19 15 Beethoven's brother Carl died, leaving only a 5-year-old son. Beethoven treated this nephew as a son. He wrote: "My dear son! Don't say a word. Come into my arms. You won't hear a harsh word ... I will accept you with the same love. As for how to arrange your future, we will discuss it together in a friendly way. I am honored to assure you that there is nothing to blame you! That's useless. You can expect from me. Only how careful and kind help. -Come on. Come to your father's loyal heart. Come on, go home as soon as you receive the letter. " On the envelope, it says in French, "If you don't come, I will die for you".
He said almost imploringly, "Don't lie. Be my dear son forever! ..... Although I didn't give birth to you, I did raise you and try my best to cultivate you. Now, I beg you from my heart with more love than my father's love, and embark on the road of kindness and integrity. Your loyal old father. "
Beethoven devoted countless efforts to this nephew who was not lacking in intelligence. He wanted to lead Carl Jr. to receive higher education and planned countless bright futures for him, but in the end he had to agree to go into business. Little Carl went in and out of the casino and owed a lot of money. Uncle's love is not good for him, but harmful. He even said such terrible things as "I want to get dirtier because my uncle wants me to make progress".
1826. Carl hit himself on the head. However, he didn't die. Beethoven. Almost died of it. He suddenly grew old and almost collapsed. A few months later, Beethoven was very ill. After three months of fighting the disease and three operations, Beethoven left. Carl wasn't there when he died. Beethoven once wrote to the man who claimed to be his son and said with joy, "God has not abandoned me. Someone will always close my eyes for me in the future. " However, it was not Beethoven's son who closed his eyes with his hand, but a young musician, Anselmus Huttenbrenner. He said, "Thank God! Thank him for ending his suffering for such a long time. "
Beethoven created music that influenced people's hearts, but he could not create language that influenced his son. Beethoven's love for his son is not strong. There can be no ambition. What made Beethoven's enthusiasm vanish? What is Beethoven's problem with children's education?
First of all, Beethoven went to the opposite of childhood feelings in the education of children. What he suffered in his childhood will never be suffered by his children again. What he dreamed of as a child but didn't get, he should give it to his children twice. But if there are too many things, they will be overdone, and the extremes will be reversed.
Beethoven showed extraordinary musical talent in his early years. Father showed off that he was a child prodigy. At the age of four, he was nailed to the dulcimer by his father all day. Beethoven once struggled with his father, but in return, his father intensified his violence to force him to study. This practice once made Beethoven "almost hate music" in his childhood. However, due to family reasons, Beethoven had to worry about economic problems when he was young and consider how to earn bread money. 1 1 join the theater band. At the age of 13, he became a great organist. 17 years, after losing his dear mother, he took care of his two younger brothers and prevented his father from taking out all his salary to drink.
Beethoven's experience gave him a son and immediately generated all the fatherly love and affection he didn't get in his childhood. Although he said "discuss his future in a friendly way", in fact, he has already planned countless beautiful futures in his heart. Sometimes, high expectations and excessive affection will kidnap children, so that children will not walk by themselves, will not choose by themselves, and will have rebellious psychology.
Secondly. Beethoven contended with his sister-in-law for the custody of his nephew after his brother died. He even called his sister-in-law "dirty woman" in front of little Carl. After all, she is Carl's biological mother. The quarrel between Beethoven and his sister-in-law cast a shadow on Calmon Jr.
Beethoven is a radiant musical genius, but he is not a god. He is an ordinary person like us in educating children. If you don't believe me, look around us. How many people are still wrapping their children in strict love, and are busy sending ignorant children to dance classes, piano classes and Olympic math classes every day; How many people are there? In front of the children, noisy all day; How many people still want to double what they didn't get in childhood; How many people are still dreaming of their unfulfilled dreams and let the children realize them themselves.
Don't let the torrent of affection kidnap children again!