Western parents generally believe that children are independent individuals from the day they are born, with their own independent will and personality. Neither parents, teachers nor relatives and friends have the privilege to dominate and restrict his behavior. In most cases, they can't make choices for their children. It is to make children feel that they are their own masters, and even under what circumstances, parents should carefully consider, respect and understand their children's psychology. Most parents in China require their children to be obedient and obedient. 2. Western parents generally believe that children have the ability of self-reflection and education. Children should work hard, live by themselves, get happiness from their efforts, get all kinds of knowledge and skills from their hands. Let children do what they can, which is respect for children. For example, in the west, there are many cases where a father or mother walks in front and a toddler follows. They think it is very important to cultivate children's independence. China's parents are afraid that their children will bump into each other, so they often hold or pull their children. 3. Westerners have a relatively weak desire for their children to become famous and start a family. Instead of painstakingly designing their children's future, they pay attention to their free development and strive to cultivate their children into social people who can adapt to various environments and have independent survival ability. Their family education is based on cultivating children's pioneering spirit and becoming an independent person. Therefore, many families in western countries attach great importance to children's self-exercise since childhood. Cultivate and exercise children's self-reliance and independent living ability from an early age. For example, let children know the value of labor from an early age, let them repair and assemble motorcycles themselves, and share the work of mowing the grass, painting the house and simple carpentry repair at home. In addition, I have to go out to do odd jobs, push the lawn mower in summer, shovel snow in winter and sweep leaves in autumn. In this subtle process, children gradually grow into citizens with independent viability and social responsibility. Many parents in China are eager for their children's success, so they go beyond the high requirements of their children's actual level, encourage their children to pull out seedlings to encourage them, and hate iron to produce steel, which is pervasive in their families. In the process of children's growth, in addition to paying more attention to life, parents are most concerned about their children's learning. In order to make children behave well in school, parents will not let their children do things other than study in the future. It seems that studying well is everything, but they seldom pay attention to their independent living ability, social adaptability, mental health, moral sentiment and civic awareness, and some even ignore them completely. Although our parents want their children to be talented and happy, such family education can neither make them talented nor happy, because social competition is not only a contest between knowledge and intelligence, but also a contest between will, mental state and being a man. 4. Western parents pay more attention to the cultivation of children's healthy psychology, so they attach great importance to emotional communication with children and care about their psychological needs. They often discuss problems with their children, and children are willing to discuss things with their parents when they are unhappy. Psychological research shows that healthy psychology is very important for children's success and the shaping of healthy personality. Many parents in China do just the opposite. Their concern for children is basically focused on physical needs, and they seldom care about or even ignore their psychological needs, ignoring the cultivation of their healthy psychology and the tempering of their character and will. In this way, to a certain extent, children's psychological endurance is too low to bear the pressure and setbacks in life. Even a trivial matter can make him depressed, decadent, give up on himself, run away from home at will, and even commit suicide and be world-weary. Such incidents are common in the media in recent years, and most of them are the result of the low level of family education, more precisely, the tragedy caused by parents' negligence in cultivating their children's healthy psychology. 5. Western parents attach importance to the education of their children's daily behaviors and emotions, respect others from their inner feelings, and cultivate their children's daily behaviors and habits. However, parents and kindergarten teachers in China are often divorced from the reality of children's psychological development. For example, in kindergarten, they put forward the education of patriotism, revolutionary heroism and great idealism, ignoring basic behavior habits and good interpersonal communication, which are suitable for children's development stage. We have been talking about education step by step, which is not only applicable to intellectual education and knowledge education, but also to moral education in doing things. At present, our children's moral concepts are indifferent and their social development is poor, which is not unrelated to parents' neglect of the most basic "life education" for their children. 6. Parents in the West "encourage innovation", while parents in China are often "satisfied with cloning". The former encourages children to surpass their predecessors, while the latter teaches children to stop in front of their predecessors. Western parents believe that children have the same independent research and hands-on ability as adults, and can create an environment and atmosphere conducive to cultivating children's creativity with a tolerant attitude. They often take a positive attitude towards children's exploration behavior, encourage children to put forward different opinions in life and actively explore problems. Even if parents think that children's behavior has no positive effect, they will not interfere too much, but let children gradually realize their own problems in their own exploration and correct them. Most parents in China hold a negative attitude towards their children's exploration activities. They often regard children's own "exploration activities" as "nonsense" and stop them. For example, if an American child dismantles an alarm clock at home, most parents will praise the child. If not, many parents will install alarm clocks with their children, and even encourage them to disassemble and reinstall them. However, if children in China remove the alarm clock at home, even if they can put it back, I'm afraid few dare to tell their parents. Under the strict discipline of parents, children often have creative sparks in generate. From the above comparison, it is not difficult to see that there are significant differences between Chinese and western family education from macro to micro. Western parents' family ethics, family education values, ability training, moral education and creative stimulation are all worthy of our parents' serious study.