Scene 2: Take my son shopping and pass by an underwear store. The son pointed to a pair of pink underwear and said, "Mom, this is the same as yours. What are these? " Mom blushed and said, this is called a bra. This is a little dress that girls need to wear when their breasts grow up.
Situation 3: The son is sitting in the bathtub, but refuses to come out. He holds his testicles behind his penis and says, "This ball is really fun!" " "My son was smashed! You found this!
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Is it more embarrassing than one? If you talk to other treasure moms, it is estimated that everyone has a slot. Are you surprised that children around the age of three begin to express their curiosity about sex in words? Do you think it's too early to start talking about sex with children at the age of three?
In fact, it is no exaggeration to start sex education at the age of zero. According to Freud's five stages of sexual development, we can see that there are two obvious stages of sexual psychological development before the age of 3.
The first stage is appetite (0 to 1 year)
The second stage is anorexia (1 to 3 years old)
The third stage is the reproductive period (3 to 6 years old)
The incubation period of the fourth stage (from seven years old to adolescence)
The fifth reproductive stage (adolescence and beyond)
So how do you talk about sex with children? Compared with a secretive attitude, telling a child what he is curious about in the most calm and rational language is the biggest embarrassment. Teaching children to know their private parts is as generous and natural as teaching children to know their eyes, nose and mouth.
There are various ways to carry out sex education. For example, take children to take a bath together and teach them to know different parts of the body. For another example, children are curious about adults going to the toilet, so they can observe. Observing parents going to the toilet can not only prepare them for toilet training, but also let them know that men and women go to the toilet in different ways. But be careful not to be over three years old, especially heterosexual parents.
If you still don't know where to start, many excellent picture books are very good auxiliary tools. Here I list some for your reference: ass story, penis story, breast story, Serena rushing forward, how I was born, I'm going back to my mother's stomach and so on. These picture books have popular science patterns, simple story lines and easy-to-understand language, and some words that children don't need to master for the time being will be beautifully modified.
In addition, it is necessary to give children a shot of self-protection "vaccination":
First, teach children to respect their own bodies and others' bodies, especially the hidden parts. Don't wear open-backed pants for children since childhood, don't change diapers for children in public, and don't post nude photos of children online. If the child doesn't like being hugged, kissed or touched, he can resolutely refuse.
Second, teach children what is their private parts? Which parts of the body can be touched? What parts are untouchable? If you are hurt by other people's purposeful words or actions, you can't tolerate it once, and you must resolutely oppose it.
Third, make an absolutely trustworthy list for children. Children can't be taken into toilets, bathrooms, etc. Except for those who can be trusted absolutely. When children can't find their parents in time, they can also ask someone they can trust for help.
Fourth, parents should make an agreement with their children to make them feel uncomfortable and must tell them. Parents should also pay attention to children's seemingly unintentional words, which may be that children are asking for help from you, so they should be extra vigilant.
Child sexual abuse is a heavy and sad topic. The incident of child sexual assault in the news shocked and frightened parents, but it was only the tip of the iceberg. The perpetrators of sexual assault on children are mostly family members, teachers or familiar people. The victims are generally young, and most of them are violated without violence or coercion. Moreover, many children don't understand that they have been violated. By the time the parents found the clue, some children had already experienced it several times.
Therefore, sex education should be early. Let children master scientific sexual knowledge, but also have the consciousness of self-protection, and can resist the wind and waves of this world alone.
If sex education for infants has not yet started, we need to redouble our efforts in the future.
Lin, a talented woman in Taiwan Province, wrote the novel Fang Siqi's First Love Garden, which was highly praised by Li Yinhe and Feng Tang, based on her real experience of being seduced by a cram school teacher when she was 13 years old. The novel says: Our family education seems to have everything except sex education. In the story, parents will be absent from sex education forever. They are absent from class, but they think school hasn't started yet. Lin, the author, suffered from mental illness due to sexual assault when he was young. 20 17 committed suicide and a new star fell.
Recently, the newly-added vending machines of "AIDS test kit" in some colleges and universities in Shanghai were sold out within 6 hours of Tongji University. A total of 37 copies were recovered from the vending machine. After testing, there are actually two positive results. The high proportion of infected people makes people wonder, what happened to college students now? "ivory tower" and "AIDS", which should have nothing to do with each other, are now tightly tied together.
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It can be seen that sex education is not a code of conduct, but involves many dimensions such as love, life, health, responsibility and respect. A thing that can create life or bring destruction should not remain silent. Sex education should start from birth and end in old age.