First, correct the concept of education.
Childhood is an important transition period for the formation of good behavior habits. Tao Xingzhi, a great thinker of people's education
Mr. Wang once said: "Most of the important habits and attitudes needed in life can be cultivated successfully before the age of six." In other words, the most important period of personality cultivation is before the age of six.
The development of children's good behavior habits cannot be separated from the family's attention. Many parents hold the idea of "looking forward to the success of their children" and "looking forward to the success of their daughters", and take care of their children in every way in their study and life, but ignore the cultivation of good behavior and let themselves go. Some parents even think that if I send my child to kindergarten, it doesn't matter if I let him learn more. These misconceptions of parents not only greatly affect the effect of teachers teaching children good behavior, but also indirectly reflect them in children's minds and become children's ideas. There is an English proverb: "Action forms habit, habit forms character, and character determines fate." It can be seen that habits play an important role in a person's life, which requires parents to establish correct concepts. While studying, don't forget to cultivate children's good behavior habits.
Second, use scientific educational methods.
1, forging children's good behavior habits in practice. The formation of behavior comes from practice, and the formation of habits depends more on practical activities, which is the key to the formation of children's good behavior. Due to the reasons of ideas and feelings, some parents still adopt the infant education method for their children aged four or five (even older). For example, parents dress school-age children, wash their faces and feed them, and do what they can for them. This kind of arranged substitution behavior of parents not only deprives children of all kinds of exercise rights, but also makes their dependence psychology more stubborn. If this goes on, children will become lazy, arrogant and even incompetent. How to develop good behavior habits?
2. Training should be persistent. There are also some parents who pay more attention to the cultivation of their children's good behavior, but they don't have enough patience to cultivate and teach their children, which is contradictory to asking their children to form good behavior habits. Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's independence, try their best to let them do what they can, let them learn good behavior habits such as eating, sleeping, washing and interpersonal communication independently in daily life and interpersonal relationships, and let them get an understanding of "how to do it", form a series of behavior patterns, and constantly practice and strengthen them in practical activities, making them a natural habit. This requires parents to have enough patience to teach their children and let them develop good behavior habits.
Step 3 tell the truth. Reasoning is a way to raise awareness. The ability to distinguish right from wrong in early childhood is poor, and it is inevitable that you will do something wrong. Severe lessons and criticisms may harden the relationship between parents and children. At this time, parents should patiently and meticulously reason with their children according to their understanding level, and let them find their mistakes through concise language. At the same time, they should be careful not to use negative tones such as "no" and "no", guide them from the front, avoid criticizing and guiding his bad behavior, and tell him directly: you should ... For example, parents should tell him that it is wrong to rob someone else's toys. As a child myself, I have heard a lot of truth, and a good code of conduct naturally has a place in my heart.
4. Appropriate encouragement and praise. Encouragement and praise are a kind of spiritual nutrition that children need in the process of growing up, and also a good way to strengthen good behavior habits. Children like to listen to good words, like to be praised, and know themselves in people's evaluation of him. Educator Professor Chen Heqin once said: "It is easy for anyone to be inspired to reform, but it is even harder to be punished to reform." Therefore, parents should give priority to positive encouragement and praise for their children, while negative criticism will only discourage them. Parents should encourage and praise their children according to their age characteristics. Children under the age of three should be encouraged to praise more. For example, when a mother sees a child fall, don't rush to help him up. She can immediately say, "The baby is so brave. If he falls, he will get up by himself and won't cry. " Originally, the child might cry, but after listening to his mother's encouragement, he might get up from the ground and stop crying. For children over three years old, because of their strong self-awareness and sensitive evaluation of adults, they have a strong desire to be praised. This requires parents to encourage and praise appropriately, and they should not wear "high hats" for their children, so that they can't get a correct evaluation of their behavior. In this way, gradually he will think that praise is appropriate. Without praise, they will do nothing, and even develop hypocritical or flattering behavior for praise. Praise should mainly praise children's efforts, such as correcting shortcomings and overcoming difficulties. Praise for children should be specific about what is good and let him follow and carry forward. Appropriate praise can promote the formation of children's good behavior habits.
5. The influence of nonverbal information. At first, children took their parents' behavior as an example and gradually formed their own behavior habits through assimilation. Because nonverbal information is more vivid than verbal information, parents' own behavior has an important influence on their children. Parents put forward some requirements for their children, such as paying attention to hygiene and behaving in a civilized manner, and parents should also have good behavior habits in daily life, which has a positive effect on strengthening the formation of children's good behavior habits. Children gradually form their own behavior habits while imitating their parents' good habits. The so-called "teaching by example is more important than teaching by words" is the truth.
For some children's bad behaviors, parents can reduce and control the frequency of children's bad behaviors by giving them unpleasant nonverbal stimuli, such as gazing (staring at children with cold eyes for a long time), distance control (approaching or leaving children) and minor punishment (taking away children's favorite items), which will make children feel guilty and ashamed of their wrong behaviors, thus reducing and eliminating the number of bad behaviors.
Third, pay attention to the role of the environment.
In the early stage of children's life, there are few inherent knowledge and behavior habits, so it is easier to cultivate children to establish new correct knowledge and behavior habits. As the saying goes, if you are near Zhu Zhechi, you will be black, if you are near Mexico. Many data show that children's bad behavior habits are more or less influenced by the bad behavior of adults and partners. Meng Mu chose his neighbor and lived there, which became a much-told story for his godson.
Secondly, the role of parents as role models has a subtle influence on the formation of children's good behavior. Children are good at imitating and thinking figuratively. Adult's good behavior habit is a direct example of his study, which effectively affects the formation of children's good behavior habit.
In a word, family education has an important influence on the formation of children's good behavior habits, which benefits people for life.
How to teach your baby to learn math teaching arrangement
Attitude:
Encourage and stimulate children's learning motivation, and don't stifle the fun of learning.
Teaching environment:
1, quiet, not disturbed by noise and people entering and leaving the space.
2. Open space without other visual interference
3. A coach should not wear strange clothes or clothes.
Teaching opportunities:
You must play math with the happiest mood. If you are in a bad mood, you must adjust.
Practice time:
The time for each exercise should not be too long. At the beginning, in principle, it is done three times a day, only once each time.
A few seconds. And it should be finished before the child is finished, so as to stimulate the child's desire to continue learning.
Teaching methods:
1. Teachers' enthusiasm for teaching will stimulate children's interest in learning and improve the learning effect.
2. The faster you practice, the more new textbooks you have, the happier you feel and the better the effect.
Instead of swimming far but intermittently, it is better to keep practicing every day.
4. Teach your children with your heart, but don't take exams.
Prepare teaching aid cards:
1, cut the white cardboard into a square of 28cm*28cm.
2. There are 1 to 100 red dots on each card with a diameter of1.9cm..
3, the front is a dot, and the back four corners are written with numbers, which is convenient for teachers to check.
4. Don't paste points into geometric figures.
5, starting from the middle, irregularly stick points, do not overlap each other.
6. Leave some blanks around the card so that when you pinch the card with your fingers, it won't cover the dots.
7. If you get zero in math, you don't need to stick it.
Learning plan and method:
First, know the word card counting. 10 day can teach the 20th card counting from 1 (1-kloc-0/0 day).
The first thing a baby needs to learn is to know numbers, not abstract numbers. Don't read the cards in sequence, and don't let the child repeat the numbers you told him.
1, five cards on the first day (1-5), take out the first card and tell him (don't sort) that this is 1, the second card tells him that this is 3, and so on. After reading five cards, hug and kiss your child in the warmest way, praise him for being cute and smart, and teach him math. You are also very happy. It was done three times on the first day, with an interval of at least 30 minutes. Do it three times on the first day.
2. Five new cards (6- 10) were added the next day, and there were two groups of cards. Randomly mix ten cards and divide them into two groups. This is to make teaching games fresh and interesting.
3. It lasts for 5 days. Starting from the sixth day, a new card is needed, and the old card is not used. On the first day, remove two old cards with the least points and add two new cards. For the first time, 1 and 2 were removed, and two were added, 1 1 and 12.
4. Teaching 10 cards every day is divided into two groups with 5 cards in each group. Add two new cards every day, one for each group, and return the two old cards with the least points.
Second, the counting exercise and addition exercise, the counting card is taught from 13 to 14 at 48 o'clock (1 1-24 days).
When the baby learns 1 to 20, we start to put these numbers together and see how much the total will become. This is addition.
1, put three cards of 1, 2, 3 on your knees, pick up the card of 1 and say 1, put it down, then say "add", then pick up the card of 2 and say "2", put it down and say "equal" and then say 3.
2. The first formula only takes a few seconds and does not explain the meaning of "add" and "equal".
3. Only three formulas are made in each exercise, and the time is very short. Do not repeat the formula every time. Practice three times a day and make nine different recipes.
4. Do 9 different formulas every day. After two weeks, you can start teaching subtraction, otherwise the baby will gradually lose attention and interest.
Third, the practice of addition and subtraction, 14 days counting card from 4 1 to 76 (25-38 days).
The practice method is the same as addition.
Fourth, the integral exercise and multiplication exercise, 14 days integral card from 69 to 100 points (39-52 days).
The practice method is the same as addition.
Five, scoring exercises, 14 days review card 0- 100 points (53-66 days)-
The practice method is the same as addition.
Daily course progress: from the second day to 10 days.
One day's progress: two sets of cards
Each exercise: one set (five cards)
Times: each group of cards is practiced three times a day.
Time: 3-5 seconds each time.
New cards: add two cards every day (one for each group)
Old card: change two cards every day (the two with the least points)
Life of each card: practice 3 times a day * 5 days = 15 times in total.
Principle: the baby is not finished yet.
Daily course progress: day 1 1 to day 66.
Six times a day with an interval of at least 35 minutes.
Lesson 65438 +0: Know the circle number of the card and add (subtract, multiply and divide).
Lesson 2: Know the number of circles in a card.
Lesson 3: Know the circle number of the card and add (subtraction, multiplication and division).
Lesson 4: Understand the dots on the card.
Lesson 5: Know the circle number of the card and do addition (subtraction, multiplication and division).
Lesson 6: Understand the dots of the card
After the age of 2, the effect of this method will gradually decline, so if you want to implement it as soon as possible, you must at least count the cards first.
It can easily teach a child under 1 to add, subtract, multiply and divide, and it can be done well within 3 or 4 years old. In order to ensure that the method is correct and suitable for children in China, I made an international call and consulted an early education expert in Taiwan Province Province! This method is very good, experts say it can be 100% successful! This method is really hard-won. It took me half a year to find someone to buy it for me, because it was not sold in Chinese mainland! After I bought it, it took me 2 days to put together a detailed plan!
The Influence of Parents' Quality on Children's Education
The basic education reform in China is carried out under the background of the world education reform. Although modern education must have a lot in common to learn from, the reform can only go its own way. The direction and goal of educational reform is to face the 2 1 century and establish a new educational system that adapts to the national economic and social development; The motive force of reform is to meet the challenges of world political and economic competition, scientific and technological competition and talent competition; Reform is no longer limited to a certain aspect or stage of education, but an all-round overall reform of education. China must adhere to the socialist education policy, strive to implement quality education, and solve the problem of all-round development of every student under the guidance of the education policy of facing modernization, facing the world and facing the future. The unavoidable big problem needs the common concern of parents, teachers and people with educational ability from all walks of life to complete it together. In order to improve the quality of new teaching and fully implement quality education. I made a thorough and detailed investigation and study on the quality of parents of students in this class.
I. Basic information about the contents of the survey
1. Occupational survey
109 Among the parents, 23 have parents working in government agencies, of whom 1 has died and has not remarried; 13 parents belong to non-agricultural population and do not engage in any work; There are 19 parents engaged in business, and two are powerful private bosses; There are 8 parents working locally; 46 of the parents are agricultural people.
2. Diploma survey
109 Among the parents, Wen Shu has a bachelor's degree; College diplomas include Ma Hongyan, Ma Minxian, Na Chengsuo, Zhao Min and Gui Lei; Technical secondary school diploma15; High school diploma17; 23 junior high school diplomas; Primary school diploma16; 32 illiterate people.
3. Family survey
Among these parents, 18 is separated from each other; There are 4 divorced people; Widow1; There are six children who can't afford to go to school because of family poverty and rely on others to support them; Others belong to normal families.
4. Pay attention to the investigation of students' learning.
Among all parents, 20 parents are not at home for a long time because of the nature of their work, and still care about their children's study by telephone; There are 39 parents who can't help with homework and only play a supervisory role; The two families are relatively rich and neglect the discipline of their children; There are 48 parents who care about their students' study.
5. Promote the investigation of children's hard work and simplicity.
① The lucky money given to children by ordinary relatives and friends is used for bank deposits of 35 people; 15 people let go; There are 45 children who save themselves or put them in piggy banks; There are 14 people who have no financial resources.
There are 56 people who want to explain the usual use of children's pocket money; There are 22 people who don't ask about the situation; 3 1 people only tell their children to save as much as possible.
③ There are 50 parents who meet their children's shopping requirements (with good grades); At that time, 40 people wanted to give it without agreeing; Directly unqualified 19 bit.
④ There are 18 children who don't eat a little pocket money during meals as an excuse; There are 58 people who guide children to eat normally; 33 people were forced to eat.
6. A survey to guide children to do housework
Some 18 people asked to be their own helpers in cooking, washing dishes, washing clothes and cleaning. There are 20 children who are required to do housework such as washing clothes, dressing, folding quilts and shining shoes. There are 40 people who only ask for homework without instructing their children to do housework; There are 3 1 person who do not force or guide children to do housework.
Two. Analysis of survey results
It can be seen from the survey results that: 1. The overall quality of parents of our class is not high. Bachelor degree or above 1 person, 5 in junior college, and 0/5 in secondary school/kloc. Most of them have high school education or below, and 32 are illiterate. 2. Complex family relationships have a certain impact on children's learning. Parents divorced, separated, because of long-term professional relationship or little contact with their children, poverty and illiteracy account for a large proportion. There are a few people who don't take their children's studies seriously. There are 48 parents who pay special attention to their children's learning, accounting for only 44% of the total number of surveys. 4. Cultivating children's self-care ability and simple habits, except for a few parents, most parents don't pay much attention to it.
Three. Reflection after investigation
1. Whether quality education can be effectively implemented has a great relationship with the whole society, especially parents, because "ideological and moral, physical and mental health" and other aspects must have good influence from social families at the same time, and it is ineffective to rely solely on compulsory means of schools.
The survey shows that parents' quality is generally low, and the influence on many children is not ideal, because parents are children's first teachers, and basic education is almost a decisive link. From practice, we also feel that all the teachers in the school have made great efforts, but the results are very small, and some even turn over the soup at any time. Today, they corrected a mistake, and tomorrow they will make the same mistake. In view of the above situation, we should not only take children as the center, but also look at their parents, their activity environment and their interpersonal relationship when we carry out all-round education in morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor at school. Positive factors that can be mobilized should be fully mobilized.
2. How to educate children from special families?
Children from special families can only improve teaching efficiency by taking some special measures to gradually cultivate their self-study habits and strengthen the cultivation of self-study ability. Find out some advantages of children as children, and teachers will spend more time and care more. I believe these children will be trained into excellent talents. The child has an excellent memory and is very sensitive to the teacher's emotions. Sometimes they study for the teacher's love, which is contrary to the teacher's indifference. They even began to play truant, listless, doze off and play practical jokes in class. The teacher doesn't listen and doesn't want to do his homework. They often call to ask questions and are indifferent to the teacher's criticism. According to these advantages and disadvantages of children, teachers should take care of most students when giving lectures, try to make the text lively, rhyme some difficult questions or enhance the memory of some common things, and don't do what is required in class after class. The weight of homework should be as small as possible, giving them more time and space to play their strengths. Let them study nervously, do it easily, inadvertently accumulate some new knowledge and receive some new education.
(2) Establish student-student mutual assistance activities. Student-student mutual aid activities can help make up for the defect that some parents can't help their children finish their homework normally, and fully mobilize students with good grades, help students with poor grades and mobilize this main force, which will receive good teaching results. On the one hand, it has improved the enthusiasm, initiative and pride of most students; On the other hand, it is easier for students to communicate their thoughts and feelings, and it is easier to learn without tension, which cultivates the learning interest of poor students. The atmosphere became lively, and many questions suddenly became simple. The homework that was originally completed in one hour can now be completed in half an hour, which improves the learning efficiency and speeds up the teaching progress. Students who were originally afraid of attending classes also became diligent, and teachers scrambled to answer questions. When they become active, they all hope to get the teacher's roll call. I am flattered by the correct answer. They will think, "I can also get the appreciation and attention of teachers!" " "Poor students' awareness of learning has been improved in this way.
③ The influence of family education on children. In my investigation, I found such a problem: parents all said, "What the teacher said should be an imperial edict, and it is accurate to say it." They are still very strict with their children. They beat and cursed hard, but they wouldn't listen. Anyway, the result is not good. What is the reason? In fact, it is improper guidance and education methods. Nowadays, children are greatly influenced by the family environment, and many ideas are beyond their actual age. If parents still treat them like dolls, they will usually be unscrupulous, outspoken and do things without looking at anything. They always think that children are not sensible. In fact, parents' words and deeds, every move, dolls can see in their eyes and remember in their hearts, but they just don't say it verbally. Give him advice when they do something wrong. If it doesn't match what he saw and heard, they will ask questions in a rhetorical way, making parents laugh and cry. In order to hide his embarrassment, he can only say: "Children are not sensible, so don't worry about adults." Of course they are not satisfied, but there is nothing they can do. Your words and deeds are not exemplary. How can we train children? Therefore, as parents, we should not only be strict with our children, but also restrain our bad behaviors, always pay attention to our words and deeds, and don't leave some bad images in our children's minds. It is a long process for children to have a good living environment, habits and lifestyles, which cannot be achieved overnight, but depends on long-term exercise and training.
3. How can students, parents and teachers be unified?
The purpose of investigation and study is to solve the substantive problems existing in the work. To put it bluntly, it is to solve the healthy growth of children. Judging from the contents of the above survey, in the final analysis, it is the crux of the problem: the overall quality of parents of students is not high, which is understandable, but it does not mean that the next generation of children will be poorly educated. The key depends on the improper method and whether you have fulfilled your responsibilities. Since everyone is working hard for a common goal, we should unite, work hard and take our own shortcomings as the driving force to promote the development of education. How can we unite students, parents and teachers?
① Exchange ideas. Man is a higher animal in the world. From the fetus in the womb to the centenarian, he has thoughts, but the thoughts in each period are different. Children's thoughts are dependent, and they want to be praised and encouraged by their parents and teachers in everything they do. Even if they sometimes do something wrong, they want to hear convincing instruction. Parents and teachers have almost the same idea: parents want their children to get good grades and teachers want their students to become talents. The unity of thought and purpose has better promoted the ideological communication among students, parents and teachers, and the coordination and unity of thought and practice.
② Division of labor and cooperation. Students are the bond between parents and teachers. Now that we have come together, for a common goal-the growth and future of children. When students are in school, teachers have the obligation to impart knowledge to every student and teach them the principles and principles of being a human being. Parents have the responsibility to supervise and discipline their children. It is the bounden responsibility of parents not only to manage their children's food and clothing, but also to urge them to finish their homework and cultivate their good study habits.
In short, the implementation of quality education is related to the rise and fall of the country, the prosperity of the nation and the future of children. Schools and families should strengthen cooperation and unify their pace. Families should not leave their children at school, but should cooperate with Qi Xin.