In marriage, boys find daughters-in-law like their mothers, and girls find husbands like their fathers. This is because these similarities give us a sense of familiarity and intimacy, and we will be attracted by these similarities and mistakenly think that this is love.
This is an unconscious behavior of people. If a person is unhappy in the first marriage, but the second marriage does not grow and change, he will repeat the pattern in the first marriage and remain unhappy, even if he marries more times.
Then, a Japanese writer said, it's terrible to hear that China people don't have marriage training before they get married.
In China, married couples naturally get along well with each other. Think of some people who grew up in two completely different families. They live together, there must be many differences and differences. Only when both sides make changes and concessions can marriage go on, which is lacking in society. Psychologically, there are family therapists who can help solve this problem, but many people don't know.
You can't get the life you want through two or three marriages. If the first marriage fails, we must find out the reasons for the failure. The reason is the other side. When seeking a second marriage, avoid people who have the same defects as their ex-husbands. For example, the last marriage broke down because of domestic violence. At this time, it is necessary to find out whether the person you are looking for has a tendency to domestic violence.
The reason is yourself, this is more difficult. Human nature, living habits and so on are difficult to change for a while. If you can't change yourself and adapt to each other, you may fail twice or even three times.
My third aunt is a very caring person. After three years of marriage, she didn't regard her home as her own. Everything is family-oriented, and she thinks it is natural for parents to raise themselves and help their families. My uncle's salary for three years has almost helped my aunt's family, and nothing new has been added to the room. The two often quarreled about it and finally broke up.
If the third aunt marries the second husband, she can't change her previous thinking or go her own way, which is hard for the second husband to tolerate.
Marriage is a matter for two people. We should care for each other, love each other, understand each other, and solve our differences in time. It is best not to take the road of second or third marriage to realize the life we want.
People's desires are endless. No matter the first marriage, the second marriage, the third marriage and the nth marriage, you will never live a happy life as long as you are not satisfied, grateful and cherished!