In the process of growing up, many parents will compare other people's children with their own children, not only in academic performance, but also in all aspects of life. This will not only cause children's boredom, but also cause problems in parents' education methods, which will lead to the opposite of children's education.

In fact, children are more suitable for others, which can attract children's attention and make them work harder, but if they are too frequent with other children, they will be troubled by this behavior. Although it is easy for children to have a reference in some things to stimulate their competitiveness, if parents only pay attention to their children being inferior to others and don't pay attention to how much their children have improved, they will also pay attention to their own shortcomings and not their own advantages. In the long run, children will feel inferior and have no self-confidence, which is also the defect of parents' education for their children in this respect. In fact, for parents, it is often compared with other people's children and their own children, hoping that children can work harder to be as close as others. But before this idea breeds, I forgot to give my children a correct way to guide them to work harder, instead of always putting pressure on them to be more radical, which would be counterproductive.

As children, we certainly hope that our parents can give us some encouragement and see our progress, but parents often compare themselves with other children, which makes them very angry and annoyed. Even because I often compare with others and think that I am not as smart as I thought, I feel even more inferior. On the contrary, my child's personality defects have a negative impact on his life. Some children's rebellious mentality is more serious because of excessive comparison, and it is more difficult to discipline in life and study.

There is nothing wrong with parents wanting their children to succeed, but they must find the right way to educate their children. If they blindly focus on education and ignore the relationship between children and education, then many times these methods will become a stumbling block on their growth path. We might as well give our children more encouragement on the way to study, so that they can feel that they are making progress and that their parents are full of expectations and confidence in themselves. Therefore, as parents, when comparing their children with other children, they should be more decent, so that children can find their own shortcomings while seeing their own bright spots and try to correct them. Don't complain to children blindly, give them a big encouragement.