Who comes from rivers and lakes, but is confined to day and night, kitchen and love?

Recently, a Korean drama "Postpartum Sanatorium" is very popular. It comes from tvN, the birthplace of the gold medal drama, and tells the story of a woman giving birth to a child & confinement.

The "postpartum sanatorium" mentioned in the title of the film is probably equivalent to the "Confucius Center" in China.

It doesn't matter if you don't chase, you will be surprised if you chase.

The scale of this drama is so large that it rarely shows in detail the intimate things that only pregnant women have experienced.

However, its goal is not to make mothers recall the past and cry. Instead, it is a Korean drama wrapped in a comedy shell.

It dispels the cruelty of "human truth" in an exaggerated and even playful style.

The import of Tianding is usually a happy event for a family to tell each other, but many people selectively avoid talking about it and turn a blind eye to the pain a woman has experienced as a mother.

"Not every mother is like this. Why take it out? "

"No matter how hard it is, isn't it worthwhile to see the smiling face of the child?"

The drama "Postpartum Sanatorium" is not to sell anxiety, but to break these common prejudices.

Let these experiences be seen, respected and remembered. (Subtitle source TSKS Korean Drama Society, the same below)

The pain of childbirth

In "Postpartum Sanatorium", the heroine Wu is a 42-year-old woman and an elite in the workplace.

After years of hard work, she finally became the youngest executive in the company, and because of pregnancy, she became the oldest maternity in the hospital.

Until the day of production, Wu was still working nonstop.

She stopped the big client from signing the contract while racing, and her amniotic fluid broke on the spot, so she had to call an ambulance immediately.

Looking at this calm gas field, the medical staff can't help wondering whether she is a family member or a mother herself.

Wu came to the hospital to prepare for delivery. Finally, this drama did not describe the birth of pregnant women like most domestic TV dramas, but took several close-ups of the distorted face, and then heard the crying of the child.

"Postpartum Sanatorium" divides giving birth into five stages:

Humiliation period-animal period (painful finger opening period)-painless kingdom period (after painless injection)-crazy party period (labor time)-Pierer period (first child).

The "humiliating period" is the period when pregnant women are waiting for labor in the hospital after their amniotic fluid is broken. During this period, doctors and nurses will conduct a number of tests on pregnant women.

Including but not limited to enema, shaving, finger opening, oxygen inhalation, infusion, etc.

Under the simple science popularization, "internal examination" means putting the whole hand into the private parts with great strength. With the contraction, most pregnant women feel unbearable pain.

In the process of delivery, pregnant women will be "internally examined" many times, and Wu in the play is "lucky" to become a male obstetrician's explanation case.

Three men took turns to look at themselves and study how many fingers she opened, which made her want to swear.

From this moment on, pregnant women must be prepared to be stabbed, pulled and shaved at any time.

Even if you haven't digested this unbearable emotion, the next stage of "animal period" will come soon.

Accompanied by severe contractions, it became a "beast that only cries for help."

Wu begged the doctor: "Please give me a painless injection, doctor." Fortunately, she waited for the painless needle and came to the "painless heaven".

In fact, many pregnant women can't be painless for various reasons, so they can only endure the crazy party period (the moment of delivery). No one can know how long this process will take.

At the last moment of delivery, Wu ying came to the doctor's "education".

"What's the use of shouting? Don't just shout! " "You want to be as hard as defecation, don't you know? Push the baby out! "

Here, I want to popularize a common sense for everyone. In almost all film and television works, pregnant women give birth to babies with loud cries.

Yelling is the most taboo in actual production. Making a hullabaloo about will distract you and do you no good.

At this time, some doctors will directly reprimand the parturient and tell her to stop screaming, but the great pain will be unbearable.

Wu fainted during childbirth. She once walked into the gate of hell and finally knocked the messenger of the underworld into the water, saving her life.

Although this passage is presented in a funny way, it is still sad to think about it carefully.

Every mother and child is a lifelong friendship.

When the child was born, the heroine only thought of one sentence: Wu Xianjing's real life is over.

After she gave birth to a baby just after a narrow escape, she lay in bed looking at her parents-in-law, surrounded by newborn babies, and her lips were chapped, and no one paid any attention.

The first person to wet his lips with water was his own mother.

The truly cruel scene in the world officially opened.

Breastfeeding campaign

Only those who have experienced it can understand the bitterness. You think having a baby is the end, but it is actually the beginning of a marathon.

If the pain of giving birth in a short time is heartbreaking.

Then the pain of breastfeeding is a long torture and suffering.

Anyway, it's all about the milk.

Please don't say to the novice mother, "Isn't it just a milk?" ?

The hardship of breastfeeding is something that many male compatriots will never feel.

China people have the obsession of "not catching a cold", and so do Koreans.

Not to mention the iced American coffee that the heroine thinks about day and night.

I can only drink all kinds of fancy milk soup until I want to vomit.

Don't you want to eat? You don't want to eat, you have to eat. Where did you get milk if you didn't eat?

Isn't it said that milk is directly proportional to maternal love?

In the postpartum nursing home, all the voices Wu heard were "Breastfeeding is good for children's development", "Breastfeeding is proof of a mother's love" and "Don't be a selfish mother"

But when she tried breastfeeding for the first time, she was stung by the child.

In fact, some mothers who are not breastfeeding well will be bitten to chapped nipples or even broken skin. The solution can only be to run in slowly, apply nipple cream and bite your teeth.

There are still many difficulties and troubles in breastfeeding.

For example, Zhang Ziyi once mentioned that the pain caused by physiological milk is aggravated. "The pain is not lower than contractions or childbirth, and the breasts are as hard as two indestructible stones."

For example, many mothers will encounter mastitis and even have a high fever. Wu in the play also went through this difficult process.

For example, the "time cost" not mentioned in the film, mothers who insist on breastfeeding will spend unimaginable time on breastfeeding.

They can't stay away from their babies for too long, sometimes they feel that they "paint the ground as a prison" and they can't go a little further.

If you are not around, the baby is hungry and crying, and can't eat the bottle, it is a disaster.

The most fatal thing is that once you start breastfeeding, your breasts will be requisitioned and your sleep will be occupied.

Babies need to breastfeed 8- 10 times a day in the neonatal period, which means that they need to breastfeed every two or three hours day and night.

Many mothers see the night at 1: 00, 2: 00, 3: 00, 4: 00 and 5: 00 in the morning and never sleep all night again.

Wu, who was tortured by breast milk, wanted to give up. Encouraged by the "Le Mi Mama" who doesn't breastfeed in the play, she wants to let herself go after drinking.

Li Luduo in Mi Le Horse is a representative figure of rebellious mother.

She refused to breastfeed, restricted herself barefoot, and insisted on working during maternity leave.

Compared with those who insist on maternal love first, she is more selfish, or loves herself more.

In her eyes, the milk of a mother who has accumulated a lot of pressure is not necessarily better than milk powder.

Breast milk or milk powder is not that important, it's just mom's choice.

If most people have heard of the severe pain on the day of delivery and breastfeeding afterwards, many people know little about the many sequelae caused by delivery.

With the sharp drop of hormone level, the parturient will feel out of control.

In "Postpartum Sanatorium", some details of "reproductive sequelae" are mentioned.

For example, urine leakage, due to the relaxation of pelvic floor muscles caused by pregnancy and childbirth, many women will leak urine when coughing, sneezing or laughing, and even continue to worry for many years.

Ella, the actress, once admitted that she had the problem of postpartum urinary leakage, which failed to improve for three years. To this end, she specially had a repair operation.

For example, the "big aunt" who will come about a month after delivery, that is, "postpartum lochia."

For example, hair loss, such as indelible stretch marks, such as giving birth to a stomach that doesn't shrink so quickly.

However, what is more difficult than the feeling of losing control of the body is the sense of identity tearing.

Wu in the play has many identity tags. She used to be an elite in the workplace and the youngest manager in the company.

But she is only called "mother glue stick" here, and glue stick is her child's nickname.

Her past achievements are not important, and her ability and strength are not cared about.

Even she is confused. "I don't know who I am, not who I used to be."

In the postpartum nursing home, the division of classes by "motherhood" is as strict as the snow country train.

Wu Xian is indeed an older child, with insufficient breast milk and lack of parenting information. He is in the last carriage of the train.

What kind of "mother" is the perfect mother who meets the expectations of society?

As a woman, is the identity of "mother" necessarily more important than other identities? Do we have to balance family and work?

If it is difficult to balance, do other identities have to give way to "mom"?

These anxiety and hesitation about novice mothers, inner conflicts and choices are thought-provoking places in postpartum sanatorium.

Just pat the skin?

Some netizens said that after watching this drama, they felt that it was not easy to raise children. No, it's actually much more difficult than that.

As a novice mother, it is necessary for the author to point out some obvious mistakes and injuries in the play.

For example, Wu Xian really went to the hospital because of "breaking water". After being "enema", she turned over and got out of bed to go to the toilet, which was unreasonable.

Because the lying-in women need to lie flat all the time after the water is broken, so as to avoid the rapid loss of amniotic fluid, all diets and Lazar must be solved in bed.

For example, a woman who has just given birth and hasn't left the hospital can hardly walk as fast as the heroine in the play.

Many women will take the most painful and difficult step in their lives when they get out of bed for the first time. They just need someone to help them when they get out of bed for a few steps, otherwise they will easily faint.

It is difficult for pregnant women to be as glamorous as the mother in the play when they are confined to the moon.

Because they are afraid of catching cold or the wound hasn't healed, they are still weak, and influenced by traditional ideas, many people don't take a bath all month, and their hair is oily.

Even in the month center, it is difficult for novice mothers to have so much time to get together. Every day, sisters chat, have afternoon tea or intrigue. Even if you are free, other mothers are not free.

Hey, aren't moms on maternity leave? Why not?

Feeding the baby+burping+sleeping+changing diapers+parent-child interaction every day, mothers often need to eat three meals+staying up late+taking time to make up sleep, so the whole day is full and there is no leisure time.

Feeding milk alone has consumed more than half of the new mother's energy.

To take a step back, in reality, only a few mothers will choose the moon center.

Why, because it's expensive!

Taking Beijing as an example, 50-65,438+10,000 yuan is the "starting level" price of the Confucius Center, and it is entirely possible to spend hundreds of thousands. Compared with the new moon in 1-20000, the price of the Confucius Center is too high.

In reality, more people still choose to take care of their families or take care of the new moon. Mothers who can afford to live in the center of the month have already stood at the top of the maternal "contempt chain".

In the play, the collective trusteeship-style moon center makes the biggest uncontrollable variable-children, so good.

The heroine's children "glue sticks" are basically not monsters!

He lies quietly in the crib every day, either smiling at his mother or nursing quietly.

In the play, the heroine receives a phone call, then goes to the nursing room with a nursing pillow, takes the smiling baby in Yue Yue's hand, and prepares to start breastfeeding.

The details of this "answering the phone" made me laugh. The baby's crying is much harsher than the telephone ringing.

The reality is that whenever the baby cries, it is necessary to start preparing for breastfeeding immediately. Some anxious people will cry instantly, and there is no time to delay.

Another heroine took a cushion hollowed out in the middle to nurse. This detail is very good.

It's hard for people who haven't given birth to children to imagine that many new mothers can't sit down normally during confinement.

Because it will oppress the wound with stitches in the private parts, you must sit down with this cushion, you can't sit for a long time, you can only lie down and feed.

Moreover, the mother of caesarean section can't sit down and use this breast-feeding pillow because the abdominal wound is still not healed.

Strangely, the screenwriter clearly thought of this detail, but everyone in the play was still sitting and nursing.

Even though there are still various details that can't stand scrutiny, we still want to thank the play.

This drama takes the "Moon Center" as the stage, which embodies different lives and similar maternal love of different mothers.

But today, we don't want to praise the greatness of maternal love.

Because too many mothers will willingly give up themselves, and never mention physical pain and inner struggle.

"Do mothers have to be happy?"

There may be no standard answer to this question.

A woman can have many identities. She can be a wife, a mother or a daughter, but the most important identity is herself.

I hope everyone who has seen this drama can show more respect and understanding to the novice mother.

Mom is not superman, they are just ordinary people with flesh and blood, laughter and tears.

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