Sharla Cheung, a 4-year-old female, is a middle-class kindergarten child with poor family economy. At the age of three, her father fell in a pool of blood to save her from a car accident, and she happened to witness the tragedy at a young age. Since then, it has left a deep imprint on her young mind and changed her psychology: timid, not interested in anything, not interacting with peers in the group, depressed and taciturn. Especially-when she hears her peers talking about their parents happily, she will cry sadly and say to herself, "I don't have a father, my father is dead."
First, the reason analysis:
Through talking with Min Min's mother, I learned that her family's economic situation is relatively poor, and the welfare benefits of the father's unit are poor. Their family lives with their grandparents. She is a "foreign girl", so she cherishes working in a small restaurant. She is busy and has long working hours. Usually, children have the most contact with their father, who likes her very much since childhood, and children have the deepest attachment and feelings for their father. Min Min was also a lively and talkative child before he was three years old. Seeing my father's tragic death under the wheel, I was greatly stimulated and stressed mentally and psychologically. At that time, although she seemed to understand, as she grew older, she knew that her father would never come back to her and would never pick her up for kindergarten. She is afraid that others will talk about her father because she has no father and look down on her. At home, the people who have the most contact are grandparents. They don't play with her and tell her stories every day like dad, and she has less communication with them. Over time, psychological barriers arise.
Second, the process of psychological counseling and education
Faced with the situation in Sharla Cheung, I took the following steps:
The first step: strengthen the contact with home, teachers and parents give their children full caress to make up for lost love and heal the trauma of the soul. Advise parents to spend as much time with their children as possible every day, communicate with her more, tell interesting and happy things and stories that children like to hear. Try to meet children's necessary material requirements in material life, try to care about children's life, so that her material living standard can be similar to that of ordinary families with both parents, and eliminate children's inferiority complex.
In kindergarten, I often chat with her alone for a while through games and free activities, using some body language, such as: smiling at the child, holding the child's small hand, patting her shoulder and so on. Let her feel the love and care of the teacher. In addition, find out the child's advantages and give positive affirmation on appropriate occasions, so that the child can have psychological satisfaction and enhance her self-confidence.
Step 2: Build a caring bridge between teachers and students, let him feel the warmth from the class and restore a healthy psychological balance. And found a lively, gentle and talkative companion among the children to form a pair with her, make good friends, lead her to play together, and let her realize the happiness of collective life and the concern of her companions.
Step 3: Guide children to actively participate in group social activities. Encourage her and her companions to be duty students and put toys. Create some opportunities for her to play some pleasant "roles", guide her to participate in the story performance, and praise and encourage her in time. Cultivate their positive emotions and good character.
Step 4: Discover your child's interests and strengths and encourage her to show her strengths in front of everyone. I found that Min Min likes listening to stories very much and has a certain interest in telling stories, so I often create some opportunities for her to tell stories in front of the group. After each lecture, I applaud her happily to enhance her confidence. Help her get rid of negative and pessimistic emotions.
Third, think from the process of psychological counseling education.
Family is the cradle of children's healthy growth. Both parents are in a happy family, which is the most important condition for the healthy development of children's body and mind. A family without a father or a mother will often have a bad influence on the physical and mental development of children, causing trauma to the children's minds, and seriously changing the children's spirits and endangering their lives.
Teachers should be good at noticing children's psychological problems and find out the main reasons in time. Today's children are the future and hope of the motherland and the successors of the times. With the rapid development of modern society, children must have good psychological ability to adapt to the future society. Therefore, while cultivating children's all-round quality, teachers should learn more about psychology in order to be competent for today's education. We should attach importance to the psychological education of children in the spirit of being highly responsible for their lifelong development. Every teacher should be a child's psychological counselor. It is necessary to discover children's psychological problems in time, make use of the advantages and characteristics of the class collective, and carry out psychological education for children, so that each child can grow into an ideal, moral, disciplined and literate successor in the future, enhance the ability to bear various psychological pressures, improve psychological quality, and meet the needs of tomorrow's social construction.