Suhomlinski, a famous educator in the former Soviet Union, once compared a child to a marble. He said that it takes six sculptors to shape this marble into a statue: 1, family; 2. school; 3. The collective to which the children belong; 4. Children themselves; 5. books; 6. Accidental factors. Judging from the arrangement order, the family ranks first, which shows that the family plays an important role in shaping children and occupies a considerable position in the minds of educators. So it is necessary for parents to understand the importance of family education.
First, the modern educational concept
Modern education emphasizes people-oriented, aims at promoting people's free and all-round development, pays more attention to the integrity and comprehensiveness of people's development, emphasizes the forging of students' practical ability, the cultivation and training of all-round quality, advocates novel and vivid subjective education modes such as independent education, happy education, successful education and research-based learning, adopts different educational measures to implement personalized education, pays attention to teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, realizes the transformation from universal education mode to personalized education mode, and strengthens the combination and integration of innovative education and entrepreneurial education. School, society and family are trinity, and family education is the foundation of the whole education work and plays a cornerstone role. In school education, family education and social education, family education is indispensable, even the key factor for children to become talents.
Second, "at the beginning of life, human nature is good", and family education is the starting point and basic point of educating people.
Innocent children, in their young hearts, everything is beautiful, full of hope for life, full of spirituality, and everything they can perceive is imagined to be so full of vitality and vividness in their innocent and clever hearts. Family is the cradle of children's life, the first place for children to receive education after birth, that is, the first classroom in life; Parents are the children's first teachers, that is, the first teachers.
Therefore, parents' education for their children is the earliest. As the saying goes, "Like father, like son." In other words, what kind of parents will have what kind of children. Although the words are somewhat biased, it shows that parents' own behavior and educational ideas are closely related to their children's development. Generally speaking, children enter early childhood after three years of development, and 3-6 years old is preschool, which is often called early education stage, which is an important period for people's physical and mental development. There is an old saying in China: "He who goes near Zhu Zhechi is black". Childhood is the beginning of life edification. Many basic abilities of people are formed at this age, such as language expression, basic movements and some living habits, and personality is gradually forming. American psychologist Bloom believes that if a person's intelligence development is 100% at the age of 17, it will reach 50% at the age of 4. 4-8 years old increased by 30%, and 8- 17 years old increased by 20%. Throughout the ages, many people with lofty ideals and effective celebrities have received good family education in their childhood, which is an important reason for their success in the future. For example, the success of Goethe, a great German poet and playwright, is due to the early education of his family. When Goethe was 2-3 years old, his father took him to the countryside for an outing to observe nature and cultivate Goethe's observation ability. At the age of 3-4, his father taught him to sing, recite ballads and tell fairy tales, and specially asked him to give a speech in front of everyone to cultivate his oral English. These conscious education made Goethe optimistic, willing to think and good at learning. Goethe was able to read books in French, German, English, Italian, Latin and Greek at the age of 8, wrote plays at the age of 65,438+04, and wrote a well-known European poem "The Trouble of Young Werther" at the age of 25.
Another example is the growth process of the famous ancient "father and son calligraphers" Wang Xizhi and Wang Xianzhi, the great inventor Edison with more than 1350 inventions, the literary superstar Guo Moruo, Mao Dun and other celebrities, which shows the importance of family education to early intellectual development. On the contrary, in many cases, the normal development of intelligence is affected by people's lack of good family education in childhood. For example, kamala, an Indian "wolf child", was captured by wolves at the age of 8, but his life habits were different from those of people. His living habits are similar to those of wolves, crawling on all fours, eating raw meat and walking at night. Later, after manual training, he was able to stand after two years, walk like a human after six years, and learned six words in four years. 65,438+07 years old, with improved intelligence.
It can be seen that children's intellectual development is the fastest before the age of 5, and it is also the best period for early intellectual development. If parents carry out good family education during this period, it will be the key to children's early intellectual development. Third, good family education is a catalyst to optimize children's minds.
From infancy to infancy, with the growth of age, children will eventually enter the big society from the small family environment and get in touch with people and things outside the family. The truth, goodness, beauty, falsehood and ugliness in society come into children's field of vision from time to time, so it is not feasible for adults to adopt the method of isolation, because TV videos in the family will constantly reflect the reality of today's society from different angles, and the problems are both positive and negative. Children, especially young children, lack the rational ability to distinguish right from wrong, but they have more acute sensory ability than adults. They are very sensitive to the intimate and terrible things happening around them, and this sensitivity is a good foundation for cultivating rational discrimination. As parents, we should make use of this extension to help children cultivate their discrimination and psychological endurance in social life, screen social information and optimize their young minds. If parents can focus on the characteristics of children's young age and weak acceptance in daily life, they can help children understand the right and wrong in society, let them feel the bright side of truth, goodness and beauty, and also recognize ugliness and meanness, which can help children enhance their sense of justice in promoting good and eliminating evil, thus resisting the erosion of ugliness and darkness on their hearts. For example, today's TV videos have entered almost every family of urban residents, and children deal with them almost every day. It can be said that they know what's going on in the world without leaving home. We can receive all kinds of information from all over the world. There are all kinds of contents about political situation, scientific and technological progress, and secular matters, from which we can learn a lot of knowledge and understand major events and minor events at home and abroad. But it also inevitably lets some murder, violence and absurd scenes enter the children's eyelids. Parents should guide these problems in time to improve their children's discrimination ability, and at the same time, they should always obey the rules, establish a positive image for their children, optimize their minds, and prevent their children from making mistakes and even breaking the law and discipline. Doing a good job in this area will help stabilize the small family environment. Family is the cell of society. Only with healthy cells can we have a sound body. If cells get sick, it will lead to physical illness. The ancients said: "After self-cultivation, the family will be in harmony, after governing the country, and after governing the country, the country will be in harmony." This is a fact. Therefore, parents should do a good job in optimizing their children's thoughts, which will help stabilize society and the country.
In a word, family education is very important, because it has a decisive influence on every child's life. In order to provide a healthy and happy growth platform for children, I hope all parents in the world can learn some scientific family education concepts and make unremitting efforts for the healthy growth of children.
The Importance of Education Family education is an inseparable and important part of the whole education system, which is related to the healthy growth of children. Family education means that parents consciously set an example in family life, and parents play a very important role in the family. They are children's first or even lifelong teachers.
Family is the basic cell of society and the first school in life. No matter how the times change, no matter how the life pattern changes, we should attach importance to family construction, family education and family style construction, closely combine and cultivate and carry forward the socialist core values, carry forward the traditional family virtues of the Chinese nation, promote family harmony, promote the love of relatives, promote the healthy growth of the next generation, and promote the old people's security, so that thousands of families in Qian Qian can become an important foundation for national development, national progress and social harmony.
In the 1920s, Professor Mayo, a psychologist at Harvard University, put forward the "interpersonal relationship theory", pointing out that employees' morale and enthusiasm for production mainly depend on social psychological factors, whether there is a democratic atmosphere and harmonious relationship between employees and managers, while material environment and material stimulation are of secondary significance. The conclusion of this survey proves that this theory also plays an important role in family education.
Families of students with excellent grades adopt more consultative and democratic parent-child interaction mode. The data shows that in the families that "listen to children's opinions", 39. 1 1% of the children have excellent grades, and only 19.90% of the children have poor grades. In the face of educational differences, the proportion of children with excellent grades is as high as 76. 10%, while the proportion of children with poor grades is only 1 1.98%. It can be seen that in a democratic and friendly family, students can give full play to their autonomy and initiative, and the sense of trust is internalized by students as the potential and motivation for learning, which is applied to the self-management of learning, thus promoting the improvement of academic level.
Encouraging children is as important as emotional support. When asked "Where do you feel your parents' love for you" in the survey, the pupils with excellent grades are 12.79 percentage points higher than those with poor grades. Finding material means is often used as a way to stimulate and express love, which is easy to mislead children, make children simplify their parents' concern into material satisfaction, and easily cover up, transfer or interfere with the emotional needs of primary school students. On the contrary, encouragement and support are the lasting motivation for children.
Emotional understanding and feedback between family members can not be ignored. The survey shows that the better the understanding and feedback between family members, the higher the proportion of children with excellent grades. For example, when parents are in a bad mood, families who can feel the support and care of their families have the highest proportion of excellent children, which is 74. 12%. In indifferent and alienated families, such as "it's better not to talk, it's more annoying to talk" and "they don't understand", the proportion of children with excellent grades is only 12.48% and 5.466%. Parents' negative emotions will project and infect children, especially sensitive children. If parents' emotions are inconsistent, it will be more difficult for children to adjust psychologically. Over time, it will cause great psychological burden to children and affect the learning effect.
The survey also found that family structure has a significant impact on the academic level of primary school students. The proportion of children with excellent grades in divorced and remarried families has been greatly reduced; Among the pupils with poor grades, single parents and remarried families account for a relatively high proportion. In addition to family structure, parents' satisfaction with their spouses, the smooth resolution of family conflicts or quarrels, richer communication topics besides learning, and parent-child communication modes of understanding and support. Are positively correlated with the proportion of excellent grades of primary school students, and vice versa. In short, as parents, we should fully realize the importance of family education, consciously do a good job in children's education, fulfill parents' responsibilities and obligations, and cultivate qualified construction talents for the country.