Children don't do what they want, so parents don't have to lose their temper, right? Yes, we should educate and accept each other's emotions in a good way; Why is parent-child communication always a problem? A very big factor is that parents don't understand and don't understand their children's mentality. Therefore, when children make mistakes or lose their temper, they will blindly get angry, make a hullabaloo about and criticize education. Now we use the child's mentality, which means that everyone wants to look at the problem from the child's point of view, so it is not easy for everyone to have a bad mentality.

When we look at the problem from the perspective of children, children can feel their parents' understanding and acceptance, and they will want to open their hearts and communicate with their parents more. But it should be noted here that the use of "mentality" does not mean the use of "personal behavior". When a child makes a mistake, what we should do is to understand and love unconditionally, but in addition, we should tell him that personal behavior is unreasonable. Let the baby understand that parents understand his experience, which means accepting his personal behavior.

Well-founded, refusing criticism; This is also a common situation when many parents carry out cultural education with a "mentality". When parents see personal behaviors that children don't want to see, or see their children make mistakes, they can't help but criticize severely, and they will think of the past from what happened at this stage and criticize comprehensively together, which is also the last thing children want to hear. Therefore, in order to ensure "getting rid of the management method of emotional instability", everyone needs to restrain his impulse to "criticize" and cultivate the habit of "being justified". The best way to give gifts and expressions is to simply describe what you see.

Let children participate in the whole teaching process; It is quite possible that we will feel strange at this point. Parents should teach children when they make mistakes and are not sensible. How can children be involved in teaching?

This is the purpose and misunderstanding of traditional education, the traditional teaching culture education, the side that parents have been teaching and the side that children have been listening to. Although this method is difficult to be instructive, it is unclear whether the child really received the "cultural education" and whether he really realized his inaccuracy. Even when a child is blindly criticized, it will cause a rebellious psychological state and stimulate the negative emotions of the other party.