Three-year-old children's willful disobedience education law 1, clearly tell the baby what to do.
A kindergarten teacher told such a story: there is a two-year-old child next door to her house. As long as she is awake every day, she must be taken to the garden downstairs by adults to slide or swing. His family lives on the ninth floor and there is no elevator. Sometimes his mother comes home with the food he just bought, and he immediately clamors for the slide. Mom said she was too tired to go, so he shook his head and shouted even harder. Whenever this happens, my mother always drags her tired feet and takes him downstairs again.
In fact, don't ask if the child is noisy again? Is it okay? . Tell him clearly that his mother is very tired, and she will take a nap after waking up. This will help improve children's ability to distinguish right from wrong and reduce the occurrence of willful behavior. This trick really works. From then on, the mother talked to the baby as much as possible? It's getting late. Is it time for bed? 、? The weather is getting colder. Do you want to wear an extra dress? Instead of using this to express a clear meaning? Honey, be good. Did you sleep well? If you let the children choose.
Step 2 divert your attention
Children's attention is generally scattered, and their interest in the same thing will not last long, and they will soon be attracted by other new things. Therefore, if mom and dad can grasp the baby's psychological characteristics and divert the baby's attention, they can save themselves from the predicament. On the contrary, the more you don't agree, the more fierce he is. For example, Jiezai's mother was once seen by Jiezai talking on a mobile phone, and Jiezai insisted on playing with it. Mother said that children are not allowed to touch adults' things, so Jiezai stamped her foot. At this time, my father said to Jiezai. Baby, let's call grandma together. Grandma misses Jiezai. ? Jiezai immediately stopped crying and went to play with his father.
In fact, when a child loses his temper because his requirements are not met, parents can take an indifferent attitude and let the child ask for it. When the child makes concessions, parents can explain to the child why he can't do so, so that the child can understand that his unreasonable demands will not be accepted by parents.
3. The requirements for children cannot be met blindly.
Distinguish between right and wrong, and reasonable requirements can be met; Unreasonable request, can't promise. Once the child cries, don't beat and scold, just be patient and reason with the child, and it is best to enlighten him with vivid and educational stories.
Parents should match their words with their deeds.
Some parents think that children are easy to coax and cheat, and often make promises without thinking, but the results can't be realized, resulting in mental damage to children and distrust of parents.
5. Don't scare the children.
Some parents will use some terrible things to scare their children when they are disobedient. Over time, children become suspicious and timid. 4. When children make mistakes, especially when they make mistakes? Funny? Parents should not imitate their children's mistakes for fun, but should tell them where they are wrong and analyze the reasons. In short, a good environment and a good education can make children grow up healthily. I believe you will have a lively, lovely, sensible and obedient boy.
6. Delayed satisfaction
As long as children are satisfied under given conditions, most children can cooperate. For example, children watch TV after school, and parents ask their children to finish their homework before watching it. This is delayed satisfaction. ? Delay? It is a kind of conditional satisfaction. It is very important for adults to keep their word, otherwise it is difficult for children to trust their parents and do what their parents ask.
Step 7 avoid it for the time being
Some children's unreasonable demands are pestered and unsatisfied. At this time, parents can ignore him temporarily, and let the child feel that the method of crying is invalid, and the child will stop. If parents adopt this method every time, children will gradually understand that they will not adopt wayward crying methods in the future.
8. Less interference and more encouragement
Parents should give their children full freedom, children's exploratory behavior, and some harmless requirements. As long as there is no harm to yourself and the people around you, parents should not interfere and refuse too much. Once children's freedom is fully satisfied, they are generally not willful and unreasonable.
Matters needing attention in educating wayward children Dr. Dobson, an American child development psychologist, pointed out that when parents discipline wayward babies, they must respect them, be gentle and tell them why they can't do so in a language they can understand. Mom and dad must understand that a two-year-old baby never meant to make mom and dad angry. Children in the embryonic stage of personality tend to be independent and are easily considered disobedient by adults. In fact, parents don't realize that this is an important sign of children's independent personality development and a normal psychological development phenomenon.
If parents criticize and abuse, children may be obedient temporarily, but their self-esteem and self-confidence will be greatly affected. Don't think that children can be disrespected just because they are young. Children may often detect from his behavior and voice whether adults like him, scold him or encourage him. Successful parents can see things from their children's point of view and put themselves in their children's shoes. The key to parenting is to interpret the meaning behind children's behavior and resolve their willful behavior in the right way.
One way for good parents to educate their children is to treat their children as equal members of the family, respect their personality and dignity, and let them think independently and choose freely. Letting children choose freely does not mean that parents do nothing. Parents can guide and help with analysis, and the final choice is in the hands of children. If the child makes a mistake, she will take responsibility for it herself. Once she realizes that she is wrong, she can correct it quickly. If you help her make a choice, even if she is right, she may not do well; If she is wrong, she will resent you, because the responsibility lies with you.
Two: Listen carefully and patiently to the children's opinions. Want to be friends with children, but you can't do it at home? A word? It all depends on parents. Especially when it comes to children, parents must discuss with their children and listen to their opinions. They should accept the correct opinions and explain the wrong ones. When parents decide to do something at home, they should also ask their children's opinions, which is conducive to the healthy growth of children, and children will feel that they are equal members of the family, and they will actively consider the family in the future, on the other hand, it is also conducive to the completion of things.
Third, try to understand children, go deep into their inner world, understand their wishes, respect their choices and support their legitimate demands. At the same time, we should also open our hearts to children, let them know their parents' thoughts, feel their parents' joys and sorrows, and strive for their trust and understanding. This can not only help parents truly become friends with their children, but also help parents better guide their children to grow up.
Fourth, in the success of children's growth, we should use practical and reasonable methods. Don't make comments and instructions on children's behavior easily, but try to guide children to think. We should pay more attention to children's thoughts and behaviors. We should communicate and understand each other through talks and consultations, and finally get a fair and reasonable answer.
Five: Being a child's friend does not mean giving up the principle and accommodating the child's mistakes. We emphasize children's freedom to develop hobbies, but we don't let them go. We should grasp certain standards and set strict requirements. If the child is really wrong, he can't make any concessions. He must point it out carefully and make corresponding explanations to avoid repeating it next time. If you are wrong, dare to admit it to your child. We should set an example for our children with our words, deeds and styles, and guide them to form a good personality.