1, let children learn to be independent. Respect children's needs, interests and hobbies, encourage children to express their thoughts and feelings, consult them more when things happen, listen to their opinions, allow them to make their own choices and decisions, and tolerate children's different opinions from their parents. Let children contact with social life, let children be tempered in social life, and improve their social adaptability.

2. Correctly treat children's academic performance. A sense of accomplishment is one of the important factors that affect students' self-esteem. If students often experience success, their self-esteem will be improved; On the contrary, if he often fails, his self-esteem will decrease. As a student, this kind of success or failure experience mainly comes from academic performance. However, for every student, not all students have good academic performance and high test scores, so they will definitely experience success. Whether there is a sense of accomplishment depends on students' attitude towards exam results. Therefore, parents should tell their children that as long as they concentrate on class, study hard and do well in the exam, no matter how many points they get in the final exam, they should be satisfied as long as they make progress than before.

3. Save some face for the children. Parents should not beat or reprimand their children in front of others, nor should they nag their children about what they have said or done in front of others, making them feel embarrassed.

4. Be children's friends, actively participate in children's hobbies, buy children some books they like, and arrange for them to go to summer camps or join clubs. Strive to make children's lives colorful and meaningful.