After children's sexual development began, sex education began in a subtle way. If parents realize sex education at this time, they can guide their children well. If you don't think sex education is important and you don't need to start, I regret to tell you that your sex education for children also started passively, but you don't know whether your influence on children is positive or negative.
With the development, children will have various behaviors, such as touching genitals, such as some sex games, such as peeking at others going to the toilet. Many phenomena are the inevitable result of sexual development. If parents have correct and sufficient knowledge of sex education, they can give correct responses and guidance when their children have corresponding behaviors. In order to avoid unnecessary harm to children because of the wrong educational direction. As parents, how should we treat the masturbation behavior of girls in primary and secondary schools (preschool classes)? -Chen Jieyu's answer)
The most taboo of sex education is to think about sex from the perspective of adults. In the eyes of adults, sex seems to be those things between the legs, that is, sexual behavior, but in fact sex education includes more than that. Sex education must be comprehensive and comprehensive, including physical and psychological sex, social sex, establishing love and intimacy, respecting others and building self-esteem and sexual beauty, as well as how to avoid harm and teach children how to protect themselves.
When parents think about sex education from this perspective, they will understand that sex education can not only help children develop and grow healthily, but also enable children to gain love, establish close relationships and communicate with others. Sex education is also an emotional intelligence education. This kind of education, of course, should be carried out simultaneously with the development of children! What is the development stage of sexual consciousness from children to teenagers? -Chen Jieyu's answer)
The next question is, how to conduct sex education? Do parents need to be experts in sex education?
Of course not, otherwise it would be too difficult to be a parent. ...
Family sex education is accompanied by the growth of children, and it is carried out anytime and anywhere. It is not deliberate education at all. It doesn't mean that parents should give their children a family class every week to talk about sexual development, but parents should learn to deal with all kinds of behaviors that accompany their children's sexual development, answer every question raised by their children sincerely and seriously, and answer their confusion. It is necessary to guide children in time, let them learn to respect others, let them know the rules, norms, moral norms and legal norms in our society, family and small groups, and let them learn to make responsible decisions.
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For example, if you find a child touching his genitals, then as a parent who knows sex education, you will first know that the child's behavior is normal, and ta is exploring his body and feelings. Therefore, parents will not punish ta for this behavior of their children. However, if this kind of behavior is too frequent and parents find that the child's genitals are red, or it may be damaged by friction, then for very young children, parents will choose to take ta's hand away and put a toy or something else in it to divert the child's attention. For older children, parents will tell ta that it's okay for you to do this, but you see that there is some redness here now, and you will get sick after it breaks, so stop this behavior and do something else.
If children behave like this in public, parents should tell them that you should protect their privacy. Such behavior can be at home, in your bed, but not in public. This is a social norm that everyone should abide by. For children under the age of 3 or 4, because ta still can't understand what norms are, parents should help ta over and over again and constantly remind him. However, for children over 3 or 4 years old, TAs can well understand what norms are and can restrain themselves.
So, how to answer children's questions about sex?
The premise is that parents should establish a positive sexual attitude. Sex is not dirty or disgusting. It's part of growing up and building intimate relationships. Only when your values are positive can you answer your child's questions from a positive perspective.
Next, the most important principle is: never think about your child's problems with your thoughts, but let the child know where his curiosity lies.
For example, when a child asks, "Where am I from?" Ta may just be curious. How did I come into this world? And parents will think, my god, there are sperm, eggs, sexual intercourse, genitals ... tell their children what to do if they can't learn well!
But in fact, for some children, TAs really only need to know that they are from their mothers' bodies.
In fact, many times, it is not the children's problems that stumbles us, but ourselves.
So, mom and dad, when the child asks questions, you must remember to ask the child to see what ta really wants to know. Then you can answer your child's specific questions. You don't have to tell ta everything you know. He may not want to hear it yet.
It is also very important not to ignore any questions of children, even if you can't answer them. If it is really difficult for you to answer, tell your child, "Mom/Dad really doesn't know how to answer this question. Shall I read a book or ask someone else and tell you later? "
Ignoring children's problems will make you lose the opportunity to educate ta, and will also block the communication channels between children and you. When you want to talk about these topics with your children in the future, ta will probably refuse you.
Of course, in addition to answering questions at any time, children need to be educated and trained in some knowledge and skills before some key time points. For example, how to protect yourself, how to prevent sexual assault, how to ask for help, how to refuse others, how to use sanitary napkins and condoms. Don't wait until children need to apply educational knowledge to find that there is no such knowledge reserve.