The first realm of teachers:
Look at the mountains, look at the water.
In other words, everyone is innocent at the beginning of his life. When he first meets this world, everything is fresh. The eyes see what they look like. People told him it was a mountain, and he knew it; Tell him it's water, and he'll know it. He looks at everything with a simple eye and thinks everything is novel. In their eyes, the world is beautiful and life is carefree. People at this stage have not yet felt the complexity between people, and many helplessness and troubles in life. People at this stage are idealists.
Just graduated college students or people who have just joined the work are all like this: "treat work as a job and treat students as students." Everyone is full of ambition, enthusiasm and confidence in his work, always ready to do great things and be a good teacher.
At this time, they feel very simple, curious and calm about the people and environment around them, and want to influence everything around them with their young and uplifting hearts. Face students with sincere love like friends, work with passionate feelings like fire, and colleagues with pure heart like water.
However, they will also feel dissatisfied with many practices of many teachers around them, thinking that they will face students in their own way and get along with them. Everyone will speak freely and freely, even like brothers and sisters. Class management also tries to put its so-called ideas of democracy, freedom, equality and harmony through it.
The second realm of teachers:
Look at the mountains, not the mountains. Look at the water, not the water.
In the course of life, when everyone bid farewell to pure youth, with the increase of age and experience, it is discovered that there is something wrong with this world. The reality I see is very different from the imaginary world. There are many things I can't figure out and many things I don't like: Why do I hit a wall everywhere? Why do you do a good job, but the boss doesn't value you? Wait a minute.
At this time, there are too many complaints and dissatisfaction, confusion and confusion in my heart.
At this time, people see everything differently. So depressed, confused, and even scold dad. At this time, people's mentality is angry, alert, sensitive, paranoid and narrow. So it's a sigh to look at the mountains and the water. People will look at the height of other mountains from one mountain to another, keep climbing, strive for victory, argue with others, how to be a man, how to treat life, and rack their brains to do everything, and they will never be satisfied.
The days passed day by day. I'm not happy at all.
Many people may be in the second stage all their lives. They were forced to live all their lives, toiling all their lives, being arrogant all their lives and complaining all their lives. This is why many people feel unhappy.
As a teacher, in this second stage, it is "to see that work is not work and that students are not students".
After pure enthusiasm, many problems in education and teaching will follow: I work hard and devote myself, but the class management is in a mess; Teaching is a mess; Students keep making mistakes, such as being late, failing to finish their homework on time, making irresponsible remarks and making trouble in class; Class exams rank low, teaching evaluation is not good, parents have suggestions and so on.
As a result, the original simplicity, enthusiasm and impulsiveness were gradually replaced by irritability, grumbling and anxiety. I feel very tired and bored at work, and I feel that life is so boring: every day, except for class, I just do my homework and clean up, and there is little friction between my classmates, so I feel very confused. At this time, you will feel like a really hard-working teacher, both hard and hard. So day after day, year after year, many years passed.
Many teachers live in such a painful crevice: teachers are not like teachers, students are not like students, and everyone's relationship is indifferent or tense, and finally it ends in discord.
But there are also many people who have experienced confusion, pain and struggle before entering the third stage.
The third realm of teachers:
See mountains or mountains, see water or water.
After a lot of trials and tribulations, when we gradually face everything calmly, regardless of age, we will see through right and wrong. Many times we miss a lot of beautiful things because of haggling over every ounce, and what is worth cherishing is boring in our excessive haggling over every ounce. Life is so hasty, why bother yourself? In fact, sometimes stress and unhappiness come from yourself, not others. We need to surpass ourselves, not others.
There is a poem written like this: "You are happy, you are happy, and the flowers are blooming hard; You are depressed, you are sad, and it is difficult to bloom. "Yes, that's right: happiness and unhappiness, happiness and unhappiness, are all in your own mind and in your own hands.
As teachers, when we are suddenly enlightened, it is the time when the third realm comes.
At this time, you will feel that you have really found pleasure in your work. You really love your career as much as your life and your students as much as your children. Everything is done in the most natural state, no matter what it is, don't force it, just let nature take its course.
We should restore ourselves to a real person, a natural person. Don't be extreme and narrow-minded, don't be eager for quick success, don't be petty, and be calm and calm.
In this way, we will face the gains and losses of our work calmly: if we are excellent, we will continue to work hard, and if we are backward, we will continue to struggle. As long as we don't perfunctory our work, we all face it with a sense of responsibility, so don't let the temporary success or failure affect our mentality, our mood and our thoughts. Therefore, we will neither raise ourselves nor despise ourselves.
In this way, we will face our colleagues frankly: he is excellent and outspoken, and he dares to express his ideas because he is confident, and he never wants to "express himself;" He spoke frankly about you because he was sincere and frank. He never wants to "hit others". He "reports good news but not bad news" to you, that is, he will appreciate and understand others and never "attempt"; He doesn't care about all kinds of "right and wrong" you bring him. It's not that he is weak, but that he is tolerant ... and so on. In this way, we will find that every smile of colleagues is kind, not cunning, and every communication is sincere, not antagonistic.
In this way, we will also frankly face all kinds of so-called "mistakes" and "stupidity" of students. Because they are still children, it is time to learn how to learn, how to be a man and how to live. They need time. They need tolerance, guidance and love. Then you won't be furious because of the poor grades of students; Will not be cynical because a student is deducted for being late for class; You won't be sad because of students' poor evaluation of their teaching ... Whenever students make mistakes, be tolerant, care and reasonable, and you will conquer all students and parents with your personality charm. Why did children at that time fear you with wary eyes? Why worry about being in a bad mood, being happy at work and studying?
So, if you are still wandering, depressed and sinking in some bad mood, please knock on the door of the third realm, and many people are waiting for you. Free and easy, you will be better.