However, women's development is by no means empty talk. It needs to overcome all kinds of obstacles that hinder women's development, one of which is to overcome the shackles of traditional culture on women's development.
We must realize that when society changes from matriarchy to patriarchy, men have always been in the dominant position, and there has always been de facto inequality between men and women. Therefore, the social culture we are talking about now is actually a "male-centered" culture. Men are always in a position of superiority and strength, and women are always in a position of inferiority and weakness.
It is precisely because of this culture in society that there has been a strong "master-slave relationship" between "ruling" and "ruled" for thousands of years (men are "rulers" and women are "ruled"), and society has put forward the slogan of "equality between men and women", without exception at any time.
It should be said that since the liberation of New China, the status of women has never been higher than today, and our society has made great efforts to this end. However, is equality between men and women really realized?
I'm afraid no one can and no one dares to say such a big thing.
The existence of reality tells us that even in our society, there is still a long way to go before the real "equality between men and women".
The key is how to achieve "gender equality"? How to change the de facto inequality?
I think, apart from making great efforts to overcome and eliminate various objective factors that hinder women's development, as women, we can't rely on policies, we can't rely on waiting, and we can't rely solely on men's "gifts." Women should become more active, rely on their own efforts and struggle, and strive to overcome the constraints of traditional culture on their own development.
For example, under the "rule" of men for thousands of years and under the influence of "male culture", women have formed many personality characteristics of men's "admiration" and "high attention". Some are obviously weaknesses, but they are "packaged" by men with the most beautiful words, so many women accept them with a clear conscience and even deliberately let themselves develop in this direction. Therefore, I can say arbitrarily that if women don't pay attention to overcoming their own shortcomings and weaknesses, it will only be an illusion to truly realize "equality between men and women".
So, as a woman, what traditional culture should I get rid of? The author believes that for the development of women, we should strive to overcome the following three weaknesses.
First, we must have a strong motivation to achieve it.
Mencius said, "Climb the East Mountain and be small, climb Mount Tai and be smaller than the world."
Li Bai, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, said, "Dapeng rises with the wind one day and soars into Wan Li."
These poems tell us that whether a person has lofty aspirations is the premise of his success in work and career.
Moreover, it is very interesting that in the traditional culture of China, ambition is often associated with men.
For example, it has long been said that "a gentleman cleans up the world for his country, which is nothing more than a house!" (What about women? It should be' in the room'! ); It has long been said that "a man is ambitious and does everything he can." (Why isn't there a saying that "big women are ambitious in all directions"? )
It has long been said that "since ancient times, men have been outside and women have been inside, and they are too lazy to cry heroes." It seems that only women will "burst into tears" and "mother-in-law". )
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In short, in the traditional male-centered culture, the so-called division of social roles is very clear, and under the influence of this culture, women have accepted the general view that "men are the masters outside and women are the masters inside" with a clear conscience, and regard making achievements outside as a man's business and "despise" those men with a clear conscience.
Under the influence of this traditional culture, what many women lack is a career ambition. What they lack is what psychology calls achievement motivation: an internal motivation to engage in important and valuable work for social development.
Many women show many weaknesses in the following aspects because of their lack of achievement motivation.
Too proud. Many women are afraid of both failure and success, and the jobs they choose are often "challenging" with little risk, which hinders women's social success to some extent.
"Vision" is not too grand. This kind of women are easy to be satisfied with their work, and often "stop" their work after being recognized by others. For those men who have strong achievement motivation, they should not only get recognition from others, but also take power, status and reputation as their ultimate goal, and never stop until they reach their goals.
Unwilling to compete. Such women are generally willing to engage in less competitive jobs, such as teachers, nannies, nurses and so on. While men like to work as politicians and social activists. This "difference" between men and women determines that they will play different roles in the future.
Lack of initiative and self-consciousness: When such women encounter difficulties in completing their work, they have to back down, or ask the leaders for instructions or ask people around them for help, showing strong dependence.
Poor anti-interference ability: When such women are disturbed by society, they will have great emotional fluctuations and shake their original determination, so their achievement motivation is unstable and their persistence is poor.
Generally speaking, only people with high achievement motivation can achieve career success, social success and development success. Unfortunately, despite the rapid development of society, for a considerable number of women, the concept has not changed much, which has become one of the internal psychological obstacles that hinder women's own development.
Second, the lack of strong competitive spirit.
For thousands of years, the word competition seems to be a male patent.
If a man is competitive, unwilling to give up easily and likes to compete with others, that is to say, he is competitive, then people will say in a tone of praise and admiration: "This man is really manly!"
If a woman refuses to give in easily, she must fight for everything first. In front of men, she also has the momentum of never giving up until she reaches her goal, and has a spirit of wanting to defeat and overwhelm each other. People will say with a puzzled expression, "Why doesn't this woman look like a woman at all?" "What a bitch!"
It is also a competition, and there will be two completely different evaluations when it happens to men and women. What is this for?
This is probably related to the "man culture" that has dominated the society for thousands of years: that is, in order to "ensure" the dominant position of men, men are required to be tough, adventurous, enterprising and competitive; And women are required to be docile, considerate and obedient.
Under the influence of this "social and cultural atmosphere", women's character is becoming more and more feminine: delicate feelings, soft words and gentle movements. ...
Look at how psychologists describe the characteristics of women: "Women are delicate and sentimental by nature; Women obey and act on instinct; Women are enthusiastic and compassionate; Women care about specific things and are fickle; Women are more cautious and correspondingly more elegant; Women are diligent and unremitting, without losing their gentleness; They are frank and aboveboard. "
Therefore, under the norms of this socially recognized cultural atmosphere, women become more and more obedient in front of men, leaders and the public, and "three obedience and four virtues" has become a virtue of women. Even today in the 1990s, people dare not say that the remnants of this feudal culture have been eliminated.
As a result, in this social and cultural atmosphere, women are becoming more and more conservative, less and less afraid to "rush", even dare not say "no" in public, let alone "compete" with men.
Due to the lack of competitive spirit, women have missed many opportunities for their own development and training their talents. Their intelligence has not been developed, and women's vitality has never been shown like that of men. ...
Due to the lack of competitive spirit, their social status can only be subordinate, and in a sense, their development can only be arranged by the strong. ...
Why should we stipulate that women account for a certain proportion in the election of party and government officials at all levels? One of the reasons is that women are timid and inferior, and dare not compete with men.
Therefore, in a sense, in order to achieve real equality between men and women, as women, we should be a little aggressive and dare to speak a little, because only in this way can we cheer ourselves up, strive for progress and promote our better development. Therefore, in order to truly achieve "equality between men and women", women's personality characteristics should have more competitive spirit, and they should consciously cultivate and develop competitive spirit from an early age.
Of course, from the perspective of the "big culture" of society, we should also be more tolerant and stop demanding women with "feminine" norms.
Third, the lack of power consciousness.
At first glance, the sentence "women should be more power-conscious" is a bit harsh, because it does not conform to the national conditions and is not used to it.
If we put it another way, it is expressed in "modern language", such as "I hope women have more awareness of social participation", then people will feel "civilized".
But on closer examination, the two concepts of "a little more power consciousness" and "a little more social participation consciousness" have something in common. Moreover, in the sense of accelerating the realization of equality between men and women, the expression of "a little more power consciousness" seems to be more vivid, which can better reflect women's own weaknesses and realize the historical mission of equality between men and women faster.
The so-called power consciousness refers to consciously influencing others' abilities or desires through the implementation of certain means. From the psychological point of view, it is not a man's patent, but a desire for power, which is one of many basic social motives of human beings. Therefore, for women, power consciousness is by no means a forbidden area, let alone a big word. Women can also want to be and should be able to be politicians, strategists, social activists and entrepreneurs. ...
Therefore, as modern women, they should strive to break the outdated concept. The idea is that "power seems to be only a man's patent", it seems that only men can talk about "power desire", and it seems that only men can be this official or that official.
Therefore, as contemporary women, we should also actively change the cultural atmosphere of society and reshape women's personality. Because since men "seized power" from women, they have always been dominated by men, thus forming a social culture suitable for men's rule. In the unwritten "dogma" that men should be like men and women should be like women, women are required to be docile, obedient and considerate, while men are required to be firm, strong and decisive.