Instinctive maternal love means that under the influence of genetic genes, all animals have the instinct to care for their offspring, such as "licking calves" and "tiger poison does not eat children", which are all portrayal of this instinctive maternal love. When this instinctive maternal love is embodied in people, it becomes a strong self-emotional demand. Because parents have a natural instinct to take care of their children, parents in China naturally want their children to succeed. This kind of maternal love is selfish, so it is irresponsible.
Secondly, it was influenced by the traditional feudal culture of China. China people always pay attention to "honoring their ancestors", so parents in China generally have high expectations for their children.
Neither the requirement of parents' instinctive maternal love nor the influence of China's traditional feudal culture is the result of parents' rational choice. The vast majority of parents in China have not made a scientific analysis of their children's interests and endowments, and even failed to understand the basic question of what kind of person they want to train their children to be.
Because it is not the result of rational choice, few parents turn their hazy desire for their children's success into a clear family education goal. Since the dream of becoming a dragon has not been turned into a clear family education goal, there will naturally be no specific plans and measures to train children into "dragons".
Therefore, family education in China is full of randomness. Without a clear goal of pursuing family education, China's parents have to decide their own family education methods according to the family education methods of the people around them.
For example, when they see their neighbor's children taking an Olympic math class, they send them to the Olympic math class regardless of their interest and endowment in this respect; When they see the children of relatives and friends learning piano, they let them learn piano, regardless of whether their children have interest and talent in this field. ...
This is not so much that parents are cultivating their children as that they are saving face for themselves, because they feel that if they don't send their children to the Olympics class and learn the piano, others will call them shabby or irresponsible, thus feeling that they have no face.