1. Keep your promise.
Don't make promises easily (such as gifts or outings). If you make a promise, you must keep it in mind. In case we can't make it due to special circumstances, we should apologize sincerely, just like apologizing to our friends. The rules are clear, allowing is allowing, and not allowing is not allowing. For example, it is agreed with children that shopping can only buy one toy, but what to buy is up to the children. Then, if the child wants to buy again after buying it, he must clearly and resolutely refuse (don't be angry, just refuse). At the same time, no matter how low the cost performance of the toys that children want to buy and how unsuitable they are, we can't veto them. Let him decide (in fact, children will definitely learn from the wrong choices).
Make sure we think of him.
This is only counted when the child "feels". Many parents do whatever it takes for their children, but children are not close to their parents. This is because parents give their children "what parents want" instead of "what children want". Parents don't know what children want and don't want to know. The children want to play with their mother. Mothers think it's "love" to spend a lot of money on classes or having a tutor, but they don't want to spend time with their children. They don't think it is important. In this case, the child just can't feel it. If they don't feel "love" and are forced to give, they will resist or alienate themselves.
Teaching children what to do or not to do can also make them feel "thinking for him" For example, if you can't play with the socket, you should make him feel that it is for his safety. How to feel is to show him the danger; For example, "study hard now, there will be a way out in the future", which children can't feel, because he is too young and has no concept of "future", so what he can do is to let him feel "a sense of achievement in his grades" and "happiness in learning itself".
Step 3 convince children
We say that we believe and can do it, and our suggestions are necessary, valuable and feasible. If we can teach and help children what they can't do and what they don't know and understand, they will believe us. On the contrary, children will not believe us. For example, we teach our children to be honest, but in fact, we are honest. If someone invites us to dinner, we don't want to go, but we will politely say, "I'm not free today. We can make an appointment later." This is not "telling the truth", but it does not mean that we are dishonest. We may think that children are too young and need so much, but children are very sensitive and serious. These are all in the eyes, and they are suspicious when they conflict. For another example, we ask our children to study hard and make continuous progress. If we are in a state of muddling along in our own life, we have no power in this sentence, because the child believes that he sees far more than he hears.
In short, if we can make our children feel that what we say is true and useful, and that it is for his sake rather than being imposed on others, what reason does the child have not to listen to us? In fact, children are very dependent on and value their parents. If they are disobedient, it is often because our words are not so popular with others. Parents don't like what children say, but what happens if parents insist on what children listen to? Just look at the family with bad parent-child relationship around you.