Just wrote a final paper ~ ~ online+written by myself. Please refer to. On the interpersonal relationship of contemporary college students: what do universities learn? I think, besides knowledge, the most crucial and basic thing is to cultivate one's own ability. College students should cultivate various abilities, such as interpersonal skills, innovative thinking ability, information mastery ability, learning ability and self-reliance ability. Among them, interpersonal skills are a very important aspect. When we step into the university campus from the middle school campus, we are not only facing a new environment, but also facing new challenges-staying away from our parents and taking care of our study and life at school alone. In this environment, it is particularly important to establish good interpersonal relationships with others. This is not only the guarantee for college students' normal study and life, but also the deep need for their self-development. So, what is "interpersonal relationship among college students"? Interpersonal relationship among college students is an important part of interpersonal relationship in colleges and universities, and it is a kind of interpersonal relationship formed by college students in the process of study, work and life. "Interpersonal relationship" refers to a kind of psychological and social connection formed by mutual influence in the process of people's interaction. It is a direct, indirect, perceptual and psychological relationship between people in a certain social group. The interpersonal relationship of college students consists of three psychological components: cognition, emotion and behavior. First of all, the cognitive component reflects the individual understanding of interpersonal relationships among college students, is the result of interpersonal relationship perception, and is the basis for the formation, development and change of interpersonal relationships. Secondly, the emotional component is the degree of emotional satisfaction and the relationship between the two sides, and it is an experience related to people's communication needs, reflecting the degree of satisfaction with the current communication situation. Thirdly, behavioral components refer to the explicit behaviors of both parties in college students' communication, such as language, gestures, manners, manners, expressions and other behavioral factors that express personality and convey information. It is a means and form of communication to establish and develop interpersonal relationships. University is our last stop to the society. Cultivating good interpersonal skills can not only help college students to deal with their relationships with classmates and teachers smoothly, but also make long-term preparations for life. Marx, the great revolutionary teacher, once said: "Man is the sum of various social relations, and everyone does not exist in isolation, but must exist in various social relations." How to deal with these relationships and how to improve the quality of life involves the issue of social skills. Contemporary college students in adolescence are active, energetic and have a wide range of interests, so our demand for interpersonal communication is extremely urgent. We try to get to know the world through interpersonal communication and gain friendship to meet our material and spiritual needs. But in the process of communication, there are often two situations: smooth or not. If the communication is smooth, you will feel comfortable and healthy; If communication is frustrated, it will make you depressed, physically and mentally damaged, leading to various adverse consequences. These situations are very common in the life of college students. In fact, college students decide their communication needs from the moment they enter school. Good interpersonal skills and good interpersonal relationships are the necessary conditions for its survival and development. Establishing good interpersonal relationships and forming a United, friendly and energetic campus environment will be beneficial to the formation and development of college students' healthy personality. This is especially true in today's society where the pace of life is accelerating and the competition is fierce. Then, what is the specific significance for us college students to establish good interpersonal relationships with others and achieve better interpersonal communication? I think there are mainly the following points. 1. Harmonious interpersonal atmosphere is the basis for college students to successfully complete their studies. 2. Society is not abstract, but woven by concrete people and their interactions. For college students, get along well with classmates and teachers around them and create a good study and life atmosphere for themselves, so as to reduce their troubles, be happy physically and mentally, concentrate on their studies and successfully complete their studies. Good interpersonal relationship will make you feel happy. 4. Good interpersonal and communication skills are conducive to cultivating college students' healthy psychology. 5. Harmonious and intimate interpersonal relationship is beneficial to health, especially in the rehabilitation stage after operation. 6. Good interpersonal and communication skills are essential qualities for college students to succeed in their future career. 7. Good interpersonal and communication skills will help college students to have a happy family life in the future. However, reality is often far from ideal. To sum up, in interpersonal communication, we often have the following problems: egocentrism, self-isolation, social utility, suspicion and jealousy, loyalty in Jianghu, and there are many reasons for these problems, such as selfish personality, lack of quality education, negative impact of market economy, and so on. Therefore, we often worry about how to communicate with people better. In this regard, I have the following suggestions: 1 Communicate with others on an equal footing and respect others. "Equality" here mainly refers to the equality of attitudes of both sides, because the relationship between people is equal. In the process of communication, you must not feel superior to others because of the objective differences of your classmates' origins, families, experiences and looks, let alone show special respect to others. Instead, we should correctly evaluate ourselves and respect the self-esteem and feelings of others, which is the basis of interpersonal communication. 2. Open-minded and good at accepting others. Don't waste time praising others. But you should be careful not to exaggerate blindly, which will give people a false feeling and lose others' trust in you. Open-minded, dare to admit your shortcomings or mistakes, but don't sell yourself short. 4. Think of others everywhere and avoid being self-centered. When others encounter difficulties and setbacks, we should be able to lend them a helping hand. In this way, others will be willing to help you if you encounter any difficulties in the future. In this way, both sides have realized mutual care and mutual benefit. 5. Be sincere and open-minded. Sincerity is a bridge between people. Only when the two sides treat each other with sincerity can they build trust and forge a profound friendship. To adhere to the principle of sincerity, we must have enthusiasm and love, sincerely help others without expecting anything in return, and sincerely criticize friends' shortcomings and defects. Seeking truth from facts about people and things, being able to express one's opinions on different points of view without duplicity, neither boasting to one's face nor slandering behind his back, and being sincere and frank with others. 6. Pay attention to credit. Tell the truth and do what you say; Be punctual for appointments, return things on time, be suspicious, and make promises easily, which makes people happy; No matter how difficult the promised thing is, we should try our best to do it and spare no effort. If repeated efforts fail. You should explain your reasons sincerely, and you can't have the idea of "making do" or "coping". 7. Be tolerant of others. Don't haggle over every ounce in communication, but be modest, generous, restrained and patient, regardless of the attitude and words of the other party, be brave enough to be responsible for your actions, so that "the prime minister can punt in his stomach." 8. Adhere to the principle of good faith. That is to cultivate correct and healthy interpersonal skills and create an interpersonal atmosphere of mutual learning, unity and friendship and harmonious coexistence. Never engage in cliques, fair-weather friends, unprincipled and unhealthy interpersonal communication. 9. If you want to do a good job, you must learn to cooperate with others. After you make achievements, you should learn to share them with others, avoid showing off yourself everywhere, and take everyone's achievements as your own. 10, we should master some communication skills properly. For example, learn to make friends with people, learn to express to people, learn to listen to people, learn to deal with communication contradictions, and so on. ..... In short, with the increasing competitive pressure in modern society, people's psychological pressure is also increasing, interpersonal communication has become a problem that people pay more and more attention to, and even become a science, especially the interpersonal communication and interpersonal relationship handling of college students has also received great attention. For the sake of health and happiness, the success of career, the perfection of personality, the improvement of our quality of life, and the growth and progress in our future work and life, contemporary college students should learn to get along with others, learn to be self-respecting but not arrogant, honest but not reckless, modest but not hypocritical, cautious but not cautious, sophisticated but not smooth, brave but not reckless, easy-going but not cowardly, so as to establish and develop good interpersonal relationships.