In fact, parents will directly or indirectly educate their children what is the "correct" way of words and deeds. At first, the nurturer was responsible for everything about the baby. When children are sensible, parents will teach them the correct way and time to eat, drink and sleep, and at the same time educate them how to deal with adults. As children grow up, parents will encourage some words and deeds of children and resist others. Children learn how to please their parents, how to avoid disappointing them and how to do everything their parents say. For example, when I am writing, I will yell at my children to stay away from me, while at other times, I will encourage them to keep a lively personality and give full play to their imagination. In the end, in order to gain parents' approval, they will attach great importance to these qualities (and be hopeful because they can enjoy them).

Similarly, sometimes my wife and I will be very competitive. Although we don't specifically teach children to do this, we will inadvertently teach them this habit. I constantly encourage my son to do sprint training and guide him, because he really wants to play better than other players in the football match (of course, I hope he can do better than others). I once said directly to him, "Shoot everyone!" "The development of children's personality, whether positive or negative, will be directly influenced by parents' education, including good daily habits, organizational thinking patterns, contented mentality, and those bad habits and attitudes. The understanding and reflection on family training mode is not to blame a person's personality defects and all kinds of unsatisfactory growth entirely on his parents, but to hope that everyone can re-examine himself and the influence from his family. After finding the root cause, we can know ourselves more rationally and objectively, understand others and better cultivate our descendants.