When a child is in trouble or trouble, there is always one party who stands up and calls names, hoping to cultivate the child's memory in such a strict way, understand his mistakes and stop making mistakes. Then the other party came out to stop the abuse and comfort the child. Don't be scared by this lesson, let the children see love when they are severely punished.
Parents do this out of kindness for their children, but when children grow up, they gradually realize their parents' intentions and feel their deception, and they are unwilling to trust their parents easily, thus affecting the parent-child relationship. Education takes advantage of children's fears. Parents always severely reprimand their children, accuse them of their mistakes, guide them by scaring and accusing them, and make them obedient because of guilt. At this time, the child was just afraid and didn't realize the mistake. This way of singing a duet does not play a positive role in educating children, and children will continue to make mistakes.
Not conducive to the cultivation of children's values. Parents' behavior is a mirror that children imitate. If parents always show different attitudes in front of their children many times, children will think contradictory ideas and concepts. On the contrary, it will lead to differences of opinion and doubt children. Which side is right, how to choose and how to choose will have a negative impact on the formation of children's value system. Parents who affect the parent-child relationship play different roles in front of their children, and children will have a harsh side of fear and are unwilling to talk about intimate or worrying things. No matter how time passes, this impression will not change easily in children's minds. In addition, the image of the benevolent can not be disciplined, and eventually both parents are not pleasing in front of their children, which affects the parent-child relationship. Let the children know "look at the face". Parents always show inconsistent attitudes in front of their children, and even hold opposite attitudes. Who can meet their own requirements, who speaks badly, children will know to use this difference to get what they want and become a veritable "recognition."
"Achieving collinearity" is a good way to educate children. Parents should not always think that the "red face" and "white face" education methods are good for their children. The educational process is interactive. When we influence children, children will also react to us. In front of children, there are always different attitudes, which will have more negative effects. Therefore, parents still have to reach a consensus on educating their children.