Seeing the child say this, many netizens may think that the child is an unfilial son. After all, your parents gave birth to you and raised you, but you slammed the door because of the poor economic conditions at home. This is a big violation. But is this really the case? Is the child really wrong? Actually, it's not. It's parents.

Xiaoka's family economic situation is not rich or expensive, but it is still in the middle and high level. But Xiao Ka's parents pay more attention to money education, because Xiao Ka has a relative who lost his family because he didn't have a correct view of money. Therefore, Xiao Ka's parents are determined not to let their children develop the habit of spending money lavishly.

However, Cam's parents went a little too far. When Xiao Ka was a child, Xiao Ka's parents liked to "cry poor" in front of their children. Children want to buy a big water gun when they are young. At that time, Xiao Ka's parents did not buy it at the end of this sentence, but bought a small water gun with a price only one-third of that of a large water gun.

When Xiao Ka was in primary school, she envied her classmates for having beautiful pencil boxes, so she wanted one herself, but Xiao Ka's parents said, "It's not broken now, and I don't want to buy it."

In the third grade of primary school, Xiao Ka's pencil case finally broke down, so Xiao Ka wanted to buy his favorite pencil case, but Xiao Ka's parents said it was too expensive and impractical, so they bought Xiao Ka the same pencil case as before.

In normal life, Xiao Ka's parents also told Xiao Ka all day that "parents should work hard to make money and don't buy things indiscriminately", "there is no money at home, and they can't buy such expensive things" and "they can only make a lot of money to buy what they want in the future" and so on.

All in all, in Cam's impression, his family seems to be the worst in the class, and he can't afford anything. After entering high school, Cam's study is a bit backward. In order to realize the ideal of "study hard and earn a lot of money to buy what she wants in the future", Xiao Ka wants to sign up for a cram school.

It stands to reason that it is a good thing for children to take the initiative to study, but when Xiao Ka's parents heard that the tuition fee of the cram school was nearly 10,000 a year, they suddenly changed their attitude: "It is so expensive, it must be a scam. Don't you think it's good that Xiaoli doesn't go to cram school? You just have to study hard at school and don't think about spending money all day. "

The parents' words deeply hurt Xiao Ka's heart. Growing up in high school, she never asked for anything. Other children have it, they don't, and it's not rare for other children to have it. I usually buy some toys and stationery that I like, and my parents don't buy them, but now I can't even afford the tuition. How can we "study hard and make a lot of money"?

Cafe finally can't stand it. "Xiaoli didn't go to the remedial class because people invited a tutor of 10 thousand a month, because her parents bought her all kinds of study materials and stationery." Growing up, you never gave me anything I wanted. Obviously, I can't afford it. What are you doing to me? "

So, there was an opening scene. Although the habit of spending money lavishly is not good, parents should not be too "stingy" when helping their children establish the concept of money.

Parents blindly crying and educating their children will only harm their children and make them more stressed.

Children's childhood should be happy and their psychology should be relaxed. However, if parents often cry in front of their children, it will cause greater psychological pressure on their children, and some of their needs and wishes are suppressed and cannot be said.

This situation is very unfavorable to the growth of children. First of all, it will lead to children's psychological distortion, unable to obtain correct values, unable to correctly grasp the relationship between supply and demand, and unable to look at problems from a long-term perspective.

Secondly, although the child's inner desire has been suppressed, it has not disappeared, but will continue to expand over time. When the child's inner desire reaches an uncontrollable state, it may lead the child to make some excessive behaviors.

In addition, children's long-term mental health will also affect their learning and development.

Crying about poverty will make children feel inferior and give up on themselves. Children's communication should be pure and innocent, but after being instilled with the concept of "my family is poor", children may feel very inferior when interacting with their peers, and always feel inferior to others. Sometimes this psychological situation is so serious that children have the idea of giving up on themselves. This is very terrible. This kind of inferiority and self-abandonment is likely to inspire children to have more bad psychology, such as timidity, cowardice and weakness, and even make servility reappear in themselves.

Crying about poverty can easily lead to psychological compensation for children.

Everyone has the mentality of psychological compensation, but if this mentality is too serious, it may directly affect a person's life, work, thought and even morality.

There is a treasure mother who is like this. When I was a child, this precious mother was often ignored by her family and didn't want to buy anything. Her childhood was very material. When she grows up and has children, Bao Ma will buy things for her children like crazy. Whether the child likes it or not, Bao Ma must buy the most expensive one for her child. No matter whether it is useful or not, Bao Ma has to buy things, and even take home loans to buy things for her children, with a lot of money. This is the result of excessive compensation, which seriously affects one's future, even the future of the family and the future of the children. Therefore, as parents, it is not wrong for us to let our children learn the virtues of Chinese thrift, but we must not "cry for poverty" excessively, so as not to have a bad influence on our children.