(Chairman of Wang Pin Group) Dai: Why did I cut off my child's retreat? Author: Li Cuiqing Source: Chairman of Dai Wang Pin Group, who has a son and a daughter with his parents, is very different from the father of an ordinary entrepreneur. Other entrepreneurs tried to arrange for their children to take over the family business, but Dai didn't think so at all. Wang Pin is the largest restaurant chain in China. In addition to Wang Pin Steak, its main business also includes many brands, such as Taobanwu, Chamonix, Sidi Steak, Yuan Shao and Ju Hokkaido Kunbu Pot. There are more than 100 shops on both sides of the strait, with an annual turnover of over 5 billion. But Dai resolutely refused to let his children enter his catering kingdom, let alone "take over" or even go to work in any institution. He not only blocked their "future", but even cut off their "financial path". When Wang Pin shares go public next year, Dai announced that he would donate 80% of his personal property for public welfare, leaving only 5% for his children, and set a restriction clause that he can only use it at the age of 35. He is not going to turn Wang Pin into a family business; His children are just "Dai's children" and will never be "the princesses of Shaodong and Wang Pin Group". Wang Pin was built from scratch. If children also want a big mountain, then, I'm sorry, please work hard. Q: What kind of father are you? What is parenting philosophy? A: I am very democratic and can almost tolerate children. For me, children can do anything as long as they don't break the law. My view of education is very different from that of ordinary parents. Many parents force their children to make up lessons, do homework and learn many talents, but I have observed that many parents want their children to learn things just to satisfy their childhood regrets; However, many children who are forced to learn this and that are mediocre when they grow up. Why? Because he is too busy to meet his parents' expectations, he has no leisure to explore his real interests. My children didn't learn talent at first, and I won't let them make up extra lessons. When they find their own interests, he will speak for themselves. For example, my daughter came to me in the fifth grade and told me that she wanted to learn piano and flute. When my son was in high school, he found that he was very interested in computers and began to study deeply. I have only one requirement for my children's schoolwork: as long as they can graduate on time, no matter where they are ranked, they are acceptable. Is class really the most important thing? I won the attendance award in primary school for six years. This prize is like a chastity memorial arch. In order to get it, you can't just "remarry". So in the six years of primary school, I missed too many important things: in the third grade, my little aunt got married and I didn't attend; Grandparents died, and I didn't send them; This is a once-in-60-year farewell ceremony near my home. I can imagine what a lively scene it was, but I can't please it ... There are about a dozen things that people will regret in retrospect in the past six years, but I missed all of them for that boring "chastity memorial arch". Is it worth it? So I encourage children to take time off, as long as there are things that need family participation: traveling, eating … no problem, try to take time off; Even if the company holds a general meeting of shareholders, they can take time off to attend; Even as long as they feel that they really want to climb the mountain today, they can ask for leave. Neither of them got the first place in the class, but both of them asked for leave for the first time. Finally, the teacher called me and asked, "Miss Dai, are you deliberately against the school?" Actually, I don't want to be against the school, but I think I should spend my time in something really valuable. This is also the case in our company now. As long as employees have important things, such as the birth of their wives and children, the graduation ceremony of their children, and the meeting of their mothers and sisters, they can give priority to leave, and they must never be absent at critical moments in their lives. Q: Have you deliberately helped your children plan or guide their future careers? My plan for them is to cut them off completely. As early as ten years ago, Wang Pin formulated the "non-relatives clause", and all relatives of cadres were not allowed to work in Wang Pin. I don't even allow them to do business in Wang Pin. Please. Which manager dares to boss the chairman's children? What's the point of work? Broke the rules in the store. Not long ago, I decided to donate 80% of my personal property to public welfare, leaving only 5% for each of them, and I can't use it until I am 35 years old. This completely cut off their retreat from inheriting family property, thus forcing out their potential! Otherwise, they will feel that they have a backer, and they don't have to work hard, struggle or even "imagine" what they will do in the future. Anyway, as long as they go back to be Wang Pin's heirs, they can sit and eat, even if they are in a vegetative state. Why are you fighting? Q: Does your practice of "cutting off the child's back road" have anything to do with your personal life experience? A Let me tell a story first. When I was a child, my family kept a chicken, and my mother never fed it. Every morning, she let it out of the henhouse, and it clucked and ran to the back hill to feed. Because of enough exercise, its muscles are strong, its comb is bright red and its feathers shine. Later, my mother put the chicken in the barn. From then on, the chicken only needed to eat and sleep every day, but it became dejected and despondent, no longer alive and kicking, and soon died. Do you think it's better for children to be barn chickens or pheasants? If the child becomes a barn chicken, it is not the child's fault, but the parents' fault. When I was a child, my family was very poor, but after junior high school, my father's hat-making career gradually got on the right track and his family became very good. It happened that my father didn't "cut me off" and I changed from a pheasant to a barn chicken. I have a narrow career path for students majoring in Chinese at National Taiwan University. The students in the class are very crisis-conscious, so I am the only one who will change to a minor in the department in the future. Anyway, I have three wins in making hats after graduation. What are you afraid of? It was not until I left the family business alone at the age of 39 and started a new career that I began to exert my potential and actively seek survival, from a barn chicken to a pheasant. Although I was already an "old chicken", I was really full of ambition at that time. I was struggling before, whether to abandon my family business and start my own business, and then I thought of a love poem: "If you cling to a thick roof, you will lose the vast starry sky." I don't want to lose the vast starry sky. My experience is that children must be cornered to find their own way of survival. Every time I see the descendants of enterprises running away, clubbing and playing famous brands in the media! News, I don't think so. I think it's expensive first and then rich. I am used to this glamorous life. How to work hard in the future? I don't want my children to know about human suffering, but the way to let them know about human suffering is to let them live a hard life first. Q: How do you make them "understand human suffering"? A Many of my friends send their children to private aristocratic schools, and drivers drive black-headed cars to pick them up. My classmate's parents are both prominent figures. But before junior high school, my children attended the most common public schools. When my daughter was in junior high school, some students sat near her, including her father who worked as a plumber, her mother who sold pot-stewed vegetables in the vegetable market, and some students who had to work to supplement their families after class. I want my children to get in touch with the society of ordinary people, not the upper class. I hope they understand that that is the real life of most people. I am very tolerant of children, and I seldom set rules for them, but I don't make them too comfortable. My son and daughter only have 1000 yuan of pocket money every month until high school. If they encounter any difficulties, I usually stand by and watch. My son once raised 1000 dollars from his classmates and wanted to buy a computer online. The seller is in India. I thought, this is a scam, but I didn't tell the truth. I watched him remit money and was cheated. I haven't helped him clean up since. He sold everything around him to raise money for his classmates. Only after I taught him a painful lesson will he know what a trap is. This is a valuable lesson. Their brother and sister went abroad to study, and I didn't help them apply for schools or arrange accommodation in advance; The only thing I did was to send them to the airport, give them a guide to studying abroad, and then let them "die". After her daughter arrived in new york, she checked the information herself and negotiated interview opportunities with seven schools. Although she doesn't know much English, she entered a school by writing, speaking and gesturing. Solving problems is a kind of learning. What will they learn if I help them do everything and even take them myself? I told them that there are four purposes of studying abroad: diploma, language, international outlook and the ability to solve problems independently. I don't ask them to go to any prestigious schools, as long as they are approved by the Ministry of Education, and their homework is "graduation". Therefore, I told them not to stay in the library all day, but to broaden their horizons, experience more cultures, make more friends and go deep into local families ... These are more important than their homework. Q: When your children are in trouble, won't they ask you for help? I seldom help them clean up the mess. They are used to it, so they seldom ask for help, because asking for help is useless. My son served in Guantian boot camp when he was a soldier. Besides cooking and cleaning the shooting range, I have to stand guard at night, which is fucked. He often sends me short messages complaining that he has almost no time to sleep, and he is exhausted. "Isn't Dad very resourceful?" Why don't you find a way to get me to transfer my unit? "I always ignore him, but encourage him to be patient. This is an in-depth study. I didn't go to see his commander until three months before he left the army. As soon as the commander saw my business card, he was awed and asked me, "What can I do for you?" I said, "No, I just heard that my son is going to be fucked to death by you. I came to thank you. Being a soldier is for sex. If it's cold here, I'll try to transfer him here. "That evening, the commander asked the squire in Guantian area to set the table to welcome me. Then I transferred my son to the officer's office to repair the computer. He doesn't have to wear a helmet or leggings, but he also has his own dormitory, which makes his last life as a soldier more enjoyable, but there are only three months left. The reason why I went to see Guan Shuo three months before I left the army was to make my son feel that the father actually cared about him. Now that the training effect has been achieved, I can't do it too thoroughly, hahaha. Q: What do you think is the difference between your children and the second generation of pampered enterprises? A they are very worried. As early as high school, my son began to explore life with the mentality of "bereavement". Dad is so heartless that he really has to rely on himself in the future. How can he not be nervous? He is very interested in computers. When he graduated from high school, he tried to get CCIE (cisco certified Internet Work Expert) license. This license is very difficult to test. He/KLOC-was admitted at the age of 0/9, and he is the youngest person from China to get this license. I asked him, "Why did you take this license? "He replied," Ah, you interrupted me. I must find my own way! My son and daughter are studying in new york now. Every time I go to see them, they tell me a lot about their future plans. They are so considerate because I cut off their money and they have to do it themselves. They are also more tolerant of material deprivation. Last winter vacation, I went to new york to see them, and my daughter was carrying a big bag bought at Fengjia Night Market, which was less than 500 Taiwan dollars. She dared to hold this night market bag in this fashionable metropolis of new york, so confident and without inferiority. I am proud of her spirit. My son and his girlfriend got married in new york, and even tied their own flowers. Because American brides hold flowers very expensively, one bouquet costs 150 US dollars, and the production cost is only 70 yuan. On the day of registration, I saw others wearing luxurious tuxedos. Only he was wearing a $40 H&M suit and a plain coat with a round neck. As he didn't have a tie, he took a marker and drew a tie on his clothes. Onlookers applauded him warmly. I also think my son is really creative! The wedding is guaranteed to be unforgettable for his whole life. When they came back this winter vacation, I called them over and announced my property disposal plan. In fact, they can "cheat" me (in Taiwanese), or at least bargain to see if they can raise the ratio. After all, legally they could have got half of my property, but they all agreed without thinking. Because they know I did it because I love them. They understand that it's for their own good that dad doesn't give them wealth or let them into the company. After all, a life with blood, sweat and tears is a wonderful real life!