Of course, while cultivating your special skills, you can't completely give up your academic performance. After all, whether you are engaged in art, sports or other industries in the future, even if you can't become a master of learning, you still need basic cultural literacy, moral etiquette and correct three views.
A child is not only successful in his studies, but also a bookworm who neglects his studies. However, a child with low marks and high energy may have a skill and always have a mouth to eat. Under the current education system, a big misunderstanding of parents in China is to cultivate every child into a schoolmaster. The reality is that not every child is suitable for learning. After all, among the10 million college entrance examination students in China every year, only a few thousand can be admitted to Tsinghua Peking University, which is not even one thousandth.
Many parents are full of expectations from the birth of their children, but slowly, they will be defeated by reality. As soon as the child is born, parents think that their child must be a genius; When I went to elementary school, I felt that I could be in line with Tsinghua Peking University in the future; After junior high school, I feel that I can be admitted to a double-class university. After high school, hey, it would be nice to have a university.
When I was in primary school, a classmate in our class failed. His academic performance is really poor, even if he stays in the first grade of our class, he is still at the bottom. I don't know where he went after graduating from primary school and what middle school he went to. I just heard a few years ago that he is now a chef in a five-star hotel. It seems quite famous. I have been a guest of the food festival on TV.
You see, my classmate didn't succeed in his studies, but became a famous chef and a successful life through his own efforts.
Recognizing children's talents and characteristics is the basis of correctly cultivating children, and preventing one road from going to black only to find that it is a dead end. At this time, it is too late to miss the golden time for children to cultivate other skills. Every child has his own interests and specialties. For example, some children are outstanding in learning, some children are outstanding in sports or art, and some children have strong hands-on ability. Parents' education for their children is to highlight their specialties and personalities and give full play to their specialties until they grow up to be the best in the professional field.
For example, Ding Junhui dropped out of school in the first grade and became a professional billiards player. Guo Qilin dropped out of school in the third grade and performed cross talk with Degang Guo. They all focus on cultivating their own specialties, because their fathers know where their children are outstanding and their children can't achieve academic success. In the end, one of them became a world billiards champion, a crosstalk star with both strength and face value in today's phonology world, and a top talent in their respective fields.
So, how do parents cultivate their children's specialties? 1. First of all, we must correctly identify the child's strengths.
Parents should carefully observe their children's behavioral characteristics from an early age. For example, some children are very sensitive to music, some children have a strong sense of rhythm, some children are sensitive to action and love to run and jump, some children love to write and draw, and so on. To understand children's characteristics, it is necessary to conduct effective guidance, such as enrolling children in interest classes and super-long classes, allowing children to receive relatively professional training, listening to the opinions of professional teachers, and seeing if children can make progress in the training process and have the talent to grow into talents.
Parents should give their children more opportunities for trial and error.
When the child is still young, parents may not have clearly identified the child's specialties, and some of the child's specialties may not be clearly displayed, such as the talent for playing chess. At this time, parents need to give their children more opportunities. They can sign up for several interest classes according to their different age characteristics to see which one suits their children. If you don't make progress after studying for a while, you should give up decisively and look for other majors.
3. To correctly understand the relationship between genius and practice.
Many people think that people who can become top experts in a certain field are born with a powerful ability. The so-called genius seems to be born in this line. But American psychologist Anders? Millard J. Erickson pointed out in "Deliberate Practice":
Scientists have reached a consensus through a lot of investigation and research that all top experts are trained.
In other words, except for a few sports with special requirements for physical conditions, everyone can become a top player through long-term deliberate practice. Therefore, parents should strengthen their confidence and believe that their children can reach the top level through deliberate practice on the basis of certain talents.
Parents should be prepared for a protracted war.
Once parents find an interest that suits their children, they must stick to it. Because practicing any skills is not a one-off event, we should be prepared for a protracted war.
I believe everyone has heard of the writer Gladwell's proposal in Alien? Ten thousand hours law? , its point of view is:
10000 hours of training is a necessary condition for anyone to change from ordinary to world-class master.
Maybe ten thousand hours is too abstract. Children must have at least 10 years to learn a new skill.
Mozart, a world-famous Austrian composer, had practiced piano playing for 3500 hours before his sixth birthday, which shows that he has created so many world-famous songs in his life and how many hours of deliberate practice are needed.
Liu Xiang began to practice track and field at the age of 7, broke the world record with a score of 12.88 at the age of 23, and ranked first in the world in the 1 10 hurdles at the age of 29. I don't know how many hours he practiced 10000 hours, which is far more than 10 years.
Parents should supervise and accompany their children to practice.
Parents should not think that it is enough to give their children interest classes and give them to teachers for training. A man can lead a horse to the water but he cannot make him drink. After class, children should ensure a certain period of high-quality practice every day in order to better master and be proficient. Everyone is lazy, including children. Parents should urge their children to practice instead of fishing for three days and drying nets for two days, which will not achieve the effect. Parental companionship can not only supervise children's practice, but also play an auxiliary role in teaching, pointing out children's shortcomings from the perspective of onlookers and promoting children's faster progress.
"Deliberate Practice" points out that when people learn knowledge and skills, they are divided into three nested circular areas:
What is the innermost layer? Comfort zone? , are all kinds of skills we have mastered; What is the outermost layer? Panic zone? , is a skill that we can't learn for the time being. What is in between? Study area? .
Only by getting rid of the comfort zone and doing a lot of deliberate exercises in the study zone, thus turning the study zone into a new comfort zone, constantly expanding the scope of the comfort zone and constantly challenging the higher-level study zone, will this kind of exercise produce positive results, thus making continuous progress and getting closer and closer to success.
To sum up, I sincerely appeal to parents to change their educational concepts and not to focus on their children's learning. They are extremely anxious because of their children's academic achievements, but they ignore their other specialties and interests, which may bury a talent who will have certain achievements in other aspects besides learning.
Teaching students according to their aptitude is the most successful education.