For example, in my hometown, if I marry a wife now, the bride price is 80 ~ 65438+ 10,000 yuan. If I buy three gold and clothes, it will be 65438+ 10,000 yuan. A table of drinks is about 800 ~ 1000, and the food and wine are complete. Generally, I have to prepare about 10 ~ 20 tables for my family's wedding, and 7788 adds up to 6548. If the woman is demanding, buy a house in the town or a small county. We are better here. There are not many requirements for the man to buy a house before marriage, but even if he doesn't buy it before marriage, he will still try to go out and buy a house after marriage, in order to live better in the future and have a good education for his children in the future.
In short, getting married and marrying a daughter-in-law in the countryside now costs parents the hard money they have saved for most of their lives. Finally, I hope that the married rural children can be filial to their parents and live a happier life!
How difficult it is to marry a daughter-in-law in the countryside, I think it is a personal problem.
There are three young people in my village. Their parents scrimped and saved and married a daughter-in-law. But they didn't study well, got into the habit of gambling, stayed away from home all day, lost all their money at home, and borrowed from relatives and friends. They can't borrow money from relatives and friends, so they lend usury. Parents at home ask for debts for no reason, parents scold them, wives make trouble, and relatives and friends advise them to no avail. In the end, they all ended in divorce, which was painful.
In fact, it is not difficult to marry a daughter-in-law in the countryside. As long as the young man is not a rogue and honest, his appearance is not important, because the parents of girls want their daughters to find a boy who is honest and willing to work for their daughters for a lifetime. On the contrary, boys who are too beautiful are unpopular in the countryside and feel too playboy.
As for the number of people who think that bride price is needed, it is a minority after all. Generally speaking, there are more men and more brothers. The woman thinks that the husband's parents have no money to help them after marriage, so they will want more. Moreover, when the bride price is married, it is brought back to her husband's family, not to her family.
If the man is an only child and the family is enough, the woman will not ask for much bride price. When she got married, her family's dowry was still very rich, usually 32 thousand.
In a word, rural children are honest, willing to work, filial and have no shortage of daughters-in-law. . .
Personally, it is really not easy for an ordinary rural family to marry a daughter-in-law! Regardless of the bride price, you must have a house first. A house ranges from hundreds of thousands to millions. Take my own brother as an example. I worked in Xi 'an and talked about my girlfriend. First, I wanted to buy a house in Xi 'an, so I bought hundreds of cars. How can Xi 'an's house be worth millions? My parents tried their best to collect more than10.002 billion. Plus my brother earned it himself, barely enough for the down payment, not to mention the subsequent house decoration, bride price, banquet, jewelry, clothes and so on. . .
However, there are still a few bridesmaids who don't want rooms or cars!
I believe that everything will happen as long as you are willing to work hard!
I was born in the countryside of Gushi, Xinyang, Henan. Now the custom in our countryside is to see if the man has a house. If he is in the countryside, there must be a house in the county or city, and the car is better. It can be said that there is no past. Secondly, it depends on the man's family, and the bride price is indispensable, 565,438+10,000 yuan. There are more bride price without a house and a car, about 200 thousand. Where does the young man work or do business, and what is his monthly income? What a business family. On the contrary, women don't want this or that.
In short, if the man is in good condition, the woman may want less; if the man is in bad condition, she will try her best to get it.
His name is An Zi, whom he met on the farm. At that time, he was a warm-hearted young man, diligent and proficient in farm work. The only drawback is that my left foot is a little lame, which was caused by polio when I was a child, and I have no money to treat it.
After we returned to the city, we all got married and had children, which runs in the family. I went to the farm to see him the year before last, but An Zi was still alone. The farm is a national employee who retires at the age of 60 and receives a pension like a city dweller. Such conditions are already very good in the surrounding rural areas. An Zi is also eager to find a wife, so that An Zi, who is not good at housework and can't cook, can eat delicious dishes.
Relatives and friends also introduced several rural women to An Zi. Their own conditions are insufficient, so that peasant women continue to increase their chips and pay all their wages. The most annoying thing is not getting a marriage certificate. An Zi has suffered losses. After living together for two years, the woman absconded with money, which is almost all the savings of Anzi for several years. This woman is from a neighboring village, so An Zi can call the police. An Zi has a kind heart. After getting along for more than two years, he never forgets, cares and pretends not to care. He doesn't want to send an ungrateful woman to prison.
An Zi is still a lonely man. He is honest and the conditions for marriage are simple. We must use marriage certificates to bind each other's sincerity. This simple wish has never come true.
I am not writing this article for An Zi's marriage. Everyone has his own interests and can't be forced. An Zi's life in his later years was secure and well-fed. Because of this, the purpose of some rural women's commitment is very clear. Love doesn't eat or drink, money is the most practical.
A few days later, on March 9, the educated youth from the decentralized farm organized a big party with more than 300 people. Those educated youths who were warmly helped by An Zi all expressed their willingness to visit him. More than forty years later, An Zi's personality charm continues.
How difficult it is to get a wife in the countryside.
1. There is a serious imbalance between men and women in China. According to statistics, in 20 18 years, there were 31600,000 more men than women. This means that at least 3 1.6 million men in China are single.
Second, the economic gap between urban and rural areas, urban girls generally do not marry in rural areas, while rural women mostly choose cities with better conditions, making fewer girls return to rural areas, and the proportion of rural men and women will further expand.
Third, with more men and fewer women, girls will have more choices. Therefore, there has been a sky-high bride price and higher and higher requirements. This makes it more difficult for families with poor financial ability to get a wife.
Due to the preference for boys over girls, a considerable number of boys have been spoiled since childhood, so that they can accomplish nothing by relying on their parents when they grow up. Besides, it will be more difficult for these boys to get married.
Survival of the fittest is the law of nature. In this context, people who don't make progress and rely on others will be eliminated by society. May all young people, especially those in our countryside, strive to win beauty.
For example.
My wife teaches in a mountain school in Shangrao. How difficult is it to marry a daughter-in-law locally? There are at least three steps to getting married. First, the bride price; Second, hardware; Third, hold a wedding banquet.
Last year, they took a bride price in the local area, or they called it a meeting gift there, 50W. Yes, it's a meeting, just 50W. Moreover, there is a rule that if the man's family is an only child, then the woman will return some appropriately, not exceeding10w; ; If the man has two sons, I'm sorry, I won't pay back a penny. It has risen to 60W this year, only one year.
Hardware, gold necklace, earrings, rings, bracelets, anklets. However, with the progress of society, most local hardware is mainly platinum, and the ring is a diamond ring, which floats up and down by 3-5W.
At least male and female relatives after a trip should be invited at the wedding banquet, and local chefs should be invited to cook in the village. The cost is about 5W.
The above three items are standard. Of course, there is also a premise that you can't get a wife without a house. The local concept is relatively backward, and the psychology of comparison is serious. Without three floors, you are embarrassed to call a new house. Therefore, a suite down, hundreds of thousands is a must. So you have to marry a wife there, no more than 100W. Please continue your efforts.
Then someone must ask, where does the money come from? According to local customs, three generations of grandparents and grandchildren went out to work, and most of the locals went to Jinhua, Zhejiang Province to work, which has formed a certain group. Two grandparents, two fathers, son went to work after the basic compulsory education. Don't ask why they are not allowed to continue their education. Many people are forced by the rural atmosphere and so-called face to support boys to go out after finishing junior high school, while girls are forced to drop out after finishing junior high school. The locals thought: Why do girls read so many books? They are just reading to others, marrying others and wasting our money.
Of course, this situation is more extreme. There must be open-minded rural areas and rural areas near towns, and there are many. But this kind of example definitely exists in rural areas of China, and it is not single. Come, feel the difficulty of marrying a wife in the countryside.
I am from Neiqiu, Xingtai, Hebei Province, located in the hilly area west of Neiqiu. Now the bride price is 66,000, 88,000,100,000, and more168,000. Then there is a building in the county, and there is a car when you go out. Basically, parents' hard-earned money for a lifetime is not enough to pay the down payment. They have to borrow money and repay the loan on time. After marriage, they are under great pressure. Some children have no opinions but no money. How many couples are planted on the bride? It won't change for a while. Take today's parents for example, they have to scrimp and save all their lives, and their children have to pay off their mortgage after they get married. There are many coal mines in their fifties and sixties, so they have no time or money to enjoy life. I really hope that this situation can be contained in the future. I hope that the pressure on couples after marriage will not be too great, and that parents will have time and money to enjoy their old age.
In rural areas, men are superior to women, and male chauvinism is deeply rooted. They show their ability by beating their wives, take pride in eating, drinking, whoring and gambling, and keep their hands off housework. ...
Rural women have no status, and the poorer rural people look down on women, including women's own discrimination against women and ignorance;
The rate of marital infidelity among men in China ranks first in the world, especially in rural areas. The poorer you are, the more you love whoring ... so the divorce rate in rural areas is much higher than that in cities, which has nothing to do with men having money or not.
Mother-in-law in rural areas has Oedipus complex. Daughter-in-law is the enemy who stole her son. She not only incites her son to beat and scold her daughter-in-law, but also is good at mobilizing all her relatives to attack her daughter-in-law! The complexity of rural families is far more than that of giants!
If you think that rural people are simple and the poor are honest, then you are brainwashed. Many people have no scruples about doing bad things because of ignorance. Phoenix men are all rural!
When you marry into a rural family, you have to face all kinds of unwarranted slander, speculation and violence. Even if you are sick, spending money to see a doctor will be looked down upon, dissatisfied and opposed. They will want to control you and be dissatisfied with your close relationship with your family. Rural men refer to filial piety to their parents after marriage, including only their own parents, not yours. Marry a rural man, and you will be deprived of your own safety, health and freedom!