What people do, self-confidence is the guarantee of success. But overconfidence may manifest itself as conceit.
"A confident person can turn smallness into greatness and mediocrity into magic."
Seiji Ozawa is a world-famous symphony conductor. In the final of a world-class conductor competition, he played according to the score given by the jury, and keenly found the discordant voice. At first, he thought the band had made a mistake, so he stopped to play again, but it was still wrong. He thinks there is something wrong with music. At this time, the composer present and the authority of the jury insisted that there was absolutely no problem with the score, but he was wrong. Facing a lot of music masters and authorities, he thought over and over again, and finally said firmly and loudly, "No! There must be something wrong with the score! " As soon as his voice fell, the judges on the bench immediately stood up and gave him warm applause to congratulate him on winning the game.
It turns out that this is a "trap" carefully designed by the judges to test whether the conductor can stick to his correct opinion when he finds that the score is wrong and is "denied" by the authoritative department. Although the first two conductors who participated in the final also found mistakes, they were eventually eliminated because they echoed the opinions of authoritative people. However, Seiji Ozawa won the world command contest because of his confidence.
Self-confidence, also known as self-confidence, is a psychological state in which a person believes in his own ability, that is, a psychological tendency to believe that he has the ability to achieve a set goal. Self-confidence is based on a correct understanding of oneself, a correct estimation and positive affirmation of one's own strength, an important part of self-awareness, a manifestation of mental health, and a favorable psychological condition for success in study and career. Marx put it well: "Give up on yourself, this is a poisonous snake that corrodes and devours the soul forever. It absorbs the fresh blood of the soul and injects it with the poison of world-weariness and despair. " I often instill a narcissism in my friends: if you don't like yourself first, why should you want others to like you!
Open "Ci Hai", and there are four simple words under conceit: self-reliance and self-commitment. Conceit means being too confident, looking down on others and not listening to their opinions.
During the Han Dynasty, there was a small country named Yelang in the southwest. Although it is an independent country, its territory is small, its people are few, and its products are pitiful. However, because Yelang is the largest country in the neighboring region, King Yelang, who has never been abroad, thinks that the country he rules is the largest in the world.
One day, when the king of Yelang was patrolling the border with his men, he pointed to the front and asked, "Which country is the largest here?" In order to cater to the king's wishes, the subordinate said, "Of course, it is the largest Yelang country!" " "As he walked, the king looked up at the high mountain in front of him and asked," Is there a higher mountain in the world? These people replied, "There is nothing higher than this mountain." Later, when they came to the river, the king asked again, "I think this is the longest river in the world." "The subordinates replied in unison:" Your Majesty is absolutely right. "From then on, the ignorant king believed that Yelang was the largest country in the world.
Once, the Han Dynasty sent envoys to Yelang, passing by Yelang's neighboring country, Dian Wang asked the envoys, "Which is bigger, the Han Dynasty or my country?" Hearing this, the angel was startled. He didn't expect this small country to be ignorant and think it can be compared with the Han Dynasty. But unexpectedly, the emissary later went to Yelang country. The proud and ignorant king didn't know that the country he ruled was only about the size of a county in the Han Dynasty, so he didn't even know how small he was, so he asked the messenger, Which is bigger, the Han Dynasty or my country? "
This is an idiom story of a primary school student who laughed after hearing it. However, there are still many adults immersed in the arrogance of yelang ... mourning it and angering it! Conceited people are often a little arrogant, so it may be magnificent to rule the country and level the world, but it is always difficult to become a hegemon. Xiang Yu, the leader of the peasant uprising army at the end of Qin Dynasty, claimed to be the overlord of the West Chu. Before it was decided, all the weather was sealed, which was quite the spirit that Qin Shihuang ignored the strength of Hanwang and Liu Bang and was finally defeated by him. Finally, he broke through from Gaixia to Wujiang River and committed suicide by the river.
Napoléon Bonaparte, the founder of the first French Empire; It is said that once he visited the Alps, he said, "I am taller than the Alps." How arrogant and heroic! In fact, he once conquered most of Europe and fully developed French capitalism. However, his conceit made him more and more eager for foreign aggression and expansion, and finally launched a war of aggression aimed at dominating, plundering and enslaving other countries. It was this conceit that made him fail in the last battle of Waterloo and died in exile on St. Helena. Conceit is a catalyst for failure, and it has no effect on continuing to live or living better. It's a human defect! The essence of conceit is ignorance. As the saying goes, "Know yourself and know yourself", "Know yourself and know yourself".
Put aside inferiority, embrace self-confidence and be moderately conceited. In a proper range, conceit can inspire our fighting spirit, build our confidence in winning, and strengthen our belief in overcoming difficulties, so as to forge ahead bravely. However, conceit must be based on objective reality, and conceit divorced from reality will affect mental health. I hope all my friends can be optimistic, rational and tolerant of everything in life!