Love is the most sincere imitation between men and women based on certain objective material conditions and the same life ideals and interests, and it is the strongest, lasting, stable and single-minded feeling of longing for each other to become their lifelong partners. Love view is people's fundamental view and attitude towards love, which mainly includes: what is love, the essence of love, the position of love in social life and personal life, the standard of choosing a spouse, how to treat lovelorn, etc. Love is a reflection of outlook on life.
Keywords: college students, ideal, love view, outlook on life
First, the modern concept of love
(1) Love is an old and often new topic in life.
The modern concept of love is based on the premise that men and women have common ideals and goals, and on the basis of free love. It takes * * * as its own responsibility and undertakes social responsibility and moral obligation. Therefore, it has the following four characteristics: first, voluntary love, love can not be forced, men and women must first respect and care for each other on a voluntary basis, thus promoting the establishment and development of love relations. Second, third, love is mutual, compatible and complementary. No matter what personality differences exist between lovers, as long as it is not a matter of principle, they should be psychologically compatible, respect each other in real life, learn from each other, learn from each other's strengths, meet their needs and develop together. Fourth, to be firm and lasting, both men and women should maintain strong and deep feelings to ensure the stability and durability of the love relationship.
"Is a whale, I need the ocean to survive, but you are a desert, you gave me everything, I will die of thirst. Men and women, no one is right or wrong, just meet the wrong person. If you are a whale and yours is a desert, if there is no reason to get married, then even if he is good, give up and find your ocean. "
(2) Sex, ideal and responsibility are the basic elements of love.
Sex clearly distinguishes love from other emotions in the world, such as human love and friendship between friends or comrades, making love a special kind of "love"; Ideal endows love with profound connotation, which is the internal foundation of love growth; Responsibility is the sublimation of sex. At the same time, we should also take into account certain cultural traditions, social psychology and customs. We can think about it, why do you and I fall in love? Is it for fun? Is it for the feeling of love? Or because I don't know why it is attractive? Don't! Don't! A responsible love should be based on both men and women thinking about each other's lives. Responsible love always points to marriage. No matter what the final result of love is, marriage must be the benchmark and compass of love in the process of love. Therefore, the significance of love lies in its preparation stage for marriage. University is the stage when thoughts begin to mature, and it is also the time when thoughts may deviate. If a person's purpose in life is still uncertain, it seems inappropriate to start dating.
In the era of Xu Zhimo's life, Xu's poems can better highlight the author's pursuit of freedom of marriage and pure love. So often with a lot of beautiful reverie. His romance has influenced generations, but it also makes his life miserable. For the free love he believed in, he abandoned his wife and children, but in the end he failed to fulfill his sacred love. He didn't take responsibility in marriage and didn't insist in love.
His love did not make him a complete person; His love did not generate great inspiration.
Zhang Youyi, Xu Zhimo's ex-wife, a woman who loves him most but has not been loved by him, and a country woman who has been looked down upon by Xu Zhimo who has been abroad, is extremely determined and admirable. When people are obsessed with Xu Zhimo's romance, enthusiasm, infatuation and persistence, looking back, we have to admit his ruthlessness and cruelty to his original wife Zhang Youyi. Because it is an arranged marriage, I despise Zhang Youyi so much from before marriage to after marriage. Xu Zhimo's indifference to him stems from his dislike of feudal ethics. Zhang Youyi was deeply bound by the old China ethics, with a quiet and determined personality and dignified manners, and was very effective in housekeeping, raising children, taking care of her in-laws and managing money. But these advantages, in the eyes of independent poets, are ignorant and plain.
"I'm curious about how young Yi feels about not getting the same educational opportunity as Xu Zhimo. If she had the same chance, she might be different? I don't think Xu Zhimo has ever given Xiaoyi a chance. He was bad to this young musical instrument from the beginning. And never let her have a chance to speak ... "Zhang Youyi's niece said.