We all say that adolescent children are a headache because they may openly challenge their parents and even compete with them. If parents pay too much attention to the life of adolescent children, they will even have rebellious psychology, or they will show a tendency of being self-centered and pursuing freedom too much. Many adolescent children may be attracted to the opposite sex. In fact, these are normal, and we also came from adolescence. These manifestations of children's adolescence should not be regarded as a scourge. Even I think it is better to educate a teenager than to discipline him.

I think as parents, when children are in adolescence, we should use scientific family education to guide them on the right track, not to control them. Many times, the more we take care of our children, the more they will dislike us, even farther and farther away from us, or even if he succumbs to your discipline for a while, in fact, he has planted rebellious psychology in his heart, which may turn into more outrageous behavior over time. So what points should we focus on?

First of all, we should pay attention to children's needs, understand their needs and understand their thoughts. Of course, there are many ways to understand children's thoughts, and the appropriate methods must be adopted to achieve results. For example, we can communicate effectively with them in a way that they can accept, while prying into privacy is absolutely unacceptable. We can observe and pay attention to children's changes, talk with them, reduce misunderstandings between them, help maintain a better parent-child relationship and prevent children from going too far. But the premise of this step is that children have full trust in us and are willing to share their own things with us, which is also the key to testing parent-child relationship. This also reminds us of the importance of building mutual trust. We must trust them, and they will trust us in turn.

Give full respect. We should have enough respect for adolescent children, communicate with them on an equal footing, and don't try to control them with our will. If your child can regard you as a friend, then he will be willing to share his mental journey with you, and you can also seize the opportunity to give them proper education to avoid them entering a dangerous situation, so respect should be the first.

Psychological counseling is also very important. If children have a lot of troubles in adolescence, we should have psychological consultation in time and see some psychologists when necessary. Of course, this must be based on the consent of the child.