Speaking of her 2-year-old daughter, she said that she is very naughty now.
If I say how naughty, lively, cute and dull, you will worry.
Colleagues said, but my mother doesn't like my daughter being too naughty, and prefers her obedient. When she was naughty, my mother said, my mother-in-law will be angry if you do this again. I also told my mother not to talk to her like that, but she is a teacher and it is difficult to change.
I said, this may affect the psychological problems in the future. In psychology, there is a sense of guilt or guilt brought by family education, that is, being born in a certain aspect of family education will make you live better in the future than before, and you will feel guilty or guilty. For example, when I come from a family, when we have a conflict with my mother, she will cry about how difficult it was for me to drag you in when you were young, and now you are treating me like this when you grow up, even further, crying about how sad life was when she was young. As a result, I seldom show my love for my husband at family gatherings now, and sometimes I even deliberately refuse, otherwise I think they are not doing well and I should not be so good, otherwise I will feel guilty. This is a very bad example.
Colleagues said, I know this is not good, but I didn't expect there to be technical terms. I have also thought that this development will lead to two consequences, either she ignores or continues to make the same mistake, or she is honestly timid. In fact, neither result is good.