How to teach girls to be independent, learn to treat others correctly and have the right to be respected is the most important thing for parents. Professor Li Meijin has talked about girls' education more than once. She said that parents should follow these four principles in education if they want girls to be more sunny and temperamental in the future.
0 1: the principle of training girls
Only girls with principles can gain more respect, so it is very important to cultivate girls' sense of principles in the education of girls. What is a sense of principle? Simply put, it is the bottom line for children to talk and do things. For example, Professor Li Meijin gave an example in the lecture: When a girl is in love, no matter how much she likes the boy and how happy she is, she must go home at nine o'clock in the evening. ? Go home at nine o'clock in the evening? Is the bottom line for this girl.
The more principled a girl is, the more likely she is to be respected by men. If you are a girl who has been in love several times, the probability of breaking up will be great, because without your own principles, you will not be respected by men if you don't respect yourself.
To cultivate a girl's principle, we should start with establishing rules.
When the girl was 3 years old, she made some specific rules, such as which parts of her body should not be touched by others. No matter who she is, she must obey this rule. When the rules are made, children must understand and resolutely implement them.
02: Even girls should be clearly rewarded and punished.
Many parents can't bear to punish their daughter when she makes a mistake. Can a girl say something casually? Just take your daughter's mistake? Roll with the punches, roll with the punches? . This will only increase the chances of girls making mistakes. Will she think about it? Anyway, my parents won't punish me? . Punishing children is to play a deterrent role and let them know that everything has a bottom line.
Of course, if a girl does the right thing, she can't be stingy in return. Encouragement will make girls have a better yearning for the future.
03: Give girls enough fatherly love.
Professor Li Meijin said: In a gender-deficient family, children are more prone to puppy love. For example, boys without mothers and girls without fathers have a great chance of puppy love.
Father is the first man a girl meets in her life, which largely determines her views on marriage and mate selection.
When a girl is in adolescence, the criteria for choosing a spouse are likely to refer to her father's image. If the father's image is gentle and respects women, girls will follow this standard when looking for a boyfriend. And the better the father, the higher the girl's eyes, and the less likely she is to fall in love.
If a girl doesn't have enough fatherly love before choosing a mate, this lack of fatherly love will be passed on to other men. In love, it is easy to despair because of lack of love. It is easy for girls to mention the role of mother in their future marriage. So, spend as much time as possible with your daughter and talk about gender and mate selection.
04: Cultivate girls' self-control
There are two egos in our brain: one is impulse and pleasure; One is restraint and foresight.
Underage girls are easily tempted because they can't control themselves. The most typical example is the girl who worships money, because she can't help being tempted by money, which has caused great harm to herself.
Therefore, before the girl is 6 years old, the key period of character formation is to teach her to learn self-control.
Professor Li Meijin said we could use some? Small temptation? Exercise children's self-control, such as the famous? Cotton candy experiment? If children can refrain from eating marshmallows for a while, they can eat more marshmallows and exercise their children? Delayed gratification? Ability.
My Dabao is a girl, and her education has never been relaxed. There are also many picture books specially designed for girls, but some of them contain less truth and do not play much educational role.