She likes her mother, whose handiwork is very good. She can cook Kobanawa noodles. My mother also loves to wear a flowing Hanfu and a high bun, just like a lady in ancient costume from Chinese painting. Lu Wen's mother, Hu Minyi, is 36 years old. More than ten years ago, she came to Zhongshan with her husband who was also from Jingzhou, Hubei Province, and later she had Luwen.
In recent years, in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangdong and other places, some parents are not satisfied with the rigidity and monotony of the traditional education system and let their children go to school at home. Five years ago, Hu Minyi also made this decision for her daughter.
Here, you can hardly hear the sound of "Lang Lang" reading and the children's playful laughter, and there is no bell for recess for a few seconds after class. Because this is a school with only mothers and daughters. Now, Ruben has become a girl who loves to wear princess dresses. My mother's expectation is simple. I hope my daughter will find her own prince when she is 18 years old, and then, grow old together.
The memory of the school stays in the kindergarten class.
In this ordinary family of migrant workers, children are the light of a family's life. It is undoubtedly a very risky decision to let her daughter study at home without a traditional education system.
On the morning of July 5, Hu Minyi sat on the mattress on the floor of Nancy's living room, an English teacher, and talked with Nancy about her children's education. My daughter leaned in to say a few words from time to time and giggled occasionally.
But chatting, a faint English song came from the teacher's study. 1 1 year-old Ruben slipped here and hummed forest princess's lines printed by his mother with relish. This is Ruben's favorite cartoon, stuffed in the first layer of a thick CD package. There are all kinds of English cartoons carefully selected by my mother in the CD-ROM package, and I have watched each one more than a hundred times.
"Ruben, stop singing and read it out as soon as possible." Nancy urged in English.
Ruben skillfully said "yes". She can hum the tune of every line on every CD. She loves English and patriotism. But this girl who is obsessed with learning doesn't like campus at all. "I don't like going to school." The little girl opened her eyes wide and nodded as if she had made a solemn statement. Her attitude satisfied her mother.
If Hu Minyi hadn't watched a CD in 2007, her daughter might have been lucky enough to meet a qualified charity teacher in a primary school full of students, dragging a schoolbag weighing more than ten kilograms and doing her homework with a sad face after school. In this CD entitled "A Speech, A Hundred Years of Shock", the speaker Wang Caigui quoted a sentence from nan huaijin: "Now parents and all teachers all over the world are doing one thing, that is, killing our seedlings."
Wang Caigui also said that if we grew up in a place with a high civilization of 5,000 years like China, our citizens and children actually grew up without culture. Excuse me, is this called cultural dwarfism?
In fact, 6-year-old Lu Wen has memorized Tang poetry and Song ci. Hu Minyi hopes that future generations will accumulate in Chinese studies. She said: Daughter, I won't go to school.
At this time, Wen Lugang graduated from a large kindergarten. The only CD she left in this campus experience is: "Children always bully me." What impressed Hu Minyi most was that the teacher told her that Lu Wen was wearing a skirt with a belt, and she always rolled around against the belt in class. Hu Minyi and Hu are from Jingzhou, Hubei. At the node where their daughter is about to go to primary school, if she is not allowed to drop out of school, she can only be sent to the school for migrant children in Zhongshan, or sent back to her hometown to be a left-behind child.
Mr. Wang is engaged in handicraft business, and Hu Minyi is a folk craft teacher. In this ordinary family of migrant workers, children are the light of a family's life. It is undoubtedly a risky decision to let her daughter study at home without a traditional education system.
But when this idea exploded like a balloon full of hydrogen in this family, mother Hu Minyi found that her daughter's life can be full of choices, at least helping her choose a "happy road".
If you let go too loosely, the real problem will run amok.
Returning to her hometown in Hubei during the Spring Festival, Hu Minyi took the initiative to say to her in-laws: "Lu Wen hasn't studied mathematics yet." Grandparents are anxious: "How can this be done? How can this work! "
After dropping out of school, Hu Minyi made room at home to decorate the classroom for her daughter. In this room, Lu Wen whispered about Disciples' Rules, Analects of Confucius and Four Books and Five Classics from morning till night. In order to prepare lessons, Hu Minyi, who majored in chemistry in middle school, studied and pondered the classics of Chinese studies.
This process made her extremely painful, but it also made her a teacher in the National Studies Museum in the future. Of course, this is another story.
After a year's trial teaching, Hu Minyi is quite satisfied with the effect. As a direct result, in the next few years, Luwen's name will never appear on the list of primary schools.
Hu Minyi created a 1 1 year training plan for her daughter: 2 years of Chinese, 3 years of English, 2 years of Chinese, 2 years of piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and 2 years of study tour. In 2009, Lu Wen successfully graduated from this special school with only her and her mother. During the two years of teaching Chinese studies, Hu Minyi was able to go into battle in person, but after this stage, she seemed to be unable to do so.
When she was at school, Hu Minyi had the capital that others looked at and admired. His father is a teacher. This means that others can only buy steamed buns in the canteen, and she can buy steamed buns, which also means that her father's colleagues can give her more supervision. Her grades are not ideal, but to her surprise, other students failed in the exam. Her parents wanted to beat and scold her, but her father never loathed her because of her grades.
She tried to deal with many educational problems in detail. Three years ago, Hu Minyi had a son, qian yao. Once I went to the park, a thousand people who loved to jump suddenly jumped off the stone and fell to the ground. All my friends around me broke out in a cold sweat. Hu Minyi pretended not to see: "We love him, but we don't need to help him."
She also looks for inspiration from reality. She noticed that after school, the children learned "market-oriented" languages such as "Fang *" in a few days; The boy in grade one of primary school was jokingly asked, is the girl next to you your girlfriend? The boy replied solemnly, "No, it's my ex-girlfriend" ... Hu Minyi doesn't want a pair of children to be precocious, she wants them to remain childlike.
In addition, she also understands that education is a process of letting go. While Lu Wen was concentrating on English, Hu Minyi hired a tutor. The arrangement after class depends entirely on Ruben's interest. If you are tired of reading, you will listen to English songs and watch English cartoons and movies. If you don't want to learn anything, find children to play with. In these traditional schools, mothers can meet irregular requirements.
But if you let go too loosely, the real problem will run amok immediately. Returning to her hometown in Hubei during the Spring Festival, Hu Minyi took the initiative to say to her in-laws: "Lu Wen hasn't studied mathematics yet." Grandparents are anxious: "How can this be done? How can this work! " Every July, near the day of primary school registration, my hometown will call as usual: let Luwen go to school.
Can be pushed back by Hu Min again and again. She firmly believes that although the future is uncertain, there is nothing wrong with this road.
Many children in the Home-schooling League have returned to school.
At this time, the phone call from the school teacher came: "My students have never failed in English!" " "The score is unconvincing, followed by dissatisfaction from grandparents. Helpless, Zhang Honglin went back to school to read the sixth grade.
In Zhongshan, Hu Minyi has like-minded parents and friends, and Fu is one of them. However, Fu is full of hesitation about whether a pair of children at home go to school. To this end, drop out of school or return to school? For three years, his son Zhang Honglin has always been indecisive in this multiple-choice question with only two options.
This is a three-story villa hidden among green trees. In 2009, Fu and her husband established the Datong National Studies Museum here. Why don't you let your son try to quit school? The following autumn, Zhang Honglin didn't appear in the fifth grade class, but in the National Studies Museum. Parents personally went into battle and gave lectures to their sons.
A year later, the mother wanted to test her son's academic performance, so Zhang Honglin took the final exam of grade five in the school. Fu took a deep breath when he saw the report card handed down: 33 points in English and 70 points in math.
At this time, the phone call from the school teacher also came: "The students I teach have never failed in English!" " "The score is unconvincing, followed by dissatisfaction from grandparents. Helpless, Zhang Honglin went back to school to read the sixth grade. Sure enough, Zhang Honglin's English score "rubbed" on the ground.
Today, there are 13 children in the National Studies Museum. Some of them come out of interest, and some don't go to school at all. Fu enrolled her 12-year-old son in junior high school, but in less than two years, his teacher became his parents again. Fu wondered that two years of junior high school courses could be finished in one year, saving his son a lot of time reading books such as history.
Brother Zhang Honglin leads the way, and sister Zhang Kaijun may take the road of "family education". Zhang Kaijun has been studying in her mother's National Studies Museum for three years. Every day, Zhang Kaijun spends 70% of his time reading four books and five classics. At other times, she will read history books, interspersed with moral education and English listening.
No school, no staying up late to do homework in the teacher's ear. Zhang Kaijun, who is six and a half years old, likes it very much.
According to his mother's plan, Zhang Kaijun may not have anything to do with his student status before he goes to college. Mom said that according to this educational method, Zhang Kaijun will learn more than his peers when celebrating 15 birthday. At that time, I will get my undergraduate diploma through the self-study exam and climb the ladder. The next step is to go to graduate school.
With the continuous emergence of "homeschooling" cases, some parents are gradually dissatisfied with the isolation and isolation of their children's homeschooling alone. On the internet and in reality, they jointly seek the combination point of education outside the system. Hu Minyi joined many QQ groups similar to "Home-School Alliance". In Zhongshan Group, there are four or five parents.
Five years ago, Hu Minyi expected to find like-minded parents. But this plan failed to be put into practice after all.
According to her idea, through the way of "joint tutoring", we can find several parents with similar experiences and hire teachers together, which can not only bring the benefits of sharing costs, but also help each other and teach children various skills, whether it is manual, cooking or singing.
But she found great resistance. For example, teacher Jiang's child is only 2 years old, while another teacher's child is a teenager. Every parent has different plans for their children's growth education, but Hu Minyi still chose to give up.
I hope my daughter 18 can find a "prince".
I hope she can be a tour guide who explains the Four Books and Five Classics in English. But more, my mother wants her to be a happy person.
Friends are worried that Reuben will become divorced from the collective life. To this end, Hu Minyi tried to send her daughter to her women and children center for classes. One day, Lu Wen told his mother in low spirits, "The children laughed at me for not going to school." But as my daughter grew up, the idea of sending her back to campus was completely dispelled.
To Hu Minyi's relief, her educational methods are not ineffective. 20 10 at the end of June, my mother and my 9-year-old daughter were on the train back to Zhongshan from their hometown, and their conversation was recorded in QQ space by Hu Minyi.
"Ruben, I'm going back to Zhongshan. Do you miss my sister? " Mother asked, referring to Ruben's cousin. After returning to their hometown, the two sisters slept together every night. "think." The daughter said. "Do you miss the moon?" Yue Yue is a student of her mother, a 7-year-old girl who likes to wear two braids. "think."
"Which of the two sisters do you prefer?" "I like both." "What if I have to choose one?" "Then choose your sister." Mother was surprised because her daughter also liked Yue Yue very much: "Why?" The daughter thought for a few seconds and said, "It is immoral to love others because you don't love your loved ones." Mom was surprised again.
Hu Minyi's cousin, a senior three English teacher, once questioned her practice. Recently, after trying to have a simple English conversation with Lu Wen, she was surprised to find that "Lu Wen's oral English expression ability is comparable to that of college students." This test made her a staunch supporter of Hu Minyi. However, Hu Minyi is not completely satisfied with the effect of the three-year English education. She thinks her daughter only meets her 70% requirements. Therefore, the completion time of English education has been delayed for half a year.
Nancy is Ruben's new English teacher. From Xinjiang, she likes to wear a peacock skirt. Her life is half dancing and half working. "I will teach Ruben as my own incarnation," she told Hu Minyi. "If my children and I can start over, I also want to choose this free and easy way."
Nancy suggested that Ruben should finish all the courses before high school before 15 years old. At present, the reality is that Lu Wen has only touched the tip of the iceberg in the content required by exam-oriented education. Hu Minyi replied softly, "Well, yes, Ruben's grandfather likes this."
Now, my grandparents have been urging Lu Wen to go back to campus less, but Hu Minyi intends to let her daughter take part in the English competition in her own name and go back with a certificate. "Well, Ruben's grandfather likes this."
In September, Luwen should continue to learn Chinese. Hu Minyi, who has been a teacher of the National Studies Museum for a long time, intends to compile her own teaching materials, and the content of the lecture is "explaining words". For example, in the word "cloud", she will collect photos and videos of various forms of clouds and do experiments on "the formation principle of clouds" herself. In her opinion, the illustrated way can deepen her daughter's understanding.
My daughter loves to play princess house games, and she will cut the newly bought orange clothes into two pieces to make a princess dress for the doll. She loves painting and watching the food program of Tomato King. She wants to be a designer, a gourmet or a tour guide who can travel around the world. My mother agrees with the latter most: "I hope she can be a tour guide who explains the Four Books and Five Classics in English." But more, my mother wants her to be a happy person. "When you 18 years old, find a prince of your own and grow old slowly."
In addition to a pair of children, Hu Minyi also has plans for her career. She wants to run a private school with only four or five children, named "Yiqian Academy"; Or run a kindergarten with only games and happiness. What should I name it?
"Climb the slide kindergarten!" A modest 3-year-old looked up and blinked.