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Those who are talented and keen in their later years are most likely to go bad. If so, their fathers and brothers should regard it as a kind of worry, not a kind of happiness. They must always be familiar with Confucian classics by simple binding, cultivate their generosity and respect, and don't let them swim with impetuous and thin people for ten years. Otherwise, their interests will be self-contained. I say this because it is a prescription for my later life.

The sharp-edged people in the younger generation are the easiest to go bad. If there are such people, fathers and brothers should be worried, not happy. We should always discipline them strictly and seriously, familiarize them with Confucian classics and various books, educate them to be tolerant, kind, respectful and cautious, and don't let them associate with idlers. In this way, after more than ten years, ambition and interest naturally developed. Otherwise, there is nothing to worry about. These words are medicines and needles for young people to treat diseases, so we should treat them with caution and leave no regrets.

Yanshi family instructions

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The book of the sage, which teaches people sincere filial piety, prudence and fame, has also been prepared. The Wei and Jin Dynasties came, and all the philosophers wrote, focusing on things, discussing models, and putting their ears on the bed. The reason why I came back to this place today is not that I dare not follow the example of the world, but that I want to clean up my door and tear up my children and grandchildren. Husband believes in the same words and believes in his loved ones; Walk with the same life and do what you serve. It is better to forbid a boy from being violent than to be ordered by Fu Maid, and to be obedient than to be taught by his wife. I hope this book is believed by Cao Cao, and it is more virtuous than Fu Maid and Widow.

Moral education in my family has always been a whole secret, but I was lured and taught when I was in a cup. Every time I follow my two brothers, I am gentle, sober, polite and calm. Give excellent words, ask what is good, encourage short lead long, and be sincere. When I was nine years old, I was a small pot of tea, and my family was surrounded. A kind-hearted brother has devoted all his efforts and made painstaking preparations. Different people have different opinions. Although I read "Li" and "Biography", I love it very much and am quite influenced by mortals. If you want to speak out of order, you will be slovenly. At the age of eighteen or nineteen, I know very little, and I learn naturally, which is hard to wash away. After 20 years, the ratio is bigger. Every normal heart has a common enemy. Sex and emotion compete, night feels small mistakes, and today regrets yesterday's loss, self-pity and ignorance, and even self-pity. Think of the fingers of the past, think of bones; It's not an ancient book commandment, but it has been seen by the eyes. So, I left these twenty articles, thinking that you are Cao's people.

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The books of sages teach people to be loyal and filial, to be cautious, to be a man, to make contributions and spread fame, which are also described in full detail. But since the Wei and Jin Dynasties, some hundred schools of thought's books have been repeating similar principles and similar contents, imitating each other and learning from each other. It's like putting a house under a house and a bed on a bed, which is redundant and useless. The reason why I want to write this family motto again now is not that I dare to give you any norms for dealing with people, but just to rectify the family style and educate future generations. Believe the same words, because they are said by people close to you; The same order is carried out because it was issued by someone you admire. Children are prohibited from fooling around and laughing, and the advice of teachers and friends is not as good as that of aunts; To prevent laity from fighting and quarreling, Yao Shun's teaching is not as good as his wife's persuasion. I hope this "family precept" can be observed by you, better than aunt. The wife's words are wise.

My family's tutor has always been very strict and thorough. I was induced to teach when I was a child. Follow the two brothers every day, serve the twin cities in the morning and evening, speak carefully, behave well, speak serenely and respectfully, just like visiting a majestic king. Parents often encourage us, ask about our hobbies, grind away our shortcomings and guide our strengths, which is both sincere and appropriate. When I was nine years old, my father died, my family was in trouble, my family was in decline, and the population was depressed. It is extremely difficult for my brother to raise me. He is kind but not dignified, and his guidance and enlightenment are not so strict. Although I have also read Zhou Li and Zuo Zhuan in the Spring and Autumn Period, I am slightly interested in writing articles, which is greatly influenced by the world. Indulge in desires, speak rashly, and be slovenly. It was not until I was eighteen or nineteen that I sharpened it a little, because habits became natural and it was difficult to get rid of them in a short time. It is not until after the age of twenty that there are few big mistakes, but they are often duplicity, and kindness is contradictory to private affairs. I found the mistake in the morning at night, and today I regret the mistake I made yesterday. I often sigh that I have come this far because of lack of education. Recalling my lifelong wishes and interests, I have a deep understanding; It's not like reading a sermon in an ancient book, it just passes through your eyes and ears. So write down these twenty articles as a warning to you.

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Teaching articles

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Wisdom is made without teaching, although it is useless to teach fools, the moderate people do not know without teaching. The ancient holy king had the method of "prenatal education". She got pregnant in March and went out to live in another palace. His eyes are not evil, his ears are not stupid, and his voice is very nice, so he is very polite. The jade edition of this book contains all the essentials of the golden chamber. When a child coughs, Shi Baogu knows filial piety, benevolence, courtesy and righteousness, and guides Xi to treat it. Where ordinary people can't do it, when infants know people's colors and emotions, they will be taught, and when they do, they will stop. Compared with how old they are, they can get away with it. Parents are dignified and kind, and children are timid and filial.

I see love in the world that doesn't teach. If you can't, you can eat and drink, do whatever you want, and refrain from turning over the prize. You have to laugh and be knowledgeable. This is called law. If you are arrogant and slow to learn, you will copy, and if you have no prestige, you will be killed. When anger grows, they will increase resentment, catch up with growth, and eventually be defeated. Confucius said, "If a villain succeeds, habit becomes nature." Yeah, yeah. As the saying goes, "When a woman comes, teach her baby." Honestly.

People who can't teach their children don't want to be trapped in their own sins, but more importantly, they hurt their color and can't bear to suffer. How can Andrew be saved when the disease is an Oracle without the help of decoction? Can those who should also be diligent and thrifty treat their own flesh and blood cruelly? If you have to!

The strictness of father and son cannot be abolished; Love with flesh and blood, not Jane. Jane doesn't accept filial piety, but she is lazy.

People's love for children, even if it is very little, has many disadvantages from ancient times to the present. A moral person can enjoy his love, but a stubborn person should pity him. People who prefer pets, although they want to be thicker, are more troublesome. A scholar-bureaucrat in the Qi Dynasty said to me, "I have a son who is seventeen years old and quite knowledgeable. I teach him Xianbei language and play the pipa. I want to know a little to serve the ministers. I love them all and they are all important. " I don't answer when I lie prone. Different, this man's adopted son is also! If this industry is conscious, I don't want you to do it.

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Intellectuals can become talents without education, but fools can't make a difference even with more education. Only the vast majority of ordinary people need education, and they won't know if they don't teach. The ancient holy king had the practice of "prenatal education". When he was three months pregnant, he went out to live in another good house. His eyes can't squint, his ears can't listen, and he should be temperate in listening to music and eating delicious food according to etiquette. He had to write these on a jade board and hide them in a gold cabinet. When the fetus is still in its infancy, those who act as "teachers" and "guardians" should explain filial piety, benevolence, courtesy and righteousness and guide learning. Even if ordinary people can't do this, we should teach babies to train the sea when they know people's faces and know how to be happy and angry. If they are asked to do it, they won't do it. When they grow up, they can avoid flogging. As long as parents have dignity and love, children are naturally not afraid of caution and filial piety.

I often don't agree with the people in the world who don't educate their children but love them. What to eat and do, indulge children at will, without control, praise when admonished, laugh when reprimanded, and think that children are sensible. It was not until pride and neglect became a habit that we began to stop them. Then no matter how vicious the whip is, it can't establish dignity, and no matter how fierce the anger is, it will only increase resentment until it grows up and eventually becomes a person with corrupt morality. Confucius said: "What is cultivated at an early age is like nature. If you get used to it, it becomes nature." That makes sense. As the saying goes, "the daughter-in-law teaches when she first comes, and the child teaches when she is still a baby." This statement does make sense.

Ordinary people can't educate their children well, and they don't want them to fall into a sinful situation. They just don't want him to look depressed because of being scolded, and they don't have the heart to let him suffer because of being beaten. This is better than getting sick. Can it be cured without decoction and acupuncture? It's time to think about those who often exhort their children. Are they willing to be mean and abusive to their own flesh and blood This is a last resort!

Father and son should be serious and not negligent; There should be love between flesh and blood, but it should not be simple. If Jane is slow, filial piety will not be done well, and there will be neglect of discipline and neglect.

People love children and seldom treat them equally. Since ancient times, there have been many such ills. In fact, smart and handsome people are certainly attractive, and naughty and stupid people are also pitiful. That kind of parents with preferences, even if they want to be nice to him, will bring him trouble.

A scholar-bureaucrat in Northern Qi once said to me, "I have a son who is seventeen years old and is good at writing and playing Zagreb. He taught him to speak Xianbei, played the pipa, and learned almost all of them. Using these things to serve three ministers and nine ministers will definitely be favored, which is also a top priority. " I looked down and didn't answer. It's strange that this man should educate his son like this! If you use this method as a ladder of intimacy, I don't want you to do so.

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The husband has one person, then a couple, then a father and son, then a brother and a family member. These are just three. Since then, as for the nine clans, they are all based on three relatives, so we should be loyal to those who value human relations.

Brothers, fractal people are also angry. Fang Qi was young, and his parents embraced him left and right, with his front waist tied. Food is the same as the case, clothes are also conveyed, learning is also business, and travel is normal. Although there are chaotic people, they can't help but love each other. And strong, each wife, each son, although there are honest people, not much decline. Compared with his brothers, Dees is thinner. It is not appropriate to make people thin and generous today, but to be square and round. Only friends who are deep and unmoved by others are free from husbands!

Two relatives are dead, and brothers care for each other. They should go hand in hand, sound in hand, love the remains of their ancestors and cherish the separation of their bodies. Why not be brothers? When you are brothers, you are different from others. It is easy to complain if you look deep, and it is easy to regret if you look close. For example, if you still live in a room, you can plug a hole and paint a gap, so you are not afraid of being destroyed; If the sparrows and mice have no sympathy, the wind and rain are not prevented, and the wall falls, everyone is trapped and hopeless. Servants and concubines are birds, and wives are violent. What a pity!

Brothers don't agree, nephews don't love; Sons and nephews don't love, and the group is sparse; If the group is sparse, the servant will be the enemy. In this way, everyone walked in front of him and followed his heart. Who can save him? People who have made friends with this world are all in love and don't respect their brothers. How can there be many and many? People or tens of thousands of divisions will gain their strength and lose their gratitude to their younger brothers. How can they be sparse but not close!

If you are a fool, there will be more places to fight for. Let the flesh and blood live in it, if they all belong to the four seas, they will feel homesick because of the frost and dew, and the sun and the moon will face each other. People on the road are all in a place with many disputes, and few people can live together. Therefore, those who take this as their business and are ambiguous have great responsibilities and are ungrateful. If you can forgive yourself, change your son and caress him, you won't suffer.

Man's business, brother, can't be a father. Why not complain that you love your brother rather than your son? This is a reflection, it is unknown!

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There are people before couples, couples before fathers and sons, fathers and sons before brothers. Relatives in a family have these three relationships. And so on, to the Jiuzu, all originated from these three kinship relationships, so these three relationships are extremely important in human relations and cannot be taken seriously.

Brothers are people who are physically divided but connected in temperament. When I was a child, my parents held hands in the right hand, pulling the front and back skirts, eating at the same table, handing clothes, learning to use the same textbook and visiting the same place. Even if there are absurd and random visitors, it is impossible to be unfriendly. When you enter the prime of life, everyone has his own wife and son. Even if you are honest and kind, your feelings can't be weakened. As for sister-in-law, she is more distant and less intimate than her brother. Now it's like adding a round cover to the base on that side, which is bound to be out of place. This situation can only be avoided if you love your brother very much and are not shaken by your wife!

My parents passed away, leaving my brothers face to face. They should be like shapes and shadows as well as sounds and sounds. They should cherish the remains of their ancestors and their differences. Who can they miss except brothers? Between brothers, unlike others, it is easy to complain if they ask too much, and it is easy to eliminate barriers by recording relationships. For example, if there is a leak in the house, it will be blocked, and if there is a crack, it will be filled, so there will be no danger of collapse; If you have a rat, you don't worry, you don't take precautions, the wall collapses and the column is destroyed irretrievably. The male and female servants are more powerful than that sparrow and mouse, and the wife is more powerful than that storm!

Brothers are not harmonious, sons and nephews do not love each other; If Zijia doesn't love each other, the sons and nephews at home will be alienated and less intimate; If the relationship between sons and nephews at home is distant and not intimate, servants will become enemies. If so, even if the stranger stepped on his face and heart on the road, who would save him? Some people in the world can make friends with people in the world, love them, but don't respect their brothers. How can they be more harmonious instead of less? Some people in the world can command tens of thousands of troops and gain all the strength, but they don't love their younger brothers. How can they be indifferent to their younger brother?

Sister-in-law has the most disputes. Even if sisters become sisters-in-law, it is better to live far away, feel the frost and dew, miss each other and wait for the day when we meet. What's more, as a stranger on the road, in a land of constant disputes, there are too few people who can do it without bad blood. Therefore, this is because we are running a big family business, but we all have to take care of our own selfish interests. Although the burden is heavy, we pay less attention to morality. If we can forgive each other and take care of each other's children as our own, such a disaster will not happen.

Serving my brother is not the same as serving my father. Then why not complain that your brother loves his brother as much as his son? This cannot be understood by comparing these two things!

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Zhuzi's family instructions

Get up at dawn, sweep the courtyard, and be neat inside and outside.

When you are unconscious, you will rest. If you close the door, you will behave well.

It is not easy to think about a porridge and a meal; It is difficult to keep thinking about material resources.

It is better to prepare for a rainy day than to dig a well when you are thirsty.

Self-help must be frugal, and banquets must not be delayed.

The utensils are clean and tidy, and the tile is better than gold; The food is exquisite, and the garden vegetables are more delicious.

Don't run fancy houses, don't seek fertile land.

Three aunts and six wives are the media of prostitution and theft; Beautiful girls and concubines are not the blessings of the boudoir.

Don't be handsome for a servant, and don't make up for wives.

Although the ancestors are far away, the sacrifice must be sincere; Although children and grandchildren are stupid, they must read classics.

The life cycle is simple, and the godson should have an upright side.

Don't covet unexpected wealth and don't drink too much.

Trade with your shoulders, don't take advantage; When you see poor relatives and neighbors, you must warm your shirt.

Mean marriage will not last long; Lun Chang is a good boy and will die soon.

Brothers and uncles must decorate widows more; Young and old, both inside and outside, should be strict with themselves.

Listen to the woman say, dear flesh and blood, is it a husband? If you value wealth and ignore your parents, you can't be the son of human beings.

Marry a woman, choose a good husband, and do not seek re-employment; It's not too thick to marry a daughter-in-law and beg a lady.

It is most shameful to see wealth and flattery; Being arrogant when you are poor is nothing more than meanness.

If you quit fighting at home, the lawsuit will be fierce; Don't talk too much in life, you will suffer.

Don't bully widows by force; Don't be greedy, kill sex birds.

If you are eccentric, you will regret many mistakes; Laziness and self-indulgence are hard.

If you are naughty, you will be bored for a long time; Qu Zhi is old, but if you are in a hurry, you can rely on each other.

Listen to the speech lightly, be aware of unreasonable complaints, and think twice patiently;

If you argue about something, you don't know whether it is right or wrong. You must think it over calmly.

Don't forget to help without thinking.

Leave room for everything and be proud of it.

People are happy and should not be jealous; People should not be happy when they are in trouble.

The good that you want to be seen by others is not true, and the evil that you are afraid of being known is the great evil.

Seeing the color, I reported my wife and daughter; Hide resentment with arrows in the back, delaying future generations.

Family harmony, although embarrassing, is also full of joy;

The Chinese class was over in the morning, and I had no money left, so I had a good time.

Reading is aimed at sages, not disciples; If you are an official, you will keep your country.

Keep quiet and listen to the weather forecast. If you do this, you will be very close.

Good heart and good life, rich and old. Life is not smooth, and happiness becomes an ominous sign.

A good heart and a bad life turn disasters into blessings. If you have a bad heart and a bad life, you will be miserable and poor.

The heart can keep life, and the most important thing is kindness. Life is made by the heart, and good or bad luck is only called by people.

If you believe in your life and don't cultivate your heart, yin and yang may be empty and positive. Heaven and earth protect themselves when you obey the orders of your mind.