The world is full of red dust. It is really fate that friends can meet, get together, get to know each other, know each other and get close. It can be said that it is a kind of luck to meet, get together and meet in the life journey of people coming and going, gathering and parting, on their different life trajectories and in the hearts of different experiences. Fate is not always there, so we should cherish the hard-won fate.
Getting along between friends is a process of mutual recognition, admiration, appreciation and perception. The advantages, strong points, bright spots and aesthetic feeling of the other person will be reflected in your mind, and even a little value of friends will become your upward energy and become the driving force and source of your lifelong benefit. The wisdom, knowledge, ability and passion of friends are the magnetic force and strength that attract you close. At the same time, everything about you is also a process for friends to know and perceive you.
However, all friends develop step by step from strangers to acquaintances and then to friends. So, how to get in touch with strangers and make them friends? It's too simple to say, it's to approach each other actively. For example, at a stranger's party, by greeting each other and discussing topics of common concern, the distance between the two people naturally narrows. As soon as the chatterbox is opened, it is inevitable that you will say something to me. You will take the opportunity to ask each other and introduce yourself, so it is easy for them to become your friends or prospective friends.
1, friends thousands of miles away.
It's hard to find a bosom friend in a thousand miles, and it's easy to walk with more friends! The word "friend" is easy to say and is indeed a friend, but there are many mysteries. It's easy to be cheated if you can't figure it out. It is important to make friends with sincerity, treat each other with sincerity, and treat each other with sincerity in order to make real friends.
Friends should be honest, not duplicity, duplicity. However, after all, man is the spirit of the universe, the spirit of all things, and an extremely complex and emotional animal. People are always different, and it is inevitable that some so-called "gentlemen" will make friends with people and do hurtful things.
The ancients said that "it is indispensable to harm people's hearts, and it is indispensable to prevent people's hearts." Therefore, in the initial stage of talking with strangers, it is best to limit the topic to some breakthrough points that everyone is interested in, but don't extend the topic excessively to your privacy and family situation. So, what is the topic they are most interested in? How should I choose?
2. Look at faces and find similarities.
A person's mental state, spiritual pursuit, hobbies, etc. are all more or less manifested in their expressions, clothes, speech, manners, etc. As long as you are good at observing, you will find your similarities. Of course, this discovery must be combined with your own hobbies and interests, so that it is possible to break the silent atmosphere. Otherwise, even if similarities are found, there is nothing to say, or a sentence or two will get stuck.
3. Use dialogue to test and detect the similarity of * * *.
Two strangers value each other. In order to break the silence, it spoke first. Some people start by asking each other about their native place and identity and get information from them. Some people spy on each other by listening to their accents and words; Some start from action, while helping each other to do something that is in urgent need of help, while trying to explore with language; Some are even perfect, they can find each other's characteristics and open up the situation of oral communication.
4. Listen to the introduction and guess the same thing.
When you visit a friend's house and meet a stranger present, as a host who is familiar with both parties, you will immediately introduce them to each other, explaining their relationship with the host, their respective identities, work units, and even their personality characteristics and hobbies. A careful person can immediately find out what the other person has in common with himself from the introduction. It is important to carefully analyze and understand each other when listening to the introduction, find similarities and then extend them in the conversation, and constantly discover new topics of common concern.
5. Try to figure out the dialogue and explore the similarities.
In order to find the similarities between strangers and ourselves, we can pay attention to analyzing and pondering when people who need to communicate talk with others, or ponder each other's words when they talk with themselves, so as to find the similarities.
6, step by step, mining * * * similarities.
Finding similarities is not too difficult, but it is only needed at the initial stage of the conversation. As the conversation deepens, there will be more and more similarities. In order to make the conversation more beneficial to each other, we must dig deeper similarities step by step in order to get what we want. There are many ways to find similarities between * * * *, such as * * *' s living environment, work tasks, travel direction, living habits and so on. As long as you find out carefully, it is not difficult to break the situation that strangers have nothing to say.
7, plain as water, sober and calm.
There is an idiom in our country called "extremes meet". Exactly, everything must have a degree, which is the so-called "degree". If one thing is done too much, it will often go to the opposite side of things, and good things will become bad things. Sometimes, the development of things is often independent of someone's subjective will, and we can't force, avoid or change it. Therefore, we can only force ourselves to know it, understand it, admit it and adapt to it. Only in this way can we really get twice the result with half the effort.
Perhaps, anyone has had such an experience and feeling. They feel angry with one person or several people and get along well with each other. When they sit together, they feel warm in their hearts, always reluctant, and even close to madness. They just want to be inseparable. The closer the relationship, the better. But the ending is often a sad separation, which is likely to be a wound that is difficult to heal.
In fact, once the wound is created, No matter how good the wound is, it will inevitably leave scars. Just like the fine lines, there will always be indelible shadows. Is this because of a loss of judgment?
If they are too close to each other and too transparent, each other's defects are likely to become a cause of mutual suspicion. Just like the dust on clothes, under normal circumstances, it is very small and difficult to detect. Once you get too close, tiny particles will be like monsters, which is so uncomfortable.
In addition, everyone has some privacy, which can't be known, and always unconsciously covers up their privacy. When the relationship between the two sides is too close, it may naturally touch each other's privacy. Once the privacy is known to the other party, their self-esteem will be damaged and it is inevitable to have doubts. Suspicion is accompanied by misunderstanding, which deepens and lasts for a long time. Good friends become sworn enemies, and the loss outweighs the gain. Therefore, the pressure of making friends is as plain as water, and it is indifferent.
Friends should be clear-headed, confused and rational, unwilling to make friends, meticulous, not eager to meet new people in person, and unwilling to identify with their hobbies. They should be appropriate and moderate. You must be confused when you are confused. Don't haggle over every ounce, just find fault. You have to play dumb and turn a blind eye. Be smart when you should be smart. Don't be rash in important matters, and don't blindly follow the crowd.
Issues involving principles cannot be blindly echoed; On the issue of principle, we should be clear-headed, calmly analyze, not be a gentleman, be harmonious from top to bottom, and lose our judgment on right and wrong. We should try our best to help the righteous, but not the wicked, but pressure and resistance. When making friends, if you master "plain as water, harmonious without flowing", you can handle the relationship well and enjoy yourself.
Friends will praise you for your understanding, modesty, honesty and credibility, and your relationship is indifferent, far from it. When you are a friend, the wind comes from all directions. Exquisite in all directions, taking care of this and that, very comprehensive. Onlookers will also say that you are devoted to your friends, polite and impeccable, which will naturally make people admire and love you.
Plain as water, harmonious and not flowing, handled properly, will make you closer to your friends and friendship will last forever.