There is news on the internet that a 9-year-old girl signed an agreement with her parents because she didn't want to go to an interest class, ensuring that she wouldn't blame her parents for not having special skills when she grew up. The little girl signed such an agreement because in three years, she always learned six talents, but she didn't master them. She was tired of her parents' arrangement, didn't study hard at all, and even couldn't learn any more.
Why do parents choose interest classes for their children?
Parents take the initiative to send their children to interest classes for several reasons: First, parents attach importance to their children's education. The family planning policy has made parents generally have higher psychological expectations for their children. They always hope that their children will develop better in all aspects, and that their children will receive more education and not fall behind others. In addition, parents' financial situation is much better now than in the past, and they can afford all kinds of expenses of interest classes. Therefore, many parents will think like this: since they can afford money, they should not let their children lose at the starting line. They should accumulate more competitive capital for their children and let them honor their ancestors in the future.
For the above reasons, many parents will enroll their children in several interest classes at the same time, making their children's weekends full. If children don't attend interest classes, parents will think their children are inferior, which will easily make parents blindly follow suit or let their children attend interest classes without any foundation. In fact, blindly reporting interest classes will cause many kinds of harm to children.
Training classes give children a heavier burden.
After children go to school, all kinds of overwhelming long classes will cause great physical and psychological burden to children. Children have not mastered the knowledge points told by the teacher in class, and they have no time to practice and consolidate when they go home, so they plunge into the interest class. This will undoubtedly increase the burden of children's basic course study.
Let the children become very tired and can't relax themselves.
Nowadays, many parents are not only eager to send their children to various interest classes, but even sign up for several interest classes at the same time. On Saturdays, Sundays or winter and summer vacations, children have no holidays, and parents have no rest time. They take their children to various interest classes. Parents always think it is natural to make sacrifices for their children. No matter how hard and tired they are, they can enjoy it because they have expectations in their hearts. However, children will unilaterally think that these are undoubtedly chains, destroying their hearts and making them anxious.
Sometimes, parents are exhausted from working for their children, but the children will still shout:' Give me time, give me freedom! It seems that I don't appreciate my parents' efforts. Whenever the school holds a parent-teacher meeting, the teacher hears the most sentence: children nowadays really don't understand and cherish it. We worked hard to earn a few dollars and enrolled them in interest classes, but they still didn't want to go. But the child privately complained to his good friend: I like the piano very much, but my mother made me learn to draw, which is annoying.
Let the feelings between children and parents be impacted.
The communication between children and parents has become modular, and parents ask day after day: What did the teacher say today? Did your song pop up? How did you do in your English exam? The child's answer is: English speaks the grammar of the present continuous tense; Can play the whole song; I got 85 points in the English exam. Parents are busy making money to pay tuition fees for their children's interest classes, while children rush between various interest classes every day. Because parents have no time to take care of their children, they greatly ignore their physical and mental needs, making the feelings between parents and children even more indifferent.
Make children not free.
Busy interest classes occupy children's precious weekends, which should be the most relaxing time for children. They should have been able to go to the park with their parents, watch their favorite cartoons and play games with their children? However, learning in interest classes often makes children too busy to breathe, let alone play games. A large number of training courses let the little guys bid farewell to their freedom. These little guys are no longer happy on their faces. The weekend should be a rest time, but the little ones must set the alarm clock to prepare for the interest class. The children began to be unhappy as soon as they woke up at the weekend.
Directional education in training classes can't tap children's strengths.
In an interview, the famous pianist Lang Lang recalled the experience of learning piano as a child. He said that in order to supervise him to learn the piano well, his father once said extreme words such as drinking poison or jumping off a building without learning. There is no denying that Lang Lang is a lucky man, whose interest can be cultivated, and finally he has made great achievements in developing it into his own career. However, there are too few lucky people after all. Behind a successful Lang Lang, people are more familiar with Qian Qian's depressed children who are chased by their parents to practice the piano. Even if more children attend interest classes, they may not get high grades, but will dampen their self-confidence.
Some parents often enroll their children in interest classes according to social needs. As long as parents think what is important and useful, they will sign up their children for study, regardless of whether they are interested or not. There are also some parents who can't learn what they are interested in when they are young. After having children, they want to fulfill their childhood wishes through children, whether they are interested or not. This kind of' orientation' training by many parents will bring heavy pressure to children, and may even make children more and more tired of learning, which is not conducive to the healthy development of children's body and mind and will only inhibit their interest in learning.
Summary:
Since it is so harmful to blindly let children enter interest classes, what is a rational approach? In fact, the original intention of the training class is to let children find happiness. If you find that children often frown instead of smile after attending the interest training class, there is no need to continue. These interest classes can't relax the little ones, so they have no meaning. Therefore, parents must think twice before locking Xiong Haizi in the interest class.