bed directly, no matter what he is doing at the moment.

3. Teach him to be responsible, if he doesn't clean up together.

For example, when training a child to urinate, if he urinates again, first take him to the toilet to wash, and then wipe off the urine on the ground with the child; Or when the child doesn't eat, use behavior to regulate him, tell him to take it away if he doesn't finish eating for half an hour, and eat at the next meal. If there is no snack, he will be responsible for the consequences.

4. Make rules and implement them effectively

Clear instructions, so that children can accurately implement them after knowing. For example, tell him, "If you leave your place, there will be no food." Let him know that there is no second choice. Once the rules are made, the caregiver should stick to them and not be soft-hearted just because the child is crying.

5. Draw the ground into a prison and let him reflect.

When a child makes a mistake, let him sit somewhere to reflect on himself, let him temporarily lose the freedom of activities, and let the child know that he has made a mistake, and his behavior will be constrained.

6. Don't stand on the opposite side of children.

Parents are the closest people to their children and must not stand on the opposite side of their children. In order to prevent children from having the illusion that they have no dependence, thus generating various negative emotions. It is necessary to know the situation of children, but be careful not to "suppress" children with teachers.

7. Give children more power.

When children's self-awareness begins to awaken, they will be very eager for autonomy. At this time, parents should learn to "let go" and not interfere too much with their children's choices. For example, let children decide to buy things for life and study, and let children freely control their spare time and pocket money.

8. Speak softly and avoid giving orders.

Children are in a rebellious period and generally "eat soft rice instead of hard rice". If parents speak in a condescending tone, it is easy to attract children's boredom If children want to communicate, parents must get into the habit of discussing things with their children.

9. Respect privacy and give children more space.

Everyone needs their own private space, and children are no exception. Don't look through children's diaries and other personal items at will, and don't secretly go to school to ask teachers and classmates about children's privacy. Because it is easy to make children feel ashamed, the relationship between parents and children will deteriorate or even break down.

10. encouragement is far more effective than criticism.

At ordinary times, we should encourage children more and explore their advantages. Don't compare your children with other children, try to make them willing to communicate with their parents. When a child makes a mistake, learn to sum up the seriousness of the mistake with the child, guide the child to correct the mistake independently, and share the responsibility with the child.