The educational thought of Mr. Cai Xiaoyou, a famous family educator, is worth learning from parents. His six children, all well-educated and well-educated, are affectionately called "Dr. Dad". They come from ordinary families and have no special identity and assets, but they have trained six excellent children. This is behind Mr. Cai Xiaoyou's unique and successful educational concept.
Water with love and accompany with heart.
Spencer, the creator of the concept of happy education, said; "The purpose of education is to make children a happy person, and children should be allowed to study in a happy state." In that era when education was still relatively backward, Mr. Cai's family were real practitioners of happy learning.
The couple took their children to travel and exercise, setting an example for their children to take the lead in learning. In his family, learning doesn't seem to be a nightmare for many children as it is today. Reading thousands of books and taking Wan Li Road, the children followed their parents from Harbin in Northeast China to Chifeng in Inner Mongolia, from Beijing to Tianjin, and from Qingdao to Shanhaiguan. Along the way, the children saw the scenery they had never seen before in their poems, and gained a culture with more flavor than cold knowledge.
Cai Xiaoxiao, who lives in the countryside, has a difficult living environment. Although the place is small, there is always room for reading. Cai Xiao reads professional books in the evening, the children read textbooks, and the family members are very friendly. This has become a good habit of their family after dinner. Children not only read knowledge in class, but also books outside class are encouraged by their fathers.
In an era when foreign languages are not particularly popular, Teacher Cai cultivates children's interest in learning foreign languages. He always uses melodious erhu to attract children to get up, listen to foreign language broadcasts for children and cultivate good habits. Children who grow up with love and companionship are always happy and strong. Companionship is the best love, which can resist all the hardness in the world.
Let go properly and grow better.
Education should not be a shovel to eradicate ideas different from ordinary people. If we cut off individuality, we will also cut off independent thought and free spirit. Sometimes it is not necessarily a good thing for children to "hit the wall" by themselves.
When Mr. Cai's fourth son Tian Run was in middle school, he was always curious about new things, just like a rebellious teenager. At that time, it was the time when martial arts novels became popular. Tianrun was obsessed with martial arts for some time and didn't want to learn it. Tianrun also wrote two letters of determination to his father, hoping to become a martial arts expert and unify the martial arts. When Mr Cai saw these letters, he felt that there was something wrong with his education. After failing to communicate with his son, Mr. Cai said: No matter what the result is, you must bear it yourself.
In the process of learning martial arts, Tianrun gradually realized that martial arts is useful without the so-called martial arts world, but learning knowledge seems more important. But his father wrote to him that he should be responsible for his impulsive behavior and insist on everything. After a semester, Tianrun returned to school and concentrated on his studies. Later, he studied for a doctorate at Arkansas State University, did research work at Harvard University, and founded a private hospital in Shanghai.
Therefore, we say that education is not an assembly line, but a medium for cultivating human nature. Education should have come from Xingtan, Zhong Ni with the elegance of "Peace in All Worlds", and let a secluded pear flower bathe in the warm spring breeze and glow at will.
Pay attention to methods, "family passbook" is beneficial.
At that time, Cai Xiaoxiao sent a "family passbook" to every child, and the account was the progress and growth of the child bit by bit. Good academic performance and quick problem solving will be rewarded accordingly. Although there is not much money in those accounts, the children have a sense of accomplishment and gain. The children are moving towards the goal in the passbook step by step, and the eldest son Tianwen wants to go to school when he is only 3 years old.
For his father's promise, Oda saved 50 yuan's "huge sum" when he was less than five years old, and then went to school happily. Later, his fourth son Tian Wu was going to school, and such a scene appeared in the school. One of the two brothers is listening in the classroom, and the other is listening outside.
In education, appropriate punishment is inevitable, but encouragement is irreplaceable. Encouragement is not to spoil and spoil children, but to encourage children to reflect, create and explore their own ideas on the basis of humanistic care and personality perfection. If a child has Pinellia in his heart, his life will not be frozen.
Mr. Cai's education is always so orderly. He will set learning goals with his children and accompany them to complete them bit by bit. The goal is not out of reach In high school, their first step is to firmly grasp the basic knowledge, improve their comprehensive quality, and strive to be admitted to key universities. This division is a small goal every semester, and then it is very detailed and clear all week. This is what many parents can't do now. Don't just urge children to give them lessons. Sometimes methods are more effective than sticks.
Determined to take the lead and be confident in life.
Therefore, those who are determined are also the heart of learning; As a scholar, this is also a question of determination. The ambition that Mr. Cai Xiaoyao passed on to children is different from what most people think is too huge and too far away. He believes that "ambition" should be the coexistence of ambition and ambition, which is not only the pursuit in mind, but also the requirement for all aspects of one's behavior.
Mr. Cai's home is covered with photos and introductions of many scientists such as Einstein, Newton and Madame Curie. Children have been familiar with the stories of these celebrities since childhood. Childhood ambition may be immature, but it will always leave an indelible mark on my heart more or less. When Tianxi, the youngest daughter, was 5 years old, she said she wanted to be "Madame Curie". Later, Tianxi received a doctorate from Massachusetts Institute of Technology at the age of 65,438+08, and a doctorate from Harvard University at the age of 22. Now she is a tenured professor at Harvard University.
Mr. Cai said that children who have been determined since childhood will not be satisfied with the status quo. After their achievements, they still have the determination and boldness to go up a storey still higher. With ambition, you need perseverance that you can't give up. In the poem read to children by Teacher Cai, this passage may well explain the father's expectation for children: Don't live up to your cleverness and beauty, you must be energetic and make a name for yourself in history.
Ambitions established since childhood will quietly take root and sprout in children's hearts like seeds. In this way, Mr. Cai's children rushed to one ambition after another under the silent education of their father, and painted their own marks on their own lives.
The eldest is a doctor from Cornell University, the second is a doctor from the University of Rochester, the third is a doctor from St. John's University, the fourth is a doctor from Arkansas State University, the fifth is a master from China University of Science and Technology, and the sixth is a doctor from Massachusetts Institute of Technology. His family background is not prominent, and his children are not geniuses.
When asked by others how to train these excellent children, Mr. Cai said that my children are not geniuses, and their intelligence is no different from that of ordinary people. Those factors that people often ignore, such as faith, will, vision, morality, health and self-confidence, are the key to their success.
A good education should be like an empty mountain and a new rain, infiltrating a thirsty soul; If late autumn comes, you will brush away the recklessness of teenagers; Such as the bright moon between pines, clearing away the confusion ahead; Like a clear spring on a stone, it plays the melody of your heart.
I dare not say that every parent agrees with Cai Xiaoxiao's education, but what is certain is that such educational achievements are the envy of every parent, so everyone puts down their mobile phones, reduces unnecessary parties, and has time to spend more time with their children and accompany them to grow up. Education is not only to instill book knowledge into children, but also to cultivate and guide children's independent personality and creative ability. Only in this way can children actively absorb useful knowledge, learn necessary skills, decide their own life path, and finally become a self-respecting and self-reliant person.