Next, I will talk about my views on sex education.
I think when we go to school, it seems vaguely that there is only one physical health class in high school, which is taught separately for men and women. The teacher mysteriously hung a popular science picture (female version) on the blackboard for us to learn by ourselves, and then it was gone.
This is all the sex education I received at school.
Our family is conservative, but I have received sex education since I was a child. My sex education comes from my grandmother.
When I was in the fourth and fifth grade of primary school, my grandmother told me privately: Women's waistbands are precious, so don't untie them easily. No one can touch where you pee.
At that time, I wondered why the belt was precious. At that time, almost none of our pants had waistbands, only elastic bands. As for the latter part, I don't understand. Ask if you don't understand. I said, why can't you touch it?
I will never forget grandma's disgust and disgust. She said, because it is dirty. Don't ask again, just remember.
This has caused me a huge psychological shadow, and for a long time, it made me feel inferior to my body.
But in retrospect, I am still very grateful to my grandmother. This is a conservative old lady. With her instinctive love for her children, she broke through her own limits and gave her grandchildren a simple and rude sex education.
Perhaps it is because of this early education that I feel that sex is a dirty and disgusting thing. It is this kind of transmission from generation to generation that makes most people in China feel that sex education is a shameful thing.
I thought it was 2020, and this situation will definitely improve. However, I was wrong. A considerable number of parents are still stuck in the era of "women can't untie their belts" and "this kind of thing is too dirty to tell their children".
The more conservative parents are, the more they oppose sex education in schools, and the less they will educate their children scientifically and objectively.
They either keep their mouths shut and make their children illiterate, and they don't know how to protect themselves even if they are in danger.
For example, a message from a netizen in Zhihu is very painful to read.
Or, like my grandmother, I teach my children to protect themselves and pass on my aversion to women's bodies to the next generation. As a result, many children who have been violated suffer from physical injuries and psychological trauma is more serious.
In addition, 99% conservative parents will not give sex education to boys, because in their minds, their sons will not suffer, nor will they suffer. For them, the only sex education is to let children pour water when kissing scenes are shown on TV. So that the baby has a subtle misunderstanding: as long as others kiss, parents will be thirsty …
The children are curious. The more mysterious things, the more you don't tell them, the more you know the answer in another way. If you really explain to them, they will forget.
Curiosity is something engraved in human genes, otherwise Adam and Eve would not have to eat apples.
A friend of mine is a pet baby. Whenever her daughter is interested in something, she immediately buys a bunch. Babies like stickers when they are young. She bought several boxes for her daughter's birthday, but her sister couldn't find anything different from home. Within a month, Eva was not interested in stickers.
My daughter likes sand painting, so does she, and then the baby's enthusiasm is doused. She laughed at herself as an interest destroyer, because she was too active and let her children play with everything for three minutes.
The same is true of sex education. When adults really take a disciplined attitude, tell their children what sex and why people are pregnant. Children will no longer be curious.
Parents artificially put a veil of "mystery" on sex education, which can only make children more curious.
Modern information is so advanced that if you don't tell your children, they will know it in their own way.
As far as I know, in my generation, boys learn about sex mostly through small movies, while girls learn about sex mostly through romance novels. That kind of thing is really crooked.
Speaking of sex education, here is a control group: Denmark and Finland (and other Nordic countries). They have the lowest sex crime rate and the latest sex age in the world. But their sex education is really early and dare.
For example, their kindergarten teaching material "Our Body" does not hesitate to describe all organs of the whole body, as well as detailed science about the pregnancy process.