On the cover, the sentence "Love is an instinct, but how to express love needs to be learned" tells how many parents care for their children. In fact, we have been looking forward to a model of educating children, or the emergence of a good prescription, which can ask questions, ask questions and prescribe prescriptions for "symptoms" in the process of children's growth. However, each child's personality characteristics are different, and it is impossible to solve any problems in family education in time with the same method. Fortunately, some similar stories give us reference value. This book "Love You for 365 Days" combines parenting stories, parenting experiences and parenting sentiments, and lets us see the warm record between a wise mother and her children. Prose-like expression, let us find the answer to "how to love children" in idle reading.
Some time ago, an online news about "a junior three boy in Jiangxia District of Wuhan jumped off the building after being slapped by his mother in the corridor" caused a hot discussion among netizens: Is the child too fragile or the mother too strict? The regretful mother will spend the rest of her life in guilt and regret. "How is it right to love children?" This problem is naked in front of us, which makes us feel confused and at a loss as new parents.
In the book, Teacher Dany answered the common questions in the Nineteenth Parenting Education, such as tolerance, gratitude, sense of ceremony, resilience and so on. After reading it, we realized many keys to parenting education.
First, a good parent-child relationship needs companionship. Most of the township schools where I work are left-behind children without their parents. Many of them have personality defects of one kind or another, such as paranoia, conflict with others and rudeness. All because their parents have been away for a long time and have not implemented education well. Children need to talk, but no one listens. Over time, it has become such a situation that "no one cares when children should be in charge, but they can't care when they grow up." The author spent ten years accompanying his children to grow up and recording every bit of life. Children grow up with love and companionship, and form excellent qualities under the supervision of their parents, so that they will not miss the critical education period at the age when their parents are most needed.
Second, a good parent-child relationship needs communication. Children need the care of their parents and the guidance of language. Positive language has the potential to promote children's development. Parents need to communicate with their children from an equal angle, respect their children and accept their personalized discovery. In the process of communication, you will find your child's problems in time, thus guiding your child to establish a correct outlook on life and values and develop in a healthy direction. Children will also treat you as a friend and share their inner "little secrets" with you, so that you can better understand the obstacles your children encounter in the process of growing up and gain more trust from them. Children grow up in a warm family environment. From the dialogue between the author and the children, we also see good qualities such as self-confidence and optimism in the children.
Third, a good parent-child relationship requires learning. How to love children is a profound knowledge. Parents should take the attitude of learning, take the initiative to master some ingenious problem-solving skills in parenting education, and constantly absorb more knowledge of pedagogy and psychology, which can be directly applied to the process of solving practical problems. Parents keep learning and solve problems scientifically, which makes it easy for children to cross the obstacles on the road of growth, and also allows children to gain a subtle influence from your learning quality. The reason why the author can get along well with children and make them have good quality is inseparable from her efforts. She goes to explore the problems that children may encounter in the process of growing up and find effective methods.
Love you for 365 days, not a day less. Integrate love into life and parenting education, record the precious past for children with the brilliance of maternal love, spend a better present with children and talk about a better future with them.