With clear and positive goals, bad mentality will gradually offset. The fundamental reason why people are different from other animals is that they have goals. People are no different from animals when they lose their goals in life. However, in reality, many people have no clear goals in life. I have no subjective goal, follow the crowd, beat around the bush, waste time and make no achievements. There is an interesting phenomenon that only professionals know, that is: when are taxis most prone to accidents? The answer is: when there are no passengers. There is a simple reason. When there are no passengers, his direction is blind. When he turns left and right at the crossroads, he hesitates, which is of course prone to accidents. This is the danger of losing your goal. Clear goals will inevitably produce firm beliefs and firm strength. This is true all my life, and so is the specific work.

People who set goals may not be able to achieve them, but those who have no goals will certainly not be able to achieve them. As the saying goes: 99.99% of soldiers who want to be marshals can't be marshals, and 100% of soldiers who don't want to be marshals can't be marshals. The energy excited by different targets is very different.

Use suggestive incentives:

Psychologists say that effective and positive suggestion can improve the understanding of self-worth and build full self-confidence. There are three commonly used methods: ① Self-verbal suggestion. Such as swearing-in meeting, oath, motto and so on. ② Suggestions on role hypothesis. For example, suppose you are a successful person and a person with a special mission. 3 Dream-like hints. In other words, you can form a concrete and clear picture in your mind, or you can cut and paste a real picture on the wall and watch it constantly, thus prompting your action.

(3) Try to challenge yourself:

The more you are afraid of something, the more you try to do it, you will definitely change yourself. For example, if you are afraid of heights, you will climb; You are ashamed to speak. You forced yourself to speak at the meeting and sit in a conspicuous place. You are timid, you force yourself to bungee jump; You have a glib tongue, so you have to argue with it

(4) Be tolerant and patient with others:

A hundred rivers are full of tolerance. Tolerance is a kind of wisdom and virtue, and it is also a magic weapon for many successful people. Lincoln said: Turning an enemy into a friend not only destroys an enemy, but also gains a friend. Patience is not only the way to treat others, but also the way to do things. Patience is a kind of vision and measurement, a kind of cultivation and strategy, and even more a kind of wisdom. Patience in small things is for success in big things. The ancients said, "If you can't bear it, you will make great plans." Therefore, how big your mind is, how big your career is.

(5) Sincerely offer love:

Love is the best expression of a positive attitude. Emerson said: One of the best compensations for mankind is that after people sincerely help others, they also help themselves. I am for everyone, and I am for everyone. This is the golden rule of interpersonal relationships. A person who doesn't know how to care about others will naturally not be cared about by others. He can't enjoy the happiness on earth, and he lives in hell all day. Give love, but also accept the love of others happily. A person who is afraid of disturbing others is often a negative person who will not give love.

(6) perseverance in doing things:

Churchill was invited to give a speech at Oxford University 1948. He summed up the secret of his success in only three sentences: first, never give up; The second is never, never give up; The third is never, never, never give up. With 100 as the goal, the first ten miles are bustling and jostling with each other. 50 miles away, Mandy is sparse, and her voice is sparse. The more people there are, the less. Therefore, philosophers say: there are no losers in the world, only those who give up halfway and those who die in battle.

(7) Taste and enjoy life:

You can do something happily or painfully. If you can't choose not to do it, you should choose to do it happily. As long as you choose to be happy and treat things with taste and enjoyment, any pain can be tolerated. For example, if you are bored by car, you will feel much more relaxed if you sit with a happy attitude. The food tastes terrible. You put it in your mouth and savor it. Suppose it is delicious on earth, you will find it tasteless. Let's look at it this way: the true nature of life is that nine times out of ten things will go wrong, and we should "always think about one or two things, not eight or nine."

(eight) to create interpersonal networks:

Anyone's success depends on the help of others, no matter how good you are. Whoever has a large interpersonal network will have more ways to live, more happiness and greater achievements. According to research, 85% of people's happiness is determined by interpersonal relationships. In the era of knowledge explosion and frequent replacement, in addition to professional ability (the most basic ability), you must also have communicative ability.