First, is this method useful?
I don't think so, because children's knowledge structure is relatively simple and children need a sense of security most. For comfort and security, they will be more obedient. In fact, it is not appeasement that makes up for the damage. In fact, after experiencing fear, children are helpless. In this case, if someone comforts himself, the child tends to rely on this comforter. The rules themselves were ignored. Parents or teachers use their children's fears to make them listen to themselves instead of educating them.
Second, the harm of this kind of education
Children are more likely to feel inferior when they feel insecure. Both parents and teachers will inevitably give children a lot of negative comments and definitions. In this kind of educational plot, when criticizing the child, the stern party often wants to stimulate the child and make him have the mentality of being ashamed and brave, which leads to the child not wanting to say it, nor dare to say it. Began to be autistic, depressed, introverted, and even didn't have the courage to realize self-identity. The appeaser should think that even if criticism is followed by appeasement, it can't actually repair the damage that has been done.
Third, the role of parents in children's eyes is distorted
Strict father's loving mothers are not qualified parents. For children, either parent should be amiable, tolerant and credible. Singing red and white faces frequently in front of children as a fixed identity. Dad is always a white face, and mom is always a red face. Such behavior is easy for children to produce? Dad just thinks I'm useless? This kind of education will only cause irreversible damage to the parent-child relationship.