The cognition of life is based on psychology. How to know, how to have the result. Being a good person and not being a bad person is a basic knowledge.

People always know themselves and develop themselves by knowing and transforming the environment. There is a cognitive therapy, which is very helpful to know yourself. According to cognitive theory, self-awareness is a multi-dimensional and multi-level complex psychological phenomenon, which consists of three psychological components: self-knowledge, self-experience and self-control.

Cognitive therapy is a kind of psychological consultation and treatment by means of cognitive reconstruction, psychological coping and problem solving. The key to cognitive reconstruction is how to reconstruct people's cognitive structure, so as to achieve the purpose of treatment. The masters of cognitive therapy have put forward their own views. Such as arbitrary inference, that is, jumping to conclusions in the absence of or insufficient evidence, such as "I am useless because the store was closed when I went shopping." This is a cognitive psychological problem.

Cognitive therapy emphasizes that the central problem of common psychological disorders is some distorted thinking. Cognitive therapy is an effective method for patients to overcome blindness and wrong cognition. Cognitive therapy in a broad sense includes explanation, education, criticism, heart-to-heart talk and all other methods that can change wrong cognition. As a special treatment method, cognitive therapy has its own special methods, techniques and procedures.

From the cognitive point of view, how to be a man, a person should base himself on society and win a peaceful state of mind for himself. He must insist on this and be a good man, but he must not be a bad man. This is an axiom of life cognition.

Not being a bad person is the bottom line of being a man, and being a good person is the realm of being a man. The former is the principle of being a man, and the latter is the pursuit of being a man. Being a good person and not being a bad person is the moral bottom line of being a man.

Second, let nature take its course and do a good job in the present, and there will be a bright future.

Everyone has his own ideal, so should he. This is the power pump and gas station of life. However, if you have an ideal, you must overcome the impetuous and eager mentality.

Confucius said that if you don't want to restrain yourself and don't see small profits, haste makes waste, and if you see small profits, you can't achieve great things. Lao Tzu also said that the tree of holding was born at the end of a dime, on a nine-story platform, and a journey of a thousand miles began with a single step. Therefore, people who do great things should not only let nature take its course, but also do well in the present.

There is also a psychological school called Morita therapy to adjust this mentality. Morita psychotherapy, referred to as Morita therapy for short, is a special therapy for neuroticism founded by Professor Morita Shoma of Japanese Cihui Medical University on 1920. It is a natural and appropriate psychotherapy method, which has the same status as psychoanalytic therapy and behavioral therapy.

Morita was inspired by studying his own neuropathy and formed a unique psychotherapy. In their own psychological adjustment, this method also adapts to the hypochondriac thinking of various psychological problems. Don't blame others, don't blame yourself, let nature take its course and do your job well.

Third, grasp the invariance and variability of fate and seek the power of life.

For life, you can only understand life, but you can't leave it to fate. The Book of Changes says, "It is ominous to look at the fish deep". We must know that there must be a force other than human, natural force, cosmic force and inexplicable force affecting our lives. However, don't worry about the sky, you shouldn't come, you are afraid it won't come; You should have come. Fear is useless. Simple and down-to-earth work is a good choice.

People should write their lives by doing things, not in their emotions. Here is a psychology called narrative psychology. Let me introduce it to you.

In 1980s, the overall development of the world entered the information age, and many people achieved success in economic development. However, some people have psychological problems, some people are depressed, disappointed, frustrated, failed, and some people even have a bad life. Some people complain that their IQ is not low, and they have worked hard. Why can't they make mistakes and fail? Therefore, people lament that man proposes and God disposes. Some people say that small wealth means diligence, and great wealth means heaven. Life and death are determined by life, and the sky-high price is expensive.

Sabin, a famous psychologist and Australian psychotherapist, put forward a method to solve this psychological problem-narrative therapy. The counseling method of narrative psychotherapy is to find positive self-identity hidden in negative self-identity.

Each of us has traces of history and many stories. When the positive assets in the story are discovered, the upward momentum will continue. Therefore, in narrative therapy, it is not important to diagnose and analyze people's problems. What is important is to separate the problems from people, "externalize" the problems, find the strength of life, and let everyone become an expert in facing their own problems.

Fourth, see clearly the focus behind things and find a reason for your beauty.

In order to find more effective psychotherapy techniques, since 1980s, many clinical psychologists have criticized and deconstructed modern psychotherapy theories and methods, and constructed psychotherapy theories and methods with the spirit of the times. A solution-oriented psychotherapy model-focus-solving short-term psychotherapy came into being.

Focus-solving short-term psychotherapy, also known as focus-solving short-term psychotherapy, is a kind of psychotherapy model with solution as the focus, system balance as the concept and positive meaning construction as the connotation.

Psychological counseling is to solve problems, but what is a problem, different theories and different understandings. Psychoanalytic school thinks that the problem is caused by mental trauma, behavioral school thinks that it is caused by insufficient effective study and training or improper rewards and punishments, cognitive school thinks that it is caused by unreasonable cognition, and humanism thinks that it is caused by lack of due respect and acceptance.

Focus-solving short-term psychotherapy believes that traditional psychological counseling is to help visitors generate insight or self-awareness, and then they can take new actions and get "treatment". This basis of seeking self-existence from old experience makes it difficult for visitors to respond to the relative and changing environment.

In life, we often say: once interrupted, it will be chaotic. Whether studying, working, communicating or being a person, in too many cases, we all need a reason. In the long time and space, life is only a short moment, like a meteor, fleeting. This life is precious because it is short. How can you stand wandering around in this short journey? Give yourself a reason to get on the road as soon as possible. Even if you are wrong, you can gain life experience. There is nothing wrong with being young! Give yourself a reason to forget a regret and gain a colorful life!

Fifth, look at the problem from another angle and give yourself a beautiful sky.

We love what we do, we will make a hullabaloo about what we do, and we must find out what his strengths are in order to do a good job. What is success? No matter what you do, you love, value, don't be careless, don't give up, and finally reach the best state.

The world is the unity of contradiction and opposition. Facing a huge and complicated world, as an individual, no matter how smart and intelligent he is, he is very small and insignificant. No matter how great a great man is, he also has shortcomings and regrets. He can't see his head or the back of his head. So Mr Ji Xianlin said, "Imperfection is life".

The ancient king ruled the world, which was a beautiful scenery, but she could not have a perfect life. It is a piece of cake to lead the land to the other side, not to be a king's land, and to kill people and exterminate their families. In fact, the succession to the throne and the court struggle are ruthless.

We need the comforts of life, such as a bigger house and study, which is certainly better than living in a simple building. For example, it is good to have a car, but we want to have a garage, where the wind can't blow and the rain can't get caught. This is more important than having a mobile phone. These are not problems. It's normal to want this, but are we just pursuing material life?

There are only two pursuits in life, one is material and the other is spirit. So now, there are two completely different attitudes towards life. Reality is always so ruthless, you can't have your cake and eat it. Matter and spirit are not always in absolute harmony.

There is a sunny side in life, and there must be a dark side. Laozi said, "Everyone knows that beauty is evil." The Yellow Emperor's classic said: "Lonely yin is not born, and lonely yang does not last long." The world is a relationship of unity of opposites.