One night, Bao Xiao, who was three years old and four months old, made a joke because he didn't take his static class seriously enough. I scolded him and slapped his little hand. He still looks smirked, but he caught a cold at night. On the day of catching a cold, he didn't catch a cold and his life was almost the same as usual.
I know I externalized my anxiety to my children, so that I put too much pressure on them. He can't feel his mother's love.
I was so anxious that I ignored the law of children's growth. Children over the age of three need a sense of belonging and value, interesting games and patient guidance.
I ask myself, what is the innovation of educating children, and what kind of person do I want them to be?
00 1 become a healthy person.
This seems to be a very basic requirement, which we often heard in school before. But slowly I realized how important this foundation is.
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In our thirties, we began to realize the importance of health. I hope I can guide my children by setting an example, so that they can know how to pay attention to their health and do a good job in health management earlier.
Recently, I have been implementing the plan of climbing mountains every other week, which is to keep my family in the habit of continuous exercise.
We have enrolled the children in physical training classes, hoping to have some physical training every day so that they can have better physical fitness and physical quality.
Health is the foundation. With health and better energy, we can do more things.
mental health
I always heard about mental health before, but I always felt so far away that I didn't think I would have any psychological problems.
A few years ago, I joined a book club, and some members shared Zhang Defen's Meet the Unknown Self. I feel nothing. But today I also regard the sentence "Honey, there is no one outside but myself" as a classic.
With marriage and having children, more and more things are encountered. I find that many times I can't control my emotions, and I can't solve some problems myself. I just know that many childhood injuries have entered my subconscious. Only when we stay awake can these problems be solved and we can become a more peaceful person.
In the process of our growth, mental health was not taken seriously. I hope that in the process of children's growth, we can pay more attention to their mental health and their inner demands, so that they have a sense of belonging and value.
Of course, this needs to start from itself. When we can better understand ourselves and handle the relationship between ourselves and ourselves, we will not put my anxiety and pressure on our children, who have applied healthier psychology since childhood.
Become a person who can pursue his inner thoughts.
It is a very happy thing to be able to pursue what you want and do what you want with enthusiasm.
But many people don't know what they really want to do, and they don't know what they can devote themselves to even when they reach adulthood.
To find what you really want to do in your heart, you need to follow your inner feelings more. I can really feel that what I do is happy. What I do is to swim against the current.
When you can truly feel your feelings, you can face yourself more truly and find your own ideas.
For children, let them better find their own advantages, what they really want to do in their hearts, on the one hand, give them better conditions to contact more things. On the other hand, we can't restrict him by rules and regulations, and we can't put pressure on him by so-called social standards and trends. Let him be more free inside.
I often think that if we can really pursue our inner thoughts and focus on our interests, everyone will do better in their own fields. Survival ability is wealth for a period of time, which is a natural thing.
Of course, if you want to pursue yourself, you need to have the ability and motivation to pursue your ideals in addition to respecting your feelings.
Therefore, it is also very important to pay attention to their basic learning ability and cultivate their good study habits from an early age.
Become a person with a sense of social responsibility and a sense of win-win.
A person's growth is not isolated, and it is absolutely inseparable from the help of family and society. When he grows up, it is absolutely impossible to enter the society as an isolated existence.
Only by being grateful and knowing a win-win situation can we survive in this society better and feel happiness better.
For children's education, this sense of responsibility and win-win thinking is reflected in all aspects of life.
For example, participating in housework, such as getting along with family members, does not need special treatment. Let them feel the joy of participating in family affairs and sharing with others.
When they have a sense of responsibility and value in their families, they can also find this feeling in society.
When I sort out what kind of person I want my children to be, I will have a better direction in their education.
I know that in the process of educating children, it is more important to do your own work and handle the relationship with yourself, so as to better grasp the principles of education and not be disturbed by your own emotions.