There are such people in the workplace.
You wanted to joke that the next step of this project depends entirely on everyone's efforts and my little efforts.
The other party said: if you really work hard, it will be much better than now.
At this time, the atmosphere suddenly became awkward. You want to maintain dignity, but the other party directly tears off the disguise of greetings and politeness, which makes you feel disgusted and disgusting, but it is not easy to vent. Because if you vent your anger, you are afraid of affecting your image in front of everyone. But no matter how you answer the other person, you know there are probably more disgusting words waiting for you, because you are not sure how disgusting the other person can be.
The same may be true in marriage. If you marry a person with much lower quality than yourself, you are likely to sulk often and don't know how to vent. For example, at a friend's party, your partner tells you in front of everyone that he doesn't cook at home, but only eats. Everyone is laughing at you.
If you want to solve problems with emotional intelligence, just say: I often do it, otherwise the cockroaches at home would have starved to death.
The other half said that it is true. You are the cockroach at home, don't you know?
You want to quarrel very much, and you are annoyed, because this couple will be embarrassed to tear their faces in front of their friends, but the other party seems to be able to criticize you unscrupulously. As long as you want to maintain the basic quality, you are defenseless.
In front of people with low pattern quality, the role of emotional intelligence will be very small.
So what should we do?
First of all, whether at work or in life, play with people who can understand your jokes. People who can understand and accept your jokes show that your quality and emotional intelligence are at the same level, so that you can understand each other tacitly. Marriage should be about finding someone who knows each other's bottom line. If the other person has no bottom line and often rubs your dignity on the ground, then leave the other person decisively, because living with such a person will lead to the loss of life. Without such people, you would feel that the weather would be much better.
Secondly, if you find that the other party has launched a bottomless attack on you, you should give up your emotional intelligence decisively. Fight back decisively when you are cold. At this time, the other party is often unprepared. Why? Most people in the civilized world will tolerate bullying because they are used to it. If you suddenly fight back, the other party will be caught off guard. The purpose of counterattack is to let the other side know your bottom line. For example, you can say: Isn't your disgusting speech cool? Nobody cares about you. Don't pull your nose and face. Everyone wants to leave you a step. Since you don't want to leave one step, get out of here and go back to your mother's womb to learn how to respect others.
After that, he stood up and strode away, hiding his merits and fame.
Finally, repair the psychological trauma caused by these people in time, otherwise you will be anxious every time you think about it. A more feasible way is to borrow the words of Tim Gottlow, who said: You know they are not bad people, they are just uneducated, inexperienced, uneducated, uncivilized and stupid. You should sympathize with them, not hate them. After all, they still have a long way to go to become human beings.
Your emotional intelligence is precious,
Don't use it on people who are not worth it.