A few days ago, in Chenzhou, Hunan Province, it was more than ten days since the news that a 3-year-old boy had fallen from the building due to light rain, but it still lingered in my mind.

The details include the reversal in the back. I believe most people have understood that all kinds of evidence show that the 8-year-old child is lying.

What is the real reason why this matter has made such a big noise on the Internet?

Is in the whole thing, Chen Mou showed calm, calm and psychological quality, far more than the mind of an 8-year-old boy.

Such a child is creepy.

Whether it is the deep intention to take Xiaoyu away from her grandmother as a good child or the cruelty of beating Xiaoyu, the lies told by the police during cross-examination make people feel scared and angry, but what is even more irritating is yet to come.

According to Xiaoyu's mother, when she asked Chen Mou's parents why they didn't take strict care of their children.

His parents just said, "The child is 8 years old, so there is no need to follow him all the time." It's just a brush.

And after the incident, I never apologized, not even responsible.

Seeing the reaction of Chen Mou's parents, he was no longer surprised by the child's indifference and scheming beyond his peers.

He is ill. This is the medicine given by his parents ...

After things fermented on the internet, it caused a discussion about whether children were born good or bad.

But instead of discussing whether a child is born an angel or a demon.

In fact, what is more worth pondering is how parents guide their children to do good or evil.

At least in this case, behind the so-called "Xiong Haizi", we see more irresponsible parents.

If a child is a seed, then parents are the soil for breeding.

Compared with the goodness and evil of human nature, I believe that cultured and responsible parents can't raise natural bad children.

Unforgettable Children's Day

This reminds me of what happened to my brother at school on Children's Day:

My brother is in charge of discipline in the class. At noon, the students have a lunch break. My brother sacrificed his lunch break to help the teacher manage the class. The teacher also feels gratified to have an assistant like his younger brother.

However, just this year's Children's Day, which belongs to children, something happened that made me both angry and frightened.

After school that day, the child took the school bus and hasn't come home yet. He received a voice call from the teacher, saying that he had read the information in the group. I said I didn't pay attention. The teacher asked me to have a look.

A parent in the group sent a child's side face, saying that the face was swollen because of something between classmates. I hope I can give an explanation.

After reading it, I looked puzzled. This parent didn't mention my child, and there was no direction related to my brother.

At this time, the children came back. As soon as I came back, I showed him the photos and asked him what it was like. The child was silent, and my heart tightened. I know it must have something to do with him, otherwise he won't be silent. Generally, he will argue loudly about things that have nothing to do with him, and he will not talk about things that have something to do with him. That's what his brother said about him.

I want to ask him later, or lie to him to tell the truth, so as to guide the child correctly.

At this time, the teacher's voice phone came again, saying that the other parents were very embarrassed. They must let the client and parents come together and ask me how long it will take. I said normal for about half an hour.

Because it was Friday and rush hour, there was a special traffic jam on the road, and the teacher called halfway to ask how long it would take.

At school, the child's teacher and the parents of the other two children were there. A parent saw my arrival and pointed at my child and scolded me. Losing face, with a face, really pointed the finger at my child. I tried to break her finger. She also said that she studied law, so it seems that she is the only one who knows the law. ...

Seeing such parents, I know that her children will not be much better under her influence.

I also raised my voice and said, can you tell me why first? Who are you going to curse, threaten and scare when you come?

Don't make any noise when I say let the child talk. Another child was probably scared by the aggressive momentum of this parent, hiding behind his mother and crying.

As for who is right and who is wrong, in fact, we can say a little when we meet.

In the quarrel between the beating child (the child is kind) and the parents, I probably know what happened: my brother is in charge of lunch break discipline, and that violation of discipline needs education (implemented by the teacher). Perhaps the child did not grasp the power given by the teacher, which led to this incident. Xiao Zhang (the child who beat people) and Xiao Lei (the child who was beaten), Xiao Lei didn't sleep during lunch break, and always disturbed other students. My brother couldn't stop him after repeated warnings, so he let Xiao Zhang hit him. Xiao Zhang was very angry because of lack of sleep, so he patted Xiao Zhang's face with a soft ruler (the ruler that students usually use). At that time, it should be a little red and swollen (the face is a little fleshy, and the skin belongs to the kind that can be reflected by a little external force)

When Xiao Zhang told me what happened with trepidation, when I looked at the wound on Xiao Lei's face (there was no trace for a long time), the children had apologized in the presence of the teacher when they went to school, and Xiao Zhang's mother and I also sincerely apologized to Xiao Lei and his parents. In fact, it's easy to solve, but Xiao Lei's parents insist on it. Well, then we also accompanied him (who made us the wrong side) to the hospital for examination (the people's hospital near the school had to go)

After arriving at the hospital, I waited 1 several hours with Xiao Zhang's mother and the teacher (the teacher was carsick). Xiao Lei and his family were late (maybe they went to dinner first). While waiting in line, I didn't know what Xiao Lei said to his mother. He said very loudly, "What's wrong with provocation? I asked you what happened to provocation? " I was surprised and relieved at that time. There is no doubt that what kind of parents will have what kind of children! After that, Xiao Lei quietly walked beside his brother. I can see that he wants to play with his brother, but I don't want them to play together anymore.

The doctor said there was nothing wrong, no trauma and no redness. If you are not at ease, you can have a CT scan, but it is not recommended (because the child is fine). These are the doctor's exact words. We are relieved to hear this. As parents, it is actually very difficult to hurt children.

Finally, there is a so-called nutrition fee, which we paid to Xiao Lei and them. I made it very clear that if there is a problem, solve it face to face and don't do anything else afterwards. Xiao Lei's mother nodded at that time.

It's half past eight in the evening. Because a child at home didn't eat, we tossed about for hours. We are anxious to go back and say hello to the teacher and Xiao Zhang's mother.

The next day, Xiao Lei's mother talked nonsense in the group again, which was expected and unexpected.

In fact, the whole thing didn't rise to bullying at all. It's normal for classmates to fight. Why would that parent mislead other parents?

Later, I heard from other parents and the class teacher that no one wanted to play with this classmate at school, and his parents were not easy to get along with, which could explain his behavior and theirs. ...

The mother in this incident is very much like the father in the case of "Phantom of the Rainy Night" in "Dispatcher from Heaven" by forensic doctor Qin Ming. He unconditionally obeyed his son's will, instead of giving positive guidance.

Her connivance will eventually destroy the child. ...

This so-called love will only be the devil's Petri dish.

Handshake or tit for tat?

I remembered another thing from last year.

It happened in my brother's class, and it was also a contradiction between classmates. The protagonist is still my brother.

When I came back from school that day, I found deep scratches on my brother's face. When I asked him, I went to the teacher without telling me what was going on. The teacher probably didn't know much about the fighting between children, so he directly asked the parents who beat the children to come to me. After understanding and educating the children, the other party also apologized, so it's nothing. The children have become more and more speculative since this incident, and now they have become good friends.

Is it difficult to shake hands and make peace?

In fact, there is no deep hatred between children. If there is a little thing for parents to solve, his future may not be easy.

Educator Locke said: Everyone comes to this world like a blank sheet of paper. Then, the environment in which he lived began to color him and what kind of person he would become.

There are many parents who overindulge Xiong Haizi.

Why do some children behave like bears? They are unpopular and unruly. In fact, children know that their parents are tolerant of themselves and will cover up their mistakes. Fearless psychology is the source of their "evil"

Behind every bear Haizi, there is a bear parent who refuses to say "no".

There is a saying in Spencer's family education: parents' irresponsible excuses subtly strengthen the impression that you are right.

The idea that parents pass on to their children in doting is "Don't be afraid, mom/dad will support you", which seems to be no problem. Everyone in The Wind of Inheritance is the same, but correct education should make children understand the meaning of commitment and the cost of behavior.

Parents can support their children's days, but as for specific problems, parents should have basic thinking ability. Whether it is good or bad is actually obvious. Education is never a simple question about when to put pressure on children and when to make them understand the cost of behavior.

Do you still remember the case of Dalian 13-year-old boy killing 10-year-old girl that shocked the whole country?

Before the Sha people committed crimes, many boys committed crimes, but their parents always chose to ignore them, which eventually led to great disaster.

In the briefing, the police said that the parents were not involved and were not criminals.

A netizen hit the nail on the head:

Are you really not involved? Every day in this child's past 13 years, they have participated.

Without connivance again and again, there will be no evil deeds of children; Without their connivance, there is no cruelty that children can't care about; They had countless opportunities to correct their children's sins and teach them how to be good people and get on the right track, but they didn't know their regrets until an innocent girl gave her life.

They are not murderers, but they are more hateful than murderers.

Many parents are used to using "he is just a child, what's wrong" to excuse their children.

We can forgive children who are not sensible, but we can never forgive parents who have no responsibility and upbringing.

Everyone has a beast in his heart, and children are no exception.

It waits for an opportunity in the dark corner, and it will drag people into the abyss if it is not careful.

We must always guide him to the light with love and goodwill to avoid disaster.

Educator Homlinski once said: Every moment, when you see a child, you see yourself; When you educate your children, you educate yourself and test yourself. When parents, children are naturally right.