I grew up in the countryside, and my parents can't read. Many life truths are gradually realized in my work and life. I remember when I first went to work, I didn't understand the truth of being a man and doing things and made mistakes. A lot of things hit a lot of nails. At this time, I went to study, went to the bookstore to read books on dealing with people, and then studied online.
The two people who helped me the most were Professor Wang Liqun and Professor Ceng Shiqiang. Listen to Professor Wang Liqun's Song of the Wind and read historical records in the lecture room. All historical figures deserve to learn the truth of being a man and doing things, and their stories, whether positive or negative, deserve reflection. After reading the history, I feel that everything in this world is changing. Except for a little humanity, the humanity possessed by the ancients also exists today. Ceng Shiqiang is also a professor. He said that China people's workplace behavior and China people's behavior are very good. The truth he told me has given me a lot of inspiration on the road of life. You might as well watch the videos or books of these two professors, which will give you a lot of inspiration.
One more thing, you should learn more, understand more and think more, so that you will know a lot about being a man and doing things.
I am born after 80. My parents have been busy as long as I can remember. Father has to go to work, mother has to set up a stall and brother has to go to school. As for me, I have to go to school. I go to school alone and go home alone. I can't do anything. I ask slowly, learn slowly, grow in learning, and learn to be a man and do things when I grow up. Other people's help is limited, but mine.
As the beginning of the post-80s generation, when I was a child, I always felt that there was a lot of farm work at home. My parents go to the fields every day, go early in the morning, go back for dinner at noon, go back in the afternoon, and don't go home until dark. They didn't have time to take care of me, didn't teach me the truth of being a man, and didn't take care of me in my studies. But when I grew up today, I thought my parents were silent, but their positive moral outlook has always influenced me! So it seems that parents have done nothing, but they are actually influencing themselves in various ways. Others can do things on the basis of their own principles, and some survival skills still need to be learned and experienced by themselves!
I don't know how old you are. I am born after 80, and my family is in the countryside. At that time, most of my parents were ignorant, and some didn't even go to school. What can I do to educate you? Coupled with family conditions, parents can't meet several times a year to support their families.
So you can't blame your parents for this. Don't depend on your parents for everything, but on the individual, since you have grown up. What you say can be seen everywhere in your daily life. You can learn slowly! Look at how the rest people behave. There are so many things to learn in life that you can't finish them all your life. Only by continuous learning can you become stronger and adapt to the rapidly developing society.
First of all, you think your parents didn't teach you how to behave and do things. I think your parents must be busy at home or at work. Words and deeds are more important than words and deeds, so from this point alone, your parents taught you to be hardworking and simple.
Maybe they don't talk much, unlike some parents who inculcate their children, so you need to pay more attention to the people around you who everyone likes. Since everyone likes him, he must have something that others like and learn from. I believe you will become the most popular person.
If you are in your twenties now, your parents should be around 50. At that time, people armed their minds with Mao Zedong Thought, and they forgot their work. They are selfish and benefit others, and have no time to educate them how to face the society. This phenomenon is a model of the times. Then you grow up, go to the society, integrate into the society, and combine the ancient society with today's society. You will grow naturally.
This is your parents' dereliction of duty! Children should be well educated by their parents from an early age, and cultivate good qualities such as honesty and trustworthiness, love for learning and progress, respect for the old and love for the young, courtesy, law-abiding, diligence and thrift! Parents should set an example by themselves, and a good tutoring environment can cultivate outstanding talents (except physical defects)! If children don't cultivate this excellent quality from an early age, it will not be so easy to manage in the future as they grow older! Just like a tree, it branches easily when you are young. Just use scissors or a sickle. If it grows into a big tree, I'm afraid it will take a saw and an axe to repair it! It's not that easy! His (her) personality and quality have been developed. If you want him (her) to change from bad to good, there is nothing parents can do, only the law can manage it! Therefore, in fact, many family tragedies that lack correct education since childhood have been staged in real social life!
One: Learn from books.
We know that parents should be the best teachers in children's life. It is indeed the parents' dereliction of duty not to teach anything. But we still have the opportunity to study the day after tomorrow, because we all have to go to school, study at school and learn from books, all of which are ok.
Because there are too many books about education, if you find that your parents lack education in this field, then you can learn through other channels, the best is books.
Buy some books like this. As long as you study hard, I believe you will learn what you need.
Two: learn from the people around you.
Since parents are not role models, we can find other role models! You must have many friends around you. Why don't we learn from them? In this way, people around us are our teachers and role models for us to learn.
I believe that as long as you have a heart to learn, you will never lack the object of learning. Your friends, your relatives and your teachers are all your study objects.
Three: keep an open mind to learn.
Compared with the object of study, I think the most important thing is to have a good learning attitude and a learning heart. Only in this way can you keep learning and making progress, and make yourself a successful person.
If you lack the correct attitude and heart to learn, even if your parents teach you, you will never learn.
Therefore, it is very important to have a learning heart and a correct learning attitude. I hope you can face up to your own problems, study bravely and make continuous progress.
The three-character scripture says: a son is not filial to his father, but a teacher is lazy and does not learn. Even if parents didn't teach their children how to be human, they were their silent teachers and role models. There is an old saying among all sentient beings that dragons are born, and children born of chickens and mice can make holes, which is also a nod to their parents. For this reason, if God is lucky enough to make us fathers and mothers, there is no reason why we should not provoke the family responsibility and social responsibility of raising children. This responsibility includes the responsibility of raising children and adults, and the responsibility of becoming a useful person in society. If your children have made great contributions to society, then society will also have great returns, parents will be proud, and your children will be proud. If you really have parents who haven't taught you anything and don't know how to behave, then the author will give you a trick to learn, and the book will tell you how to behave and how to do things! What is right and wrong! What is true and false! This is the same sentence: Yan Ruyu is in the book! There is a golden room in the book!
Everyone has shortcomings, but everyone may, perhaps, probably think it is wrong. It is right to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. It is wrong to learn from each other's strengths and put them on yourself. Is it like grafting or itself? To make up for your own shortcomings is actually to avoid your own shortcomings. Can't face up to the existence of ta, which is not conducive to growth. It is best to turn your own shortcomings into your own characteristics and advantages, so that others can't learn if they want to. This is the skill. On the other hand, parents will only let their children learn from others. In the end, their children, like the four, are the shadows of others. If this is the case, parents may wish to clone the children of individual families, which will save trouble. I'm afraid even if the whole thing is not good, cloning is not as good as ontology, because the living environment is not good, and it will only be a dead duck in the end. Parents think that the advantages of other children are beautiful, which may not be suitable for the actual situation of their own children, but will have the opposite effect. Parents are still sticking to their own opinions and will not achieve mastery. Parents will only ruin their children's lives, and they will confidently say that it is good for their children. I'm embarrassed to say this. Before I do it well, I don't want to think about whether I have really considered it from the perspective of children. What kind of person do parents want their children to be? Is it really what children want to be? To put it bluntly, children are just your puppets. Unfortunately, children are independent thinkers. Not being listened to, the parents didn't say that they were disobedient and rebellious, that is, the children were not sensible. I really laughed. What they really don't understand is their parents, but children are influenced by thousands of years of ethics and dare not say their feelings. As long as they say what they mean, they are not told that you are a child or that I am who you are to suppress them. In the end, the parents did tell the truth and complained that their children were not easy to manage. I hid from laughing.